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When kinksters accidentally kill: a look at choking.

Episode #603 — May 15, 2018


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A white man is dating an Asian man and tends to be attracted to Asian men. Does this make him a rice queen? Is it racist to be a rice queen? Can he learn to feel attraction toward other races?

A straight man has a great girlfriend except for one little problem. She gives painful blowjobs with her sharp little teeth. After three long years, he's never complained. How can he explain what he likes down there?

On the Magnum, Dan speaks with clinical sexologist Damian Jacob Sendler, about lethal asphyxiation. How can kinksters take the "lethal" out of that term? Are they prosecuted differently than other murderers? Yikes!

And, a man with staggeringly high libido (12 times per day sounds about right to him) is in a monogamous long-term relationship. What could go wrong?

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