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When your partner has BPD.

Episode #540 — February 28, 2017


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A woman's 61 year-old father confided that he has discovered kink. Should she help to connect him to kink resources when she herself is vanilla, and also...his daughter?

A man worries that his attraction to East-Indian women might be racist. Dan helps unpack the complicated issues around attraction to specific races.

On the Magnum, Dan talks with Randi Kreger, author and expert on Borderline Personality Disorder about dating someone with this unpleasant condition.

And, all hail the Cuck-Queen! Dan chats with a woman who gets off on her husband sleeping with other women. Dan instructs her on the alchemical art of turning jealousy into lust.

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This episode of the Savage Lovecast is also brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage.

Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron. the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to BlueApron.com/Savage.

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