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Do ex-girlfriends make good unicorns?

Episode #376 — January 7, 2014

Red Bull and Vodka makes him last and last and last. But is it the Red Bull or the Vodka? A man and woman want to try a three-way. Do ex-girlfriends make good unicorns? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Diana Adams, a lawyer who specializes in polyamorous families. It's the new frontier. Also, a woman wonders if she has to tell her new boyfriend about her financial troubles, and a straight man wonders how he's going to get laid when everyone thinks he's gay.
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Dating "Senior Sensitivo."

Episode #356 — August 20, 2013

"Cum Dumpster." Is this a sweet, sexy term, or just plain nasty? A straight woman in Texas feels like a nelly gay man trapped in a woman's body. How can she find her people? A woman has been using OK Cupid for 2 years and still hasn't gotten any action. So Dan chats with OK Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder on what she might be doing wrong. On the Magnum version, Dan interviews sex researcher Dr. Joye Swan on risk-taking and using the idea of monogamy as a magical shield. And more.
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Garfunkel & Oates! Squeeeee!

Episode #349 — July 2, 2013

First off, prepare yourself for the most Depressing Rant Ever. (We recorded this show well before DOMA went DOWN.) A young gay man connected with another lad on Grindr. Then he met up with a different man, at the SAME HOUSE. What tomfoolery is this? A lad and his boyfriend are planning to try out a bathhouse for the first time, and ask Dan for some basic tips. What he suggests…may shock you. And, the inimitable Garfunkel & Oates come on the show to explain a shameful evasive strategy that many women have mastered. On the Magnum side, Dan talks to a man who may have to adopt his own niece, because his brother (the baby's father) is in and out of jail. Choking! Groovy fun, or not such a good idea? Are all drag queens gay? Do they have to be? Because here's a straight woman who's attracted to them. And a ton more...
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Tales of open relationships gone horribly wrong.

Episode #342 — May 14, 2013

Tales of open relationships gone bad. Is it so wrong to move in with your boyfriend to save on rent? Also, is it against the rules of matrimony to not serve cake at a wedding? Plus on the Magnum show, Dan speaks with sexual health educator Debby Herbenick about lube and ladies and Vibrator Addiction Syndrome. Also Dan drags his older brother on to talk about how they tormented each other as children. And a lot more.
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Dan speaks with Buck Angel on dating FtM transsexuals.

Episode #328 — February 6, 2013

Dan desperately tries to convince a young gay man to use a condom when hooking up with random hot Australians.  The amazing Buck Angel speaks with Dan about dating FtM transsexuals.  And sex educator Amy Lang helps explain how to teach your son to avoid the dreaded Death Grip Syndrome.  And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
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Well, well, well. What heartwarming tales have we to share on our very special Christmas Lovecast? Why, here's one about the crippling guilt and shame a woman can't shake from her promiscuous past. And look! A lad who snooped on his twin brother's phone discovered naked pictures of his ex-girlfriend! And here we have a gentleman who works up detailed spreadsheets of the qualities he requires from his girlfriends. Kind of like Santa's list, only pathological!   And more about pedophiles. Merry Christmas!    206-201-2720    This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter EXPLORE2013 at checkout.   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage 
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A bride-to-be faces a problematic wedding guest list. Should she invite her gaggle of gay friends and let them commingle with her conservative, bigoted relatives and coworkers? Hear the complicated tale of the not-quite-out lesbian and her chattering godmother. Your fetish! It is impossible! Simply impossible! Sometimes they really are. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGGNovember at checkout. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
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Do you know what a "'bater" is? A 'bater only wants to masturbate. No sex. Now, now would a relationship between a 'bater and a sex-loving fella work out, you think?  A bride-to-be enlists Dan's advice on how to bring her rape fantasy to life on their honeymoon.  A woman has sex-crippling vaginal pain. Dan speaks with human sexuality expert Dr. Debby Herbenick on what she can do.  And more.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.  Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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We begin our podcast with arguably the sleaziest caller we've ever encountered. It really has to be heard to be believed.  How can you help a friend when she's hung up on a psycho?  To aid a man who's wife has no libido whatsoever, Dan enlists the help of human sexuality expert, scientist, author and the generally convivial Dr. Debby Herbenick. And Dan speaks with mighty Washington state Senator Ed Murray on the strategy for winning gay marriage rights.  And win, we will. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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This week on the Savage Lovecast, a topless maid agonizes over her role in the aiding and abetting of infidelity. A man's sister employs a nanny. The nanny is hot. Should he shtup the nanny? And hear Dan's timeless Valentine's Day advice. Hint: It holds true on other days of the year, too. 206-201-2720   This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter GGG at checkout.    Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.   Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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