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Help! My friend is trans!!!

Episode #411 — September 9, 2014

A woman is shocked to learn that her best friend is a trans woman. Why did she keep it secret? Should the caller feel betrayed? Hear the tale of the French maid outfit that ruined a relationship. A college lesbian is horrified to discover that her roommate is an aggressively anti-gay Christian. A woman's former rapist continues to harass her online. In both cases the archangel Dan Savage raises his mighty sword to do some smiting. We love a good smiting. 206-201-2720
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The upside of herpes...courtesy of science!

Episode #378 — January 21, 2014

A man with his dream girl, simply cannot forgive her for cheating on him at the very beginning of their relationship. What is the remedy? "Why do I like older men??!" asks a young gay man, with nearly audible hand-wringing. Boner Pills! Do they work? How? On the Magnum…Dan chats with a scientist working to pit herpes against cancer. (We think they deserve each other…) And, listen in as Dan accuses a woman of being "The sentient stove with agency who keeps burning someone." And a ton more. Tickets to the Seattle Valentine's Day show with Dan and guests are at StrangerTickets.com.
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2014 is looking just as pervy as 2013.

Episode #375 — December 31, 2013

A gal is convinced her good friend is a homo. Should she use her wiles to lure him out of the closet? A lad is good friends with a woman who admitted she has a crush on him. He doesn't feel the same way about her, but knows she would make a great life partner. Should he suggest a companionate marriage from the get-go? On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with psychologist and sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto about women's libido, and the need for variety in both genders. Also, some loud neighbors were either acting out a rape scenario, or an actual rape was taking place. Would you call the cops? Or would you just call us?
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Dan chats with the Perverted Negress.

Episode #348 — June 25, 2013

Kids today! A woman agrees to give her new lover her used panties. He then reports that his eleven-year old nephew got a hold of them and did unspeakable things with them. What kind of messed up family are we dealing with here? Another kid! Listen to this kid! She's 18, and her gay co-worker is setting up "dates" between her and his 30 year old friends to have sex with her while he watches. But lest you think he's a monster, don't worry- he's offered to provide the drugs and booze. And over on the Magnum side, a cool interview with Mollena Williams, a.k.a. "The Perverted Negress" on getting started in the kink community. And finally, Dan does what Dan does best: he talks a gay lad into demanding that his bigoted family either accept him as he is, or lose his presence at the Christmas table. And so much more, really.
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Are therapists bad for your sex life?

Episode #346 — June 11, 2013

On this week's Micro version, how should you comport yourself when you're the Dungeon Monitor, and you have to watch your ex-girlfriend be some other guy's slave? A woman with high libido drifts from sex-negative guy to sex-negative guy. Why would she do this? Dan speaks with Tom Plummer from ImmigrationEquality.org about the plight of international gay couples. On the Magnum podcast, you'll hear an interview with Dr. Marty Klein about shrinks. Are they good for your sex life? A woman wonders where her new boyfriend's balls disappeared to. A pregnant woman is dismayed that her boyfriend hasn't slowed down on his drinking and carousing even a little bit. Should he quit partying in solidarity?
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This show is for the ladies.

Episode #345 — June 4, 2013

This show is for the ladies. First Dan attempts to smash the patriarchy with his opening rant. Then he sticks up for a woman whose military husband won't fuck her. And! The magically clever and hilarious Lindy West comes forth with the female perspective on men who think your vagina is disgusting. There was a long line of women who offered their techniques for getting rid of grabby, cat-calling men. Listen in. Also, David Jay, from asexuality.org talks to Dan on how to come out as a non-sex-having person. And a lot more.
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Dan and Mistress Matisse chat about BDSM.

Episode #343 — May 21, 2013

"She wants a dom, not a dick." Gather round everyone, and listen in as Dan Savage and Mistress Matisse gab about BDSM, where kink comes from, fantasy BDSM vs. non-consensual abuse and how to meet a kinky mate. Also, hear the blow by blow account of a woman who went from her unicorn audition to opening night in a single date. Three-way etiquette tip #46: Couples- it is polite to thank your unicorn with a kind note.
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This week Dan speaks again with Slate reporter Daniel Engber now that Gilberto Valle, AKA the Cannibal Cop, has been found guilty. Sleep a little easier, ladies everywhere.  Also, how to get your lover to open up a (consensual) can of whup-ass on you, whether breast feeding fuels teenagers' erotic imaginations, and the ethical ramifications of knowing that your friend's fiancé slept with this same friend's... father.  It's complicated.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.Squarespace.com/Savage They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage3 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This podcast is also brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.
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Lesbians! Have you noticed that wherever you go you run into your lover's ex and your friends are all the same and there's only one lesbian bar in town? Thought so.  The continuum of culpability; when is infidelity a misdemeanor and when is it a felony?  When underpants = biohazard: A frolicsome lass had a super-hot time with a lad involving her underpants. Now, she wants to keep them as a memento, but worries the magic will eventually disappear or ...worse. Whatever should she do?  As always, Dan has the answer.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGGgiving at checkout. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Wasn't that a fun opening rant? Here's an idea. Go to NARAL and give them some money: www.naral.org
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A bride-to-be faces a problematic wedding guest list. Should she invite her gaggle of gay friends and let them commingle with her conservative, bigoted relatives and coworkers? Hear the complicated tale of the not-quite-out lesbian and her chattering godmother. Your fetish! It is impossible! Simply impossible! Sometimes they really are. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGGNovember at checkout. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
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