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When your partner has BPD.

Episode #540 — February 28, 2017


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A woman's 61 year-old father confided that he has discovered kink. Should she help to connect him to kink resources when she herself is vanilla, and also...his daughter?

A man worries that his attraction to East-Indian women might be racist. Dan helps unpack the complicated issues around attraction to specific races.

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