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Our silly little drug war.

Episode #434 — February 17, 2015

A married woman has lost all sex drive. Her husband is willing to let her be with other men. But the thought of her husband with another woman makes her so jealous that her mouth goes dry. Is this gonna work out ok? A straight man with a newly issued hall pass is having a hard time meeting ladies who will sleep with him because they know he's in a relationship. Why must it be this way? Why?! On the Magnum, Dan chats with author Johann Hari, on our silly little drug war, and how drug abuse results from boredom and isolation, not drug availability. And more! 206-201-2720
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A sturdy pair of panties.

Episode #410 — September 2, 2014

What do you do when your potential new roommate comes with his very own stalker? Dan chats with Dr. Vy Chu about the real risks of sleeping with honest, HIV pos guys. On the Magnum, we are delighted to bring back fashion force-of-nature Simon Doonan, to discuss the feminist implications of camel toes. And a ton more.
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When a guy uses concert tickets to entice you to spend time with him, should you accept, even if you feel no attraction? Or would that make you mercenary? A lesbian wonders how to let her potential employers know that she's gay during her job interview. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Japanese bondage trailblazer Midori, about getting what you want out of a kink relationship. Also, is the X-men character Mystique bisexual or what? And more.
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Jesse Bering on people who just LOVE animals!

Episode #402 — July 8, 2014

Dan welcomes special guest ranter Martha Plimpton to talk about Hobby Lobby. A gay male couple were locked in a pattern of cheating to get revenge on each other. Now that they've cut it out, how can they bring in some trust? On the Magnum, how much do little children remember? WIll they remember the trip to Disneyland? Will they remember their first day of kindergarten? Will they remember the home video of mommy they stumbled on where she shows her bum-bum? And, Dan chats with perversity expert Jesse Bering on people who just LOVE animals. And so much more.
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With special guest, John Corvino!

Episode #400 — June 24, 2014

A woman discovers through dubious sources that her step-mother might be cheating on her father. Dan walks her through a way to deal with this unpleasantness. A woman still living with her ex-husband and son wonders how poly people balance all those boyfriends and girlfriends. On the Magnum, Dan welcomes philosophy professor and gay marriage diplomat John Corvino to discuss ethics and the state of the gay rights movement. And more.
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Just spit in his mouth already!

Episode #377 — January 14, 2014

On this show, Dan welcomes Seth Stephens-Davidowitz from the New York Times to shed some light on how many men are actually gay in the US. A young man sure likes the idea of being gay, but only gets into relationships with women. How can he test his sexuality? On the Magnums, Dan speaks with Jesse Bering, author of Perv, on what percentage of people are truly kinky. Also, a new couple both enjoy swing dancing. But the man is consumed with jealousy. How can he get over it and watch his lady dance with every man in the room? And a lot more. Tickets to the Seattle Valentine's Day show with Dan and guests are at StrangerTickets.com.
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Do ex-girlfriends make good unicorns?

Episode #376 — January 7, 2014

Red Bull and Vodka makes him last and last and last. But is it the Red Bull or the Vodka? A man and woman want to try a three-way. Do ex-girlfriends make good unicorns? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Diana Adams, a lawyer who specializes in polyamorous families. It's the new frontier. Also, a woman wonders if she has to tell her new boyfriend about her financial troubles, and a straight man wonders how he's going to get laid when everyone thinks he's gay.
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Dating "Senior Sensitivo."

Episode #356 — August 20, 2013

"Cum Dumpster." Is this a sweet, sexy term, or just plain nasty? A straight woman in Texas feels like a nelly gay man trapped in a woman's body. How can she find her people? A woman has been using OK Cupid for 2 years and still hasn't gotten any action. So Dan chats with OK Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder on what she might be doing wrong. On the Magnum version, Dan interviews sex researcher Dr. Joye Swan on risk-taking and using the idea of monogamy as a magical shield. And more.
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Garfunkel & Oates! Squeeeee!

Episode #349 — July 2, 2013

First off, prepare yourself for the most Depressing Rant Ever. (We recorded this show well before DOMA went DOWN.) A young gay man connected with another lad on Grindr. Then he met up with a different man, at the SAME HOUSE. What tomfoolery is this? A lad and his boyfriend are planning to try out a bathhouse for the first time, and ask Dan for some basic tips. What he suggests…may shock you. And, the inimitable Garfunkel & Oates come on the show to explain a shameful evasive strategy that many women have mastered. On the Magnum side, Dan talks to a man who may have to adopt his own niece, because his brother (the baby's father) is in and out of jail. Choking! Groovy fun, or not such a good idea? Are all drag queens gay? Do they have to be? Because here's a straight woman who's attracted to them. And a ton more...
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Tales of open relationships gone horribly wrong.

Episode #342 — May 14, 2013

Tales of open relationships gone bad. Is it so wrong to move in with your boyfriend to save on rent? Also, is it against the rules of matrimony to not serve cake at a wedding? Plus on the Magnum show, Dan speaks with sexual health educator Debby Herbenick about lube and ladies and Vibrator Addiction Syndrome. Also Dan drags his older brother on to talk about how they tormented each other as children. And a lot more.
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