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In this very special "Christmas" episode of the Savage Lovecast, you may detect a theme of problematic families. Bigot uncles, closet cases, intolerant mothers, that sort of thing. However! You get to wash it all down with some Dina Martina at the end, so, there's that… But seriously folks. Happy holidays from all of us at the Savage Lovecast. We hope you find your warmth in a true, loving family, whatever that looks like. 
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Season 16 approaches! The new season will start on October 22. Be sure to come back here then, to renew or or subscribe for the first time. A maligned man is stigmatized among his social circle for having herpes. A closeted bi woman wonders if she should stop slapping the asses of the rest of the ladies on her team in the showers. Rowwwrrrrr. A 20 year old lesbian has a great relationship…when they see each other. When they communicate online, they rip each other apart. On the Magnums, a happily childless woman is tormented by her relatives who ask her over and over, "WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO HAVE KIDS?" Is there a delicate way to suggest your boyfriend wear a smaller sized condom? Finally, hear the amazing dramatic reenactment of a man going pee. Because he really, really likes to go pee.
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Burlesque vs. Stripping

Episode #354 — August 6, 2013

A straight man has been the recipient of some rather shoddy pegging. Dan sets him on a better course. A woman's older boyfriend insists her gay friends are out to sleep with her. Dan senses dark machinations at work. Are you, a straight woman, obliged to inform your hook-up that his dick stinks to high heaven? On the Magnum version, Dan interviews feminist blogger Amanda Marcotte on the hysteria surrounding female sexuality and hook-up culture on college campuses. A woman is so darned pretty that she can't have any male friends because they ALL want to sleep with her. Dan speaks with male burlesque sensation Waxy Moon on the differences between burlesque and stripping, and what to do if your boyfriend doesn't want to see you in pasties.
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Hooray for happy rants! Dan tells you how he felt and what he did when he found out that DOMA was repealed. A man's random ejaculation resulted in a child. Now the child is 12 and neither she, nor her mother's husband knows that he is her biological father. Should he tell? Is there a way to warn the straight females of the world about your sociopathic sex addict ex-boyfriend? On the Magnum version, an interview with the father of the modern marriage movement, Evan Wolfson, on the implications of DOMA's repeal. Remember this political moment, children. And, a long rant on the Republican war on women in general, and abortion specifically. And the usual tales of sordid depravity.
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How do you hit on someone with Aspergers? This week on the Savage Lovecast, Dan speaks with Maxine Aston, author and relationship counselor who specializes in relationships and Aspergers Syndrome. Find her at www.maxineaston.co.uk Also, supporting sissy sons, kinky glitter and the damage that youthful experimentation can do.  Confidential to everyone who lost your virginity last night: Congratulations!  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.xandria.com. Enter the code SAVAGE and get 20% off your entire order. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at www.AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast Want to lend a hand in North Carolina? Go to www.protectallncfamilies.com
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Bisexuals! Grab your pitchforks and fire up those torches. This show is all about you.  Also, does a BJ get you into the Mile High Club?  A man who will be staying with his sister-in-law for a few months wonders if he needs to keep his carnal relations inaudible.  Shhhhhhh!  206-201-2720 Neal Boulton is over at www.Bastardlife.com This episode is brought to you by www.xandria.com. Enter the code SAVAGE and get 20% off your entire order. This episode is brought to you by www.Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the offer code Savage4 for a 10% discount.
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Dan counsels a very GGG woman on how she can lovingly kick her boyfriend in the nuts.   Rape scenarios are tricky, aren't they? You have to plan and communicate clearly, or you might end up in jail. But does it kill the sexy to say, "Okay, honey, I'll rape you next Tuesday"?   And "Miss Manners" Savage has the solution for how to send the third in your three-way off to the guest bed.   Is there nothing Dan Savage can't solve? 206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Xandria.com. Enter the code “SAVAGE” and get 20% off your entire order.   Now, people, listen up. Earlier, the tech-savvy at-risk youth commanded you to listen to My Brother, My Brother and Me, which you are still contractually obligated to do. But now you must also listen to Throwing Shade. Both podcasts will send milk shooting out your nose if you aren't careful.
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Introducing… the Panty Bandit! Coming to a bed near you?  A woman is enjoying a friends-with-benefits relationship. But the lad always bolts out of bed postcoitus without so much as a quick kiss good-bye. Would a little cuddling kill him?  A woman's boyfriend admits that he isn't sexually attracted to women. He's exclusively attracted to animals. Dan brings in Dr. Jesse Bering of Scientific American to help him with this one.  Neigh? 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. This episode is brought to you by www.Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the offer code Savage3 for a 30% discount. 
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A lesbian's partner shows her love by paying for everything. Unfortunately, she's kind of a jerk otherwise.  A man can't please his lady in bed unless he's blasted drunk. When sober, he worries that she's too tender and shy for the rough treatment she likes.  The mother of a little person is worried about all the little-people fetishists out there who will be interested in her daughter. She's only 17 months old, but when you're a mother, you worry.  Call us with your questions, large and small.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.Squarespace.com. They make it so easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the offer code Savage2 for a 15% discount.  This episode is also brought to you by www.WhereDidYouWearIt.com  Have you had safe sex lately? Put yourself on the map.  View the full Making it Better video from the University of Florida: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rJWtvwALxQo
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Dan converses with a former rent boy, and you get to listen in. Should a man with a jealousy problem date his neighbor who happens to be a stripper?  Gather round, listeners, and hear the spooky tale of the lover who still carries a torch for his dead mother. And other oddities. 206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.   Check out Ask Dominic: blog.rentboy.com   Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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