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With Mistress Matisse

Episode #461 — August 25, 2015

Pee drinking in the UK: How common is it? Do mates drink each other’s urine routinely, or do they have to kind of know each other a little better? A tale for the vault, folks. How should you handle a nasty blabbing co-worker who tells everyone that you have herpes? On the Magnum, slaves, Mistress Matisse joins us in the studio (on the 23rd floor of the Washington Mutual Building overlooking the beautiful Puget Sound,) to discuss the sex workers’ rights movement and also how to overpower your willing sub. If, by some freak of life circumstances you haven’t yet heard Mistress Matisse, you simply must tune in, so hard does she rock. Also, If you are the godmother to your best friend’s child, and you are also a swinger, are you honor-bound to disclose this to your friend? And more. 206-302-2064
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Jason Schwartzman in the house.

Episode #452 — June 23, 2015

OMG it’s actual movie star famous guy celebrity JASON SCHWARTZMAN. And guess what? He’s clever, funny and super-nice. He and Dan talk about his new movie The Overnight, swinging, swastika tattoos (spoiler: he’s against them,) controlling mothers, and the famous people you want to sleep with. Don’t miss it. There’s some on the micro, and more on the Magnum. Also, a man’s new boyfriend has the same name of a former abuser of his. How can he get over the horrible association? And, how can an experimenting bisexual lass get “lesbian society” to take her seriously? And more! 206-201-2720
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Neil Steinberg on tolerance and Charlie Hebdo.

Episode #431 — January 27, 2015

On this, the week of Dan and Terry's 20th anniversary, Dan grapples with some tricky, tricky questions: At exactly what point in the dating process would it be polite to disclose that you are already in an open relationship? A woman likes to be thin. Her man prefers a more hefty physique. How can she deal with his compliments if they only come when she feels bad about herself? And, a woman's boyfriend is losing his hair, and plans to get a buzz cut. But she really likes a head of long, luxurious hair! If he won't wear a hat or a wig, is it...over? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Chicago Sun-Times columnist Neil Steinberg about tolerance in the wake of Charlie Hebdo. And, a woman's boyfriend wants to spend a wild weekend in Vegas with his buddies. Fine! But does she really have to do the three hour drive each way to take him to the goddamn airport? Both ways? 206-201-2720
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Female Ejaculate Study-Debunked!

Episode #430 — January 20, 2015

It's the Getting-Women-to-Come show! Sometimes ladies can't come and want to. Sometimes ladies can't come and they don't want to. Sometimes ladies can come just fine. Dan sure talks a lot about female orgasms on this show, considering he's never been near one. Bad Science Alert! Female Ejaculate: Is it pee? Dan speaks with fearless blogger Amy Luna Manderino about some annoying hyperventilation in response to a recent study on squirting. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Cooper Beckett from the Life on the Swingset podcast about the joys and perils of swinging. And finally, a new image will spring to mind when you hear "She's smokin' hot!!" 206-201-2720
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Recovering your sexuality after rape.

Episode #420 — November 11, 2014

This week Dan speaks with Janet Yassen, founder of the Boston Area Rape Crisis Center about recovering your sexuality after a sexual assault. A father struggles to explain an affair to his 12 year-old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan dishes with Dan Pashman, host of WNYC's "The Sporkful" on the connection between food, sex, and general deliciousness. And, does the HPV vaccine really work? The answer is yes. But in case you are still skeptical, Dan brings on an expert to confirm. 206-201-2720 Get tickets to our Christmas Extravaganza!! December 5, at Seattle's Neptune Theatre: www.TheStranger.com/LovecastChristmas
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Special guests Masha Gessen and Lea Delaria!

Episode #380 — February 4, 2014

This is one of our all-time favorite shows, people. Dan speaks with Russian journalist Masha Gessen, about the alarming rise of anti-gay oppression in Russia. Is it wrong or unwise to include condoms in erotic fiction? And step aside! On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with the force of nature that is Lea Delaria from "Orange is the New Black." They discuss sex with dykes, the dreaded LBD, (Lesbian Bed Death,) why lesbians like to watch gay male porn and Dan's endangered boy pussy. It's really quite something. And more. 206-201-2720
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Are therapists bad for your sex life?

Episode #346 — June 11, 2013

On this week's Micro version, how should you comport yourself when you're the Dungeon Monitor, and you have to watch your ex-girlfriend be some other guy's slave? A woman with high libido drifts from sex-negative guy to sex-negative guy. Why would she do this? Dan speaks with Tom Plummer from ImmigrationEquality.org about the plight of international gay couples. On the Magnum podcast, you'll hear an interview with Dr. Marty Klein about shrinks. Are they good for your sex life? A woman wonders where her new boyfriend's balls disappeared to. A pregnant woman is dismayed that her boyfriend hasn't slowed down on his drinking and carousing even a little bit. Should he quit partying in solidarity?
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An autistic virgin woman wants to get into the swinging lifestyle. Should she get sterilized now, or kick that can down the road? During a fight with his ex-girlfriend, a big man discovered that he likes getting slapped around a bit. How can he let future lovers know this, and get over his shame?  A woman on painkillers finds that she's turned on by the idea of a man "taking advantage" of her while she's blotto on meds. Is this a thing? Can it be done safely?  Silly kinkster! Everything is "a thing."  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
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A most magnanimous woman is married to a man who likes trans women. Instead of buying her an anniversary present, he bought himself time with a trans dominatrix. She wants to forgive.  A kinky widow is falling for a trans woman. But she isn't used to the staring and general hostility toward trans people. How can she tell her vanilla friends all about her new, interesting girlfriend?  Dan speaks with activist, sex educator and kinky blogger Tynan Fox about losing the childhood shame around kinky desire.  And more, more, more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.  Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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How do you hit on someone with Aspergers? This week on the Savage Lovecast, Dan speaks with Maxine Aston, author and relationship counselor who specializes in relationships and Aspergers Syndrome. Find her at www.maxineaston.co.uk Also, supporting sissy sons, kinky glitter and the damage that youthful experimentation can do.  Confidential to everyone who lost your virginity last night: Congratulations!  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.xandria.com. Enter the code SAVAGE and get 20% off your entire order. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at www.AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast Want to lend a hand in North Carolina? Go to www.protectallncfamilies.com
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