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Ask a Mortician!

Episode #725 — September 15, 2020

A woman was babysitting her neighbor's 3 year-old daughter. The girl took her clothes off and started touching herself. Should the caller say something to the parents? Is this behavior a red flag for abuse? Or is this just how the 3 year-olds roll? A man with a very girthy penis can't come without extended penis-in-vagina action. But sometimes his ladies can't handle it. He started faking his orgasms. Any other solutions here? On the Magnum version of the show, Caitlin Doughty (host of Ask a Mortician on YouTube,) is on to discuss how the pandemic is changing the way we handle funerals, grieving and possible positive changes in the death industry. She is the most charming goth mortician you'll ever encounter. And, in the response calls, our ever-pragmatic listeners offer great suggestions on how to make a bed work for three people.
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With Caitlin Doughty and Roxane Gay

Episode #591 — February 20, 2018

A gay man's boyfriend insists on showering just before sex, every single time. But the caller likes a little funk! How can they reconcile this fundamental difference. Dan's answer is sneaky. Don't be alarmed, but one of this week's questions requires the expertise of a mortician. On the Magnum, Dan enlists New York Times rival columnist Roxane Gay for a Second Opinion on some folks who got dumped, and can't deal. Also, hear the tale of the man and his very, very rich employer- a petty woman who doesn't hesitate snub and insult his girlfriend.
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The LIVE Valentine's Day Show!

Episode #382 — February 18, 2014

It's the LIVE Valentine's Day show, taped at Seattle's Neptune Theatre. The theme was sex and death, (a.k.a "Coming and Going.") With special guests Caitlin Doughty from "Ask a Mortician," comedian Kristine Levine and musical guests the Wet Spots. This show is fantastic and you simply mustn't miss it. The Magnum version features Kristine Levine's hilarious and heartbreaking tale of working in a porn shop when one of the customers dies. Also hear a second set by the Wet Spots, and you're going to want to, because they are truly amazing. 206-201-2720
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Dan and the mortician talk about DEATH.

Episode #366 — October 29, 2013

This week Dan talks sex and death with Caitlin Doughty of Ask a Mortician. Spooky! Dan also chats with Dr. Sydnee and Justin McElroy of the Sawbones podcast about "treatments" for STi's in medical history including huffing mercury, injecting liquid silver and squashing anal warts between stones. Also, mummies with crabs. Scary! And, a woman is having premarital sex. That's sex BEFORE she gets married. Her mother feels nothing but horror. Eeeeeeeee! Happy Halloween, ghouls.
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Face-eating zombies, infested snacks, and buckets and buckets of blood! It's the Lovecast Halloween show, featuring true tales of sex-related horror. Plus an interview with Caitlin Doughty of Ask a Mortician. Listen only if you dare.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com.Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG500 at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage11 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. Do check out Caitlin's wonderful YouTube series here. And here's her  It Gets Better video.
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