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When your partner has BPD.

Episode #540 — February 28, 2017


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A woman's 61 year-old father confided that he has discovered kink. Should she help to connect him to kink resources when she herself is vanilla, and also...his daughter?

A man worries that his attraction to East-Indian women might be racist. Dan helps unpack the complicated issues around attraction to specific races.

On the Magnum, Dan talks with Randi Kreger, author and expert on Borderline Personality Disorder about dating someone with this unpleasant condition.

And, all hail the Cuck-Queen! Dan chats with a woman who gets off on her husband sleeping with other women. Dan instructs her on the alchemical art of turning jealousy into lust.

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Episode #747 — February 16, 2021

A woman has discovered she has a taste for bisexual dudes. But so many are closeted, or don't lead with their bi-ness on apps. How can she root them out?

Dan wades into drama, intrigue and subterfuge! A gay man's acquaintance has dark designs on a straight man in their life. Should the caller warn his unwitting straight friend? Or stay out of i...Read More

Jon Ronson on porn and cancel culture.

Episode #746 — February 9, 2021

In the intro: You wanted to hear what Dan Savage thinks of the Armie Hammer scandal? Now he will tell you.

A sugar baby had been seeing a married man for 2 years, when they fell in love. Now that there's nothing transactional going on, is it less ethical?

Finally! Dan Savage deconstructs drag. Are we allowed to enjoy it? (Spoiler: Yes, yes ...Read More

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