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Is it common for straight men to be "secretly into dick?" Because that's what this woman's boyfriend is. A transwoman got together with a guy in a dungeon. But she forgot to tell him that she is trans. Her lover told her it would be wise to reveal this detail early on. Should she? Must she? On the Magnum, a middle-aged woman is too damn horny. Dan brings on the ever-helpful Dr. Debby Herbenick to see if there's a medical cause or source of relief. And, a "poly-minded" man is only poly-minded when he's the one who gets to shtup other people. He's aware of the hypocrisy. How can he get over it?
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A lesbian is a divorcée at age 20. How can she tell her future girlfriends that she had spectacularly bad judgement when she was of a tender age? Hey everyone! Meet Jason, the offended gay Christian! He wishes Dan wouldn't be so derisive of religion. Dan has an answer for him. On the Magnum, a caller is studying to become a sexuality professor. This makes her dates FREAK THE FUCK OUT. Dan brings on an actual sexuality professor -Dr. Debby Herbenick- to address how she dealt with her dating life. And, what should you do when you discover your best friend's new date is on the sex offender registry? (Besides call us.)
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Dr. Debby Herbenick on ANXIETY ORGASMS.

Episode #491 — March 22, 2016

A straight man has begun a relationship with a transwoman. To put his question bluntly, is he obligated to suck her dick? How on earth is a nice gay man supposed to deal with his father when dad has sworn to vote for Donald Trump? A woman is horrified to see boudoir paintings of her boyfriend’s ex staring at her from the walls. Does she have the right to ask him to take them down? On the Magnum, a woman gets turned on when she experiences anxiety. She even had a couple orgasms in the airport when she missed her flight. Dr. Debby Herbenick chats with Dan about this phenomenon and how to harness such a dark power. 206-302-2064 Hey, are you still reading this? We are putting together a special sex toys episode with lots of experts. If you have a question relating to dildos, restraints, vibrators and the like, NOW IS THE TIME TO CALL. Like right now.
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Second Opinion with Dr. Debby Herbenick.

Episode #470 — October 27, 2015

In the opening rant, Dan finally opens up and tells us what he *really* thinks of the Catholic Church. Hear the strange and seedy tale of a male lap dance gone horribly wrong. On the Magnum, Dan chats with RIVAL sex advice podcaster Dr. Debby Herbenick about PReP for women and condom aversion for ladies. And, your amazing, supportive calls to the 20 year-old lesbian from last week who feels trapped with her unkind family. You guys are the best. Donate! To the following organizations: Ali Forney Center: www.aliforneycenter.org Lucie’s Place: www.luciesplace.org The True Colors Fund: https://truecolorsfund.org Albert Kennedy Trust: www.akt.org.uk 206-302-2064
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The Vibrator Addiction Epidemic has hit!

Episode #412 — September 16, 2014

Hey Dan Savage! What do you think about waiting to have sex until marriage? Dan? Good idea? A woman enjoys sharing naked photos of herself. Her friends warn her against it. But it gets her off, so why should she listen to them? On the Magnum, we welcome Debby Herbenick to discuss the vibrator addiction epidemic plaguing ladies across the land. And, a ton of kind, thoughtful responses from our listeners to the lass who was trapped in a hot & cold relationship with a cold-blooded sociopath. This is not to be missed. You listeners are some kind of wonderful.
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Premature ejaculation: You needn't freak out.

Episode #396 — May 27, 2014

A woman notices that her gay friend is dating younger and younger guys. At what point does young become too young? A bisexual woman feels stifled in her marriage because she misses ladies. Does this spell inevitable ruin? On the Magnum, Dan and Dr. Debby Herbenick discuss premature ejaculation and why it doesn't have to be the end of the world. Also, a public service announcement from a miffed college professor. And more...
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Tales of open relationships gone horribly wrong.

Episode #342 — May 14, 2013

Tales of open relationships gone bad. Is it so wrong to move in with your boyfriend to save on rent? Also, is it against the rules of matrimony to not serve cake at a wedding? Plus on the Magnum show, Dan speaks with sexual health educator Debby Herbenick about lube and ladies and Vibrator Addiction Syndrome. Also Dan drags his older brother on to talk about how they tormented each other as children. And a lot more.
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Do you know what a "'bater" is? A 'bater only wants to masturbate. No sex. Now, now would a relationship between a 'bater and a sex-loving fella work out, you think?  A bride-to-be enlists Dan's advice on how to bring her rape fantasy to life on their honeymoon.  A woman has sex-crippling vaginal pain. Dan speaks with human sexuality expert Dr. Debby Herbenick on what she can do.  And more.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.  Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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We begin our podcast with arguably the sleaziest caller we've ever encountered. It really has to be heard to be believed.  How can you help a friend when she's hung up on a psycho?  To aid a man who's wife has no libido whatsoever, Dan enlists the help of human sexuality expert, scientist, author and the generally convivial Dr. Debby Herbenick. And Dan speaks with mighty Washington state Senator Ed Murray on the strategy for winning gay marriage rights.  And win, we will. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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A son is more than a little jealous that his dad has multiple orgasms, and prays that perhaps it's genetic? Research scientist and hymen expert Debby Herbenick confirms that *spoiler alert* the hymen does indeed exist. You think you got it bad? At least YOU have a rectum… And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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