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Dr. Rachel Gelman

Episode #547 — April 18, 2017

A woman's in-laws have 12 cats. They won't travel to see the caller's family (including the 2 small children,) because they can't bear to leave the mewling kitties. Are they mentally ill and is there any way to explain this behavior to the kids? A bondage-loving lass goes to clubs and gets tied up by a strictly platonic tying partner. Her boyfriend is ok with it, but feels a little spooked. How can she reassure him that what she and the tying partner do isn't sex? On the Magnum, it's our first do-over! Dan realized he cocked up the answer to the woman who would lose bladder control when she gave blow jobs. This time, Dan brings in Dr. Rachel Gelman- an actual pelvic health specialist who knows what the hell she's talking about. She lives in the UK, he in the States. He is her dom, and also her cousin. They are deeply closeted about their relationship to family and friends. So, what's the problem? 206-302-2064
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With Lindsey Doe from "Sexplanations."

Episode #541 — March 7, 2017

Are you, (or is someone you love) stuck in a region which refuses to teach realistic sex ed? Never fear, Lindsey Doe from the YouTube channel "Sexplanations" is here to infiltrate and educate. She's our new fave, and you will love her. She and Dan talk about explaining porn to kids, nudist households, and actionable advice to counter meds that dampen libido. Listen to this interview and then go watch all of her videos. Like, right now. What happens when a sugar daddy relationship ends? Can you go on being friends? Or are some connections meant to be severed? On the Magnum, a woman, (like Dan) kind of hates cats. And guess what her boyfriend has! He lets it sleep with him, doesn't wash his hands after petting it, and won't alter this behavior. Dan's disgust is palpable. (The tech-savvy at-risk youth didn't have the heart to explain that we all sleep and cuddle with our cats on the regular. Don't tell him!) 206-302-2064
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When your partner has BPD.

Episode #540 — February 28, 2017

A woman's 61 year-old father confided that he has discovered kink. Should she help to connect him to kink resources when she herself is vanilla, and also...his daughter? A man worries that his attraction to East-Indian women might be racist. Dan helps unpack the complicated issues around attraction to specific races. On the Magnum, Dan talks with Randi Kreger, author and expert on Borderline Personality Disorder about dating someone with this unpleasant condition. And, all hail the Cuck-Queen! Dan chats with a woman who gets off on her husband sleeping with other women. Dan instructs her on the alchemical art of turning jealousy into lust.
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With Anna Pulley

Episode #498 — May 10, 2016

A caller wonders if super-rich people are naturally less monogamous than the rest of us. In other inane questions, exactly which, and how many of One Direction are gay? On the Magnum, Dan takes a few lesbian-oriented calls with author Anna Pulley. And, in a “What You Got?” Dan interviews Lea Seguin on the men who fake orgasms and why they would do such a thing. 206-302-2064
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Families! With Ken Jennings and Brother Billy.

Episode #474 — November 24, 2015

As you gather around the Thanksgiving table to bask in the warmth and glow of your loved ones, here are some reasons you might feel thankful: Your sister’s boyfriend isn’t beating her up, your wife isn’t a transphobic Russian, your boyfriend’s father doesn’t beat him up, your mother isn’t a toxic evil mess and your step-father (who is also your boss,) doesn’t kick your dog. If any of these things are true for you, well then this show will offer company for your misery. It’s the Families Show! Also, the preternaturally delightful Ken Jennings, 74-time winner of Jeopardy!, for heaven’s sake, explains how he can reconcile his big, big brain with his Mormon faith. And, on the Magnum, Dan breaks some disturbing news to his big brother Billy. Listen in, won’t you? 206-302-2064
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All hail Kate Bornstein!

Episode #466 — September 29, 2015

A woman who identified as lesbian of 15 years (with a wife even,) has taken a younger, male lover. So, how is this gonna work? A man’s girlfriend insists that if and when they have kids, he will have to go through “labor simulation.” He thinks this is batty. But what does Dan Savage think? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans luminary Kate Bornstein about words vs slurs, the Caitlyn Jenner effect and Kate’s deep, dark past with Scientology. 206-302-2064
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Joan Price on senior lovin'.

Episode #456 — July 21, 2015

After a wedding guest sat and endured some anti-gay loony talk from a bigoted pastor, a woman wonders what she could have done better. Walk out? Audibly boo? Hear a couple of calls from women who get off on lesbian porn, and the very different reactions their boyfriends have to this unspeakable perversity. Dan welcomes Joan Price, author of Naked at Our Age, to answer some calls concerning sex for the senior set. If you’re looking for sex toys for your parents or grandparents, this show is a must. Also, hear the woeful tale of the woman whose father discovered her giving a blow job on the beach. 206-201-2720
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Don't believe the female viagra hype.

Episode #451 — June 16, 2015

A divorced single mother can’t seem to get it through her lovers’ heads that she just wants casual relationships. How can she convince them that there’s no ring required? A woman’s mouth is dick Kryptonite! Her boyfriend’s penis always goes soft when she tries to go down. What on earth is she doing wrong? On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and bioethics professor Alice Dreger as well as documentarian Liz Canner, who created Orgasm Inc, about the hype and general scumminess surrounding the new “Female viagra”- flibanserin. And tons more. 206-201-2720
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Dating and disclosure with bipolar disorder.

Episode #393 — May 6, 2014

He grew up conservative and Christian. Now that he's over it, he's dating an awesome lass. But she likes to talk about sex, and he's still shy and giggly about it. A woman and her husband have embarked on a long-distance, open relationship. But that doesn't mean she wants to hear every damn thing about the girls he's yakking with on Chat Roulette. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Ellen Forney, creator of the amazing graphic novel "Marbles" about dating and disclosure when you have bipolar disorder. And finally, arguably one of the oddest calls we've ever gotten from a man whose son is caught looking at…well, what he's caught looking at may SHOCK YOU. And so much more. 206-201-2720
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Season 16 approaches! The new season will start on October 22. Be sure to come back here then, to renew or or subscribe for the first time. A maligned man is stigmatized among his social circle for having herpes. A closeted bi woman wonders if she should stop slapping the asses of the rest of the ladies on her team in the showers. Rowwwrrrrr. A 20 year old lesbian has a great relationship…when they see each other. When they communicate online, they rip each other apart. On the Magnums, a happily childless woman is tormented by her relatives who ask her over and over, "WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO HAVE KIDS?" Is there a delicate way to suggest your boyfriend wear a smaller sized condom? Finally, hear the amazing dramatic reenactment of a man going pee. Because he really, really likes to go pee.
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