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Episode #628 — November 6, 2018


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A woman has been with her fiancé for 4 years. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, he's started moaning and groaning in bed like a porn starlet. Why the sudden vocalizations? IS HE CHEATING ON HER?

An asexual, non-binary person feels like an invader when they show up at BDSM parties. Is it alright to join that community when you are uninterested in sex?

On the Magnum, we are delighted to welcome back author, sex educator and bitter podcasting rival Tristan Taormino. She and Dan discuss strap-ons, and how to peg your partner real good.

Two HIV negative gay men have been together for 5 years. They started acting out role-play scenes where one infects the other. It's been super hot, but the caller is uncomfortable even pretending such a thing. He is old enough to remember the worst days of AIDs. Is this role play ok? Or a thought crime?

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