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When a guy uses concert tickets to entice you to spend time with him, should you accept, even if you feel no attraction? Or would that make you mercenary? A lesbian wonders how to let her potential employers know that she's gay during her job interview. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Japanese bondage trailblazer Midori, about getting what you want out of a kink relationship. Also, is the X-men character Mystique bisexual or what? And more.
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How did you lose your virginity?

Episode #391 — April 22, 2014

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How can we help homeless LGBT youth?

Episode #361 — September 24, 2013

Are young ladies allowed to call or "text" unattached, young men to ask for a date? Or would this tarnish a girl's valued reputation? A sex worker wonders if it's ethical for her to fake orgasms with her clients. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with the saintly Carl Siciliano, from NYC's Ali Forney Center, the nation's largest organization dedicated to homeless LGBT youths. (Confidential to homophobic parents everywhere: You don't really want your kid to live on the streets do you? Do you?) A bewildered straight couple wonders: In which bathroom should our nation's drag queens dwell? Fragrance. Do you have to wear it if your partner wants you to? And more.
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The Nipple Thing.

Episode #357 — August 27, 2013

Dan helps a woman determine the fine line between over-permissiveness and slut-shaming for her 14 year-old step-daughter. In more hand-wringing, a young man wants to be sure he obtains consent from his lucky ladies, but how much asking is too much asking? On the Magnum show, a woman's boyfriend enjoys a nosefull of cocaine every month or so. She hates it. Does she have the right to ask him to choose between her or his precious blow? Dan explains the finer points of slut etiquette to a lass who prefers to dash off rather than spend the night. And finally, hear the tale of the woman whose snooping revealed that her boyfriend was having an affair with his mother's secretary. Stop that snooping ya'll, lest you learn something you wish you hadn't.
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Dating "Senior Sensitivo."

Episode #356 — August 20, 2013

"Cum Dumpster." Is this a sweet, sexy term, or just plain nasty? A straight woman in Texas feels like a nelly gay man trapped in a woman's body. How can she find her people? A woman has been using OK Cupid for 2 years and still hasn't gotten any action. So Dan chats with OK Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder on what she might be doing wrong. On the Magnum version, Dan interviews sex researcher Dr. Joye Swan on risk-taking and using the idea of monogamy as a magical shield. And more.
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"I got no stake in his balls."

Episode #344 — May 28, 2013

A woman met a man in a bar and they exchanged numbers. Then she sent him some steamy, hot, erotic fiction that she wrote. About him. What's the reading on the Good Sense-O-Meter? Ladies! When creeps dish out cat-calls and unwanted touches, how do you respond? We want to hear your stories. 206-201-2720 On the potential side effects of hair loss medication, the ever prudent Dan Savage counsels "Don't gamble with your boner." And that's just the beginning! On the Magnum side… Sordid tales of video blackmail, an Australian man who won't go down (under,) yet another open relationship catastrophe and, the deliciously heart-warming tale of a woman who obligingly kicks a man in the balls. You'll feel like you were there.
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Do you know what a "'bater" is? A 'bater only wants to masturbate. No sex. Now, now would a relationship between a 'bater and a sex-loving fella work out, you think?  A bride-to-be enlists Dan's advice on how to bring her rape fantasy to life on their honeymoon.  A woman has sex-crippling vaginal pain. Dan speaks with human sexuality expert Dr. Debby Herbenick on what she can do.  And more.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.  Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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When lesbians flirt: What is a red-blooded lad to think when his lesbian pal makes goo-goo eyes at him?  Are parents today too sex-positive? Dan and sex educator Amy Lang talk about water sports among 3-year-olds and a bad place to put Legos.  And more.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter GGG2012 at checkout.  This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage   Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast Check out Anna Pulley: http://annapulley.com/ And Amy Lang: http://birdsandbeesandkids.com/
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Poor, lonely Dan, broadcasting from an empty hotel room, finds it in his heart to advise a pee-shy watersports fetishist, an insecure autofellator, and a couple of sisters who both humped their cousin. All this before room service. (But don't worry! No on-air eating!) 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast Here's the YouTube link: www.tinyurl.com/wakerob
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A crazy bitch who goes out dancing on a second date with a guy she really likes ends up making out with a completely different guy on the dance floor, and then she worries about being perceived as a "crazy bitch." "I want to do anal right," proclaims a man preparing to pleasure his girlfriend. To help field this one, Dan enlists the help of Tristan Taormino, author of "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women." A man wonders aloud if he has any recourse when his white flannel sheets get stained with menstrual blood. And more. There's always, always more. Give us more: 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage
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