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Let’s just say your girlfriend gets turned on by listening to you talk to other people on the phone. Would it be so, so wrong to keep the customer service agent from Verizon on the line, just so your girlfriend can listen to you from the other room, masturbating furiously? A woman in an open marriage has started to see a woman. Her husband is fine with it. The caller is fine with it. The girlfriend is fine with it. So what’s the problem? Her friends! Her friends are NOT FINE WITH IT. Dan chats with Dr. David Frederick in a “What You Got?” about the successful strategies straight couple employ to have lasting relationships. And on the Magnum, Dan interviews the director and producer of “Give Me Sex Jesus” a documentary about the Christian Purity Movement. 206-302-2064
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With poly pioneer Allena Gabosch.

Episode #492 — March 29, 2016

The rarest of lovely creatures, a male unicorn, is ANGRY because he sees a double standard among the straight couples he joins. They reject him when they learn that he’s been with other men before them. Whaaaaaat? PSA: Couples! Treat your unicorns right, will you please? In a classic conundrum, a woman is attracted to her husband’s best friend. And Snapchat isn’t helping… On the Magnum, fall down the poly rabbit hole with Allena Gabosch, Founding Director of Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture. She and Dan discuss strategies for making polyamorous relationships work.
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Parents and their trans kids.

Episode #482 — January 19, 2016

A young woman is about to embark on a three-way with her boyfriend and another man. How can she make sure the experience isn’t demeaning? A gay man has incest fantasies. How can he find a man willing to role play a father-figure? A married woman and her husband prefer to use condoms. So why is everyone around her so smug and condescending about it? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Robert Garofalo about a father whose kid calls himself transmale, but often presents as female. They discuss the challenges parents face in keeping an open mind and an open heart as kids and teens figure themselves out. 206-302-2064
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The One-Minute Wonder Show!

Episode #476 — December 8, 2015

It’s the One-Minute Wonder Show! You asked your questions in one minute or less, and Dan tried to keep his answers brief, with diminishing success. Here’s a smattering of topics: The dangers of road head, olive oil as lube, haggling with your sex worker, tingly come, excluding dog-fuckers from your orgy and so much more. Also, Nancy gets riled up! On the Magnum, the long-suffering Dr. Barak gently explains that no, men cannot get bacterial vaginosis, and answers a requisite question about pee. 206-302-2064 Get your "GGG" and "Fuck First" coffee mugs at www.thestranger.com/savageswag
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With Parker Molloy.

Episode #475 — December 1, 2015

A man’s boyfriend went as a “slut” for Halloween. It turns out, this was a really bad idea. A woman loves getting tied up. But she also needs to touch herself to get off. So…how is this gonna work? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans writer Parker Molloy about the challenges of transitioning for both partners in a relationship. And, hear the story of a woman who enters “The Land of Pleasure.” By which she means having sex with over 30 men in one long evening. Dan chats with her about how to enjoy her gang-bang kink safely. 206-302-2064 Get your GGG and FUCK FIRST coffee mugs over at www.thestranger.com/savageswag
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Joan Price on senior lovin'.

Episode #456 — July 21, 2015

After a wedding guest sat and endured some anti-gay loony talk from a bigoted pastor, a woman wonders what she could have done better. Walk out? Audibly boo? Hear a couple of calls from women who get off on lesbian porn, and the very different reactions their boyfriends have to this unspeakable perversity. Dan welcomes Joan Price, author of Naked at Our Age, to answer some calls concerning sex for the senior set. If you’re looking for sex toys for your parents or grandparents, this show is a must. Also, hear the woeful tale of the woman whose father discovered her giving a blow job on the beach. 206-201-2720
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It's Poly Cocktail Time!

Episode #442 — April 14, 2015

Can Dan convince a young woman to accept and forgive her father for having a 9-year-long affair with a married woman? Listen in as Dan deftly navigates through the kind of theoretical quandary that only a conservative silly person could present. Dan interviews Laura Anderson about her Slate article covering the history of condoms and why they could be so much better. On the Magnum, fall down the poly rabbit hole with us, won't you? Dan chats with poly activist and lawyer Diana Adams about the rise of polyamory in our cultural awareness, and how to live the poly lifestyle, while maintaining your precious sanity. Also, don't you want to learn about "Poly Cocktails"? 206-201-2720
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Allison Moon on female ejaculation geysers.

Episode #427 — December 30, 2014

A drunken lass has intellectual crushes on her professors. How can she express her "love for their intellect?" A man is totes bummed when a date ditches him after discovering that he smokes cigarettes. Is this just what online dating is like? One condom. Three people. Does this math add up? On the Magnum, Dan chats with uber-lesbian author and sex educator Allison Moon about female ejaculation and the geyser that sometimes results. And, listen to a cavalcade of remedies for PMS! 206-201-2720
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The rich slut-shaming the poor.

Episode #406 — August 5, 2014

To start the show, Dan invites co-ranter Congressman Patrick J. Murphy to discuss why democrats treat military personnel better than the Rs. A gay man is getting cat-called by his horn-dog neighbor. How can he politely tell him to knock it off? On the Magnum, you'll hear a "What You Got" with Sociology Professor Elizabeth Armstrong, about how rich girls slut-shame poor girls on college campuses. Also, does anybody have a lead on really great Slovakian dating sites?
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Special guests Masha Gessen and Lea Delaria!

Episode #380 — February 4, 2014

This is one of our all-time favorite shows, people. Dan speaks with Russian journalist Masha Gessen, about the alarming rise of anti-gay oppression in Russia. Is it wrong or unwise to include condoms in erotic fiction? And step aside! On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with the force of nature that is Lea Delaria from "Orange is the New Black." They discuss sex with dykes, the dreaded LBD, (Lesbian Bed Death,) why lesbians like to watch gay male porn and Dan's endangered boy pussy. It's really quite something. And more. 206-201-2720
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