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Kink by Gender, with Dr. Justin Lehmiller.

Episode #673 — September 17, 2019


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A married woman has just hosted her mother-in-law in their small apartment. After seeing her husband and his mother interact, she just doesn't fell like having any sex at all. How can she clear out the in-law vibes?

Morning! A woman emerges from sleep in the full throes of an orgasm. But her dream was mundane and not even close to sexy. What in god's name is going on here?

On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lehmiller of the Kinsey Institute about whether men and women are equally kinky.

And, a young man wants to ask out a bunch of women at work. What is the best approach?

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