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Amy Lang on talking to the children about s-e-x.

Episode #440 — March 31, 2015

Her friend's fiancé would rather enjoy congress with an unwashed blow-up doll than his betrothed. Does this spell ruin, or just a happy companionate marriage? Hear the steamy tale of the nude model, the super-hot art teacher and the things he does with his laser pointer. On the Magnum we've been saving up parenting questions for the indomitable Amy Lang, sex educator and creator of Birds + Bees + Kids, to help parents talk to their kids about s-e-x. And, Dan interviews Alison Stevenson about her article in Vice Magazine, about not giving blow jobs. http://www.vice.com/read/why-i-dont-give-blowjobs-323 206-201-2720
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Mistress Matisse throws shade on 50 Shades.

Episode #438 — March 17, 2015

The Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse. Dan and our favorite dominatrix/sex-worker rights activist talk about getting started with domination, the perils of being a sex worker and (what else?) 50 Shades of Grey. When planning a three-way with your wife and a friend of yours, how do you choose the lucky friend? And how can you minimize the awkwardness when you make the ask? On the Magnum, hear the spooky tale of a mother-in-law's mysterious vibrating couch. 206-201-2720
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Anna Sale from "Sex, Death and Money."

Episode #436 — March 3, 2015

The Lovecast welcomes Anna Sale from WNYC's "Death, Sex & Money" podcast to pick over the nuances of Dan's thinking on non-monogamy. We check in on a caller from last year who has recurring cancer, and a boyfriend who wasn't quite ready to marry her. Learn how she is doing, and whether they tied the knot. Hear the tale of yet another deflowered, "abstinence-only" Christian. (It's kind of hot…) So much. Always so much. 206-201-2720
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The triumphant return...OF LUCY!

Episode #404 — July 22, 2014

Dan and his buddy Lucy chat about spanking, cheating, pervy cousins and sleeping with the cab driver.
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When a guy uses concert tickets to entice you to spend time with him, should you accept, even if you feel no attraction? Or would that make you mercenary? A lesbian wonders how to let her potential employers know that she's gay during her job interview. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Japanese bondage trailblazer Midori, about getting what you want out of a kink relationship. Also, is the X-men character Mystique bisexual or what? And more.
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How did you lose your virginity?

Episode #391 — April 22, 2014

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How can we help homeless LGBT youth?

Episode #361 — September 24, 2013

Are young ladies allowed to call or "text" unattached, young men to ask for a date? Or would this tarnish a girl's valued reputation? A sex worker wonders if it's ethical for her to fake orgasms with her clients. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with the saintly Carl Siciliano, from NYC's Ali Forney Center, the nation's largest organization dedicated to homeless LGBT youths. (Confidential to homophobic parents everywhere: You don't really want your kid to live on the streets do you? Do you?) A bewildered straight couple wonders: In which bathroom should our nation's drag queens dwell? Fragrance. Do you have to wear it if your partner wants you to? And more.
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The Nipple Thing.

Episode #357 — August 27, 2013

Dan helps a woman determine the fine line between over-permissiveness and slut-shaming for her 14 year-old step-daughter. In more hand-wringing, a young man wants to be sure he obtains consent from his lucky ladies, but how much asking is too much asking? On the Magnum show, a woman's boyfriend enjoys a nosefull of cocaine every month or so. She hates it. Does she have the right to ask him to choose between her or his precious blow? Dan explains the finer points of slut etiquette to a lass who prefers to dash off rather than spend the night. And finally, hear the tale of the woman whose snooping revealed that her boyfriend was having an affair with his mother's secretary. Stop that snooping ya'll, lest you learn something you wish you hadn't.
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Dating "Senior Sensitivo."

Episode #356 — August 20, 2013

"Cum Dumpster." Is this a sweet, sexy term, or just plain nasty? A straight woman in Texas feels like a nelly gay man trapped in a woman's body. How can she find her people? A woman has been using OK Cupid for 2 years and still hasn't gotten any action. So Dan chats with OK Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder on what she might be doing wrong. On the Magnum version, Dan interviews sex researcher Dr. Joye Swan on risk-taking and using the idea of monogamy as a magical shield. And more.
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"I got no stake in his balls."

Episode #344 — May 28, 2013

A woman met a man in a bar and they exchanged numbers. Then she sent him some steamy, hot, erotic fiction that she wrote. About him. What's the reading on the Good Sense-O-Meter? Ladies! When creeps dish out cat-calls and unwanted touches, how do you respond? We want to hear your stories. 206-201-2720 On the potential side effects of hair loss medication, the ever prudent Dan Savage counsels "Don't gamble with your boner." And that's just the beginning! On the Magnum side… Sordid tales of video blackmail, an Australian man who won't go down (under,) yet another open relationship catastrophe and, the deliciously heart-warming tale of a woman who obligingly kicks a man in the balls. You'll feel like you were there.
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