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Is polyamory still cancelled?

Episode #727 — September 29, 2020

Some rando started following a woman on Insta. He confessed that he jerks off to her yoga photos. She told him she would have to charge him a fee for this. He agreed. The question is... how much? A woman Googled her dad. What did she find? She found videos of women in bathing suits. If you Googled her dad, you would see this. Should she tell her dad? Good lord, how? On the Magnum, let's talk about anal prolapse, shall we? Because it's so sexy! Tristan Taormino, author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, talks about ways to mitigate this common problem. She and Dan also revisit the question of whether polyamory is cancelled in the time of Covid-19. And, when you think your mom is cool with you being gay, but then re-posts some Trumpy nonsense, should you try to educate her?
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Monogamy is looking pretty good!

Episode #701 — March 31, 2020

Just when you thought you understood the world, Dan chats with open relationships guru Tristan Taormino, to tell you to CLOSE IT UP. Monogamy is where it's at these days. Just for a while. A woman in a long distance relationship is trying to embrace video sex. But she worries that she doesn't look sexy when she's truly pleasuring herself. How can she learn to do the "performance" of video sex, and still get off? On the Magnum, Dan calls up Searah Deysach from the feminist sex-toy store Early to Bed, to talk about "sleeves." What are they? What are those bumps? Where can I get me one? And, a lesbian decided not to respond to a trans woman on a dating app. Does this make her a transphobic monster? 206-302-2064
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Strap it on... with Tristan Taormino!

Episode #628 — November 6, 2018

A woman has been with her fiancé for 4 years. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, he's started moaning and groaning in bed like a porn starlet. Why the sudden vocalizations? IS HE CHEATING ON HER? An asexual, non-binary person feels like an invader when they show up at BDSM parties. Is it alright to join that community when you are uninterested in sex? On the Magnum, we are delighted to welcome back author, sex educator and bitter podcasting rival Tristan Taormino. She and Dan discuss strap-ons, and how to peg your partner real good. Two HIV negative gay men have been together for 5 years. They started acting out role-play scenes where one infects the other. It's been super hot, but the caller is uncomfortable even pretending such a thing. He is old enough to remember the worst days of AIDs. Is this role play ok? Or a thought crime? Do whatchoo wanna. 206-302-2064
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Tristan Taormino on reclaiming your ass.

Episode #455 — July 14, 2015

An opening rant on Zachery Anderson, who was unfairly imprisoned and put on the sex offenders registry, because an uptight judge wants you to know that hook-up apps are terribly naughty. A man wonders if he should personally confront a guy he knows who creeps on women. On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and rival advice columnist Tristan Taormino about reclaiming the pleasure of anal sex after an assault. And, hear the tale of the strangest job a housecleaner has ever been offered. 206-201-2720
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It seems like everyone is angry at the gays.

Episode #333 — March 13, 2013

It seems like everyone is angry at the gays. Hear the super-sad tale of a father outed and then hated by his own daughter. But she doesn't hate him too much to accept his financial aid... And, 4 years after proposing on the top of the Eiffel Tower to his wife, a man finally comes out. His friend is furious at him. Can she get over it? Ever?  And strap on those earphones real tight. Tristan Taormino is here to talk about pegging.  Did you get that?  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at  AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Today's episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Here's Dan Savage vs. Brian Brown
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There's a lot of cheating in this episode. Through the miracle of audio, you'll experience the world through the eyes of a former cheater, an aspiring temptress and the judgmental sister of a home-wrecker.  And just to make sure you feel some feelings, Dan's rant is about guns. And there's a self-loathing pedophile in here too.  Call us up.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
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