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Cuckolding with Ben Steel.

Episode #548 — April 25, 2017

A man has been with his lady for one year. She has lost her sex drive, and asks for him to find ways to limit his libido. Should they try counseling? Meditation? Chemical castration? Or maybe there's another option... A gay man and his straight friend used to fool around together when they were children. After a long silence, the straight friend has reemerged with a proposal to resume. It's a small town. There are aren't many gay people. The guy is totally hot. Should the gay man take him up on his offer? On the Magnum, sex and relationship expert Ben Steel welcomes you to his world of cuckolding. He and Dan discuss the alchemical process for turning jealousy into a big horny turn-on. And, a treatise on nipple stimulation. 206-302-2064
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Dr. Rachel Gelman

Episode #547 — April 18, 2017

A woman's in-laws have 12 cats. They won't travel to see the caller's family (including the 2 small children,) because they can't bear to leave the mewling kitties. Are they mentally ill and is there any way to explain this behavior to the kids? A bondage-loving lass goes to clubs and gets tied up by a strictly platonic tying partner. Her boyfriend is ok with it, but feels a little spooked. How can she reassure him that what she and the tying partner do isn't sex? On the Magnum, it's our first do-over! Dan realized he cocked up the answer to the woman who would lose bladder control when she gave blow jobs. This time, Dan brings in Dr. Rachel Gelman- an actual pelvic health specialist who knows what the hell she's talking about. She lives in the UK, he in the States. He is her dom, and also her cousin. They are deeply closeted about their relationship to family and friends. So, what's the problem? 206-302-2064
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Dan's response to the Orlando massacre.

Episode #503 — June 14, 2016

Please listen to Dan's response to the Orlando massacre. In lighter fare... A 19 year-old bi lass worries that she’ll never get to try ladies if she stays with her monogamous-minded man…forever. Is there any hope for her? A man is about to meet a woman he’s been having phone sex with for the first time. Where he just wants to “bone down,” she’s been talking about moving to his town to start a relationship. How can he proceed with caution in this delicate situation? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Vocative writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the plight of the virtuous pedophile. Also, a man is considering sex work. So long as he keeps himself safe, is this a good idea? Dan chats with sex worker and sex worker’s rights activist Mike Crawford. 206-302-2064
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With AIDS activist Peter Staley.

Episode #477 — December 15, 2015

A stoned gentleman is wracked with guilt for making the dog he’s caring for stop masturbating already! (Maybe he should be hitting the indica rather than the sativa, say the TSARY.) “Virginity is obsolete as a concept,” declares this 20 year-old woman, who is seeing an 18 year-old lad with precious little experience. How can she take care of her little darling and gently guide him to the land of sexual pleasure, honoring the campsite rule? A strident feminist has found a man who can really get her off. The problem is that he is a chauvenist pig! Is it ethical to sleep with the enemy? On the Magnum, Dan and AIDS activist Peter Staley get into a dust-up over PreP and its effect on rising STD rates among gay men. (Don’t worry, they’re still friends.) Get your Savage Lovecast coffee mugs over at www.thestranger.com/savageswag 206-302-2064
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The Birth of The Pill.

Episode #473 — November 17, 2015

“Bark! Bark! Bark!” That’s what a kinky woman’s dog will say when it hears her getting spanked. She worries that this might be a problem, and so, should she maybe not get a dog? A divorced woman is sleeping with the repair man. Her ex-husband is sleeping with their children’s former nanny. Were you just complaining about your life being too complicated? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Jonathan Eig, author The Birth of the Pill. Finally, a man’s girlfriend catches him masturbating to a picture of her friend. And she’s totally cool with it. Just kidding! All hell breaks loose. And! f you really want to enter to win a horrible gun...go here: http://www.steveking.com/cruz-huckabee-jindal-and-santorum-gun-giveaway-2/
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FREE LOLITA!

Episode #467 — October 6, 2015

Dan has some helpful suggestions for the NRA! A woman saw a man exposing himself outside a family-friendly restaurant. She called the cops. Was this wrong? In order to prove that his girlfriend doesn’t put out as much as he would like, a man documents their sex life on an app. The girlfriend finds this creepy. Dear listener, do you? Rachel Percelay from Media Matters has been studying Fox News’ coverage of trans issues. She and Dan discuss what she found. And finally, Christopher Frizzelle from The Stranger talks about the amazing social/sex lives of orca whales and the plight of Lolita, an orca trapped in hell for the past 40 years. FREE LOLITA! 206-302-2064
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Duct tape, chair, vibrator...tonight.

Episode #424 — December 9, 2014

A bisexual man from a conservative Christian family had been through conversion therapy twice as a child. Strangely enough, it didn't work. He's all grown up now and coming out for real. How can he maintain a decent relationship with his "family?" A high school teacher and his entire class is horrified to see a female student masturbating in class. How can he teach her the timeless lesson that wanking in pubic is more trouble than it's worth? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with a researcher on the science of teen sexting. (Spoiler: Teens be horny.) And, a gay man is attracted to transmen. Where can he find them? And so much more. 206-201-2720
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The Brothers McElroy

Episode #421 — November 18, 2014

Wait. You haven't yet heard "My Brother, My Brother and Me?" Well, we've rectified that situation, as Dan joins forces with the McElroy Brothers for a Second Opinion on how to change your boyfriend's look, the cruel practice of "sexile" and a cold hard look at the institution of "dude's night out." On the Magnum, hear Dan try to talk some sense into a young man whose fuckbuddy is a heroin enthusiast. She's twitchin' and scratchin' but he's "leaning toward eating her pussy." Hhhhot! This is kind of one of our favorite shows. Listen in, won't you? 206-201-2720 Listen to the brothers every god-damned week at MBMBAM.com.
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How to find ethically made porn.

Episode #413 — September 23, 2014

A man's wife uses their dom/sub relationship as ammo when they are fighting out of the bedroom. And THAT AIN'T FAIR! Should it be a deal-breaker if your boyfriend doesn't like your sense of humor? (Hint: YES.) A gay man is having some complicated orgy issues. Don't we all? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Sarah Mirk- the online editor of Bitch Magazine about feminist-friendly porn; how to find it, and how to avoid the bad stuff. And more, more, more. 206-201-2720
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The Vibrator Addiction Epidemic has hit!

Episode #412 — September 16, 2014

Hey Dan Savage! What do you think about waiting to have sex until marriage? Dan? Good idea? A woman enjoys sharing naked photos of herself. Her friends warn her against it. But it gets her off, so why should she listen to them? On the Magnum, we welcome Debby Herbenick to discuss the vibrator addiction epidemic plaguing ladies across the land. And, a ton of kind, thoughtful responses from our listeners to the lass who was trapped in a hot & cold relationship with a cold-blooded sociopath. This is not to be missed. You listeners are some kind of wonderful.
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