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Tracy Clark-Flory on "Involuntary Celibates."

Episode #397 — June 3, 2014

A woman is going nuts because her boyfriend insists on keeping a memento of his previous girlfriend. Is he being unreasonable, or is she the mayor of Crazytown? A straight man wonders if it's too weird to ask his martial arts partner to be his "kink buddy." On the Magnum, Dan chats with Salon writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the "Involuntary Celibates" community, and the rampant misogyny within it. Yikes! Also, meet yet another casualty in the Kissing Wars.
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THE NEW LOVECAST ALL-ACCESS PASS WILL BE AVAILABLE ON APRIL 16. Come n' get it. Bisexual erasure no more! Dan interviews Benoit Denizet-Lewis on his recent piece in the NYT Magazine. Dan councils a heart-broken lesbian with universal advice for the recently rejected. A woman's mother over-shares about her sexless marriage. What is a helpful daughter to do? And finally! Concrete, informed answers to the question of whether it is bad for a dog to lick your moisturized face. 206-201-2720
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Dad, whose panties are these?

Episode #388 — April 1, 2014

This episode is riddled with parents creeping out their kids. A man in an established open relationship is horrified to learn that his step-daughter caught him chatting with other ladies. How can he explain to her that he's playing by the rules? It gets much worse. We won't reveal all here, but let's just say that your father might be into panties. And finally in our trilogy of parental distress, how the hell do you tell your kids that your family is…special? Dan brings on poly lawyer Diana Adams to help. Over in Magnumtown... In this week's "What You Got?" Dan chats with Dr. Arielle Kuperberg about her study showing that if you marry young, you're more liable to get divorced, duh. A married man and the little lady like to go out on the town and have some sexy time. But he's not as young as he used to be, and likes to enhance the evening with Viagra. Should he tell her about the Tinkerbell pills? And finally, tattoos: Hot or not?
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KNEEL BEFORE ME, SLAVE!

Episode #384 — March 4, 2014

We are delighted to welcome back Mollena Williams, a.k.a "The Perverted Negress," to talk about the kinky men you'll meet online who start the conversation with "KNEEL BEFORE ME, SLAVE!" On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. David Ley about pornography addiction, and why the idea is overblown. Also, a drunken bi lad wonders if he should tell his girlfriend that he is a sex worker. And a lot more. 206-201-2720
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A man's boyfriend's super-hot ex-lover is coming back to town. Should he feel jealous and insecure when they go out for drinks, or start scheming to make a three-way happen?  A man got dumped by his girlfriend. He demanded that she submit an explanation in writing. For some reason, she hasn't done this yet. Any chance they'll get back together?  And a typical question about dick-biting.  Ho hum.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter GGGJuly at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by www.Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or a blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code “Savage7” for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.
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We begin our podcast with arguably the sleaziest caller we've ever encountered. It really has to be heard to be believed.  How can you help a friend when she's hung up on a psycho?  To aid a man who's wife has no libido whatsoever, Dan enlists the help of human sexuality expert, scientist, author and the generally convivial Dr. Debby Herbenick. And Dan speaks with mighty Washington state Senator Ed Murray on the strategy for winning gay marriage rights.  And win, we will. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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Lucy is back to help Dan navigate his way through questions about dicks snapping right off, living with sex addiction, and a triad of soft weenies.  Happy Thanksgiving, one and all.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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This week, Dan is joined by his animal handler, Lucy! Lucy can answer questions about shit skid marks left on couches, cheating lying girlfriends, jerk dom creeps AND do Dan's laundry with a smile. She is truly a wonder. Call us with your questions. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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It's the long-awaited episode with Mistress Matisse! Meet one of the few people who can make Dan Savage squirm. Topics covered: a sub who scares her dom's dick; "skin play"; unsexy, unwilling hostage situations; and a lot more. Faggot + dominatrix = delightful rapport. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.eXtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter "Pony" at checkout. Mistress commands you to visit her website: www.MistressMatisse.com
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A woman is married to a cruel dickhead, pure 'n' simple. Will she DTMFA? Confused Unicorn: A married bisexual is chagrined by the treatment she gets among the gays. The poignant question—is the B in LGBT silent? A woman uses the wrong pronoun to address a transsexual pal. All hell breaks loose. And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten Today's episode is brought to you by Get STD Tested. Call today for easy, reliable, and confidential STD testing: 888-387-1879
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