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With brother Bill Savage and Bailey Jay.

Episode #516 — September 13, 2016

A man is seeing a woman 12 years his senior. His friends think he's nuts, but he's having a great time. Is there something wrong here? A married man has come to realize that he is poly. His wife is still as monogamous as the day she married him. How can he get her to accept his polyamorous nature and let him sleep with lots and lots of lovely ladies? Dan chats with his smarty-pants brother Bill (an associate professor of English) on the historical roots of American anti-immigrant stupidity. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with transsexual porn star Bailey Jay about how to approach a transwoman without making her feel objectified. And so much more. 206-302-2064
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With ex-Muslim sex blogger, Elynah.

Episode #507 — July 12, 2016

A woman with Catholic in-laws tries to figure out whether she should cave in to them and get her little baby baptized. Dan’s advice…may shock you. Then, Dan chats with ex-muslim sex blogger and children's book author, Elynah about sex negativity in conservative Muslim communities. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with trans activist Parker Molloy about the problematic connection the clueless make between transwomen and drag queens. And, another marriage falls apart as a man discovers his wife textin’ and sextin’ snorting blow, lying and meeting strange men in bars. Can this one be salvaged? No, it cannot. 206-302-2064
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Dan's response to the Orlando massacre.

Episode #503 — June 14, 2016

Please listen to Dan's response to the Orlando massacre. In lighter fare... A 19 year-old bi lass worries that she’ll never get to try ladies if she stays with her monogamous-minded man…forever. Is there any hope for her? A man is about to meet a woman he’s been having phone sex with for the first time. Where he just wants to “bone down,” she’s been talking about moving to his town to start a relationship. How can he proceed with caution in this delicate situation? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Vocative writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the plight of the virtuous pedophile. Also, a man is considering sex work. So long as he keeps himself safe, is this a good idea? Dan chats with sex worker and sex worker’s rights activist Mike Crawford. 206-302-2064
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With Anna Pulley

Episode #498 — May 10, 2016

A caller wonders if super-rich people are naturally less monogamous than the rest of us. In other inane questions, exactly which, and how many of One Direction are gay? On the Magnum, Dan takes a few lesbian-oriented calls with author Anna Pulley. And, in a “What You Got?” Dan interviews Lea Seguin on the men who fake orgasms and why they would do such a thing. 206-302-2064
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Neil Steinberg on tolerance and Charlie Hebdo.

Episode #431 — January 27, 2015

On this, the week of Dan and Terry's 20th anniversary, Dan grapples with some tricky, tricky questions: At exactly what point in the dating process would it be polite to disclose that you are already in an open relationship? A woman likes to be thin. Her man prefers a more hefty physique. How can she deal with his compliments if they only come when she feels bad about herself? And, a woman's boyfriend is losing his hair, and plans to get a buzz cut. But she really likes a head of long, luxurious hair! If he won't wear a hat or a wig, is it...over? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Chicago Sun-Times columnist Neil Steinberg about tolerance in the wake of Charlie Hebdo. And, a woman's boyfriend wants to spend a wild weekend in Vegas with his buddies. Fine! But does she really have to do the three hour drive each way to take him to the goddamn airport? Both ways? 206-201-2720
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Tell me I'm Pretty.

Episode #373 — December 17, 2013

A gay man and his straight friend find their relationship has changed forever. To find out why, you'll just have to listen. Can porn kill your boner? How to deal with a creep-o co-worker. On the Magnum version, a lesbian is sick of her girlfriend being closeted. But is this specific Christmas the right time to come out to them? Speaking of secrets, a woman works at an abortion clinic. Her husband's family is ultra conservative, and anti-abortion. How long can she keep her job secret from them?
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"The Great Little Big Thing that is Sex."

Episode #340 — April 30, 2013

"Am I just his beard?" asks a woeful girlfriend. Another gal did a little snooping, and discovered that her man has a "happy endings map" of all the places he could visit that will add pleasure to his upcoming business trip. Should she freak? Over on the Magnums, drag queens in hillbilly country, and an interview with Aaron Harzler, author of Rapture Practice, on how to deal lovingly with your nutjob, conservative Christian family.
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A man's boyfriend's super-hot ex-lover is coming back to town. Should he feel jealous and insecure when they go out for drinks, or start scheming to make a three-way happen?  A man got dumped by his girlfriend. He demanded that she submit an explanation in writing. For some reason, she hasn't done this yet. Any chance they'll get back together?  And a typical question about dick-biting.  Ho hum.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter GGGJuly at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by www.Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or a blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code “Savage7” for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.
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It's the fairy dust show! Can Dan Savage reach into his man-purse, pull out a handful of pink fairy dust, sprinkle it all over your sexual problems, and cure you of whatever ails you? No he cannot. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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Seriously now. What's the most environmentally friendly way to dispose of your jiz? When encountering a man masturbating under cover of bushes in a public park, is it your responsibility to report him to the authorities? A woman is having mind blowing sex with a chronic liar. Should she just nod and smile and take the sex, or run as fast as she can in the other direction? What would you do? 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.PinkVisual.com. They innovate, you masturbate. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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