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Tristan Taormino on reclaiming your ass.

Episode #455 — July 14, 2015

An opening rant on Zachery Anderson, who was unfairly imprisoned and put on the sex offenders registry, because an uptight judge wants you to know that hook-up apps are terribly naughty. A man wonders if he should personally confront a guy he knows who creeps on women. On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and rival advice columnist Tristan Taormino about reclaiming the pleasure of anal sex after an assault. And, hear the tale of the strangest job a housecleaner has ever been offered. 206-201-2720
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Chitty-chatting with Jeffery Self

Episode #439 — March 24, 2015

Trapped in LA, Dan chitty-chats with comedian Jeffery Self about self lubricating, bossy slaves, "little brother" role playing and three-ways with celebrities among other things. The Gay is strong with this one. Also, on the Magnum Dan talks with sex and family educator Stephanie Mitelman about the struggles people on the autism spectrum have with sexuality and dating. 206-201-2720
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Mistress Matisse throws shade on 50 Shades.

Episode #438 — March 17, 2015

The Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse. Dan and our favorite dominatrix/sex-worker rights activist talk about getting started with domination, the perils of being a sex worker and (what else?) 50 Shades of Grey. When planning a three-way with your wife and a friend of yours, how do you choose the lucky friend? And how can you minimize the awkwardness when you make the ask? On the Magnum, hear the spooky tale of a mother-in-law's mysterious vibrating couch. 206-201-2720
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How to conduct yourself at the kinky play party.

Episode #433 — February 10, 2015

A kinkster is worried that her feminist mother will see some bruises and assume the worst about her boyfriend. How can she explain that they are in a loving, mutually satisfying Dom/sub situation? A woman doesn't like to swallow her boyfriend's come. Is this a rare condition? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Zoë Tersche from the website ThisWink.com about how to comport yourself at kinky play parties. And, a man with a heart condition is sick of his lovers going easy on him in bed. Can he ethically withhold the information that the exciting sex they are about to enjoy might make him keel over? What a way to go. 206-201-2720
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Wake up! It's Mike Birbiglia.

Episode #428 — January 6, 2015

A husband can't be bothered to bring his wife to orgasm. Why? It's too much work! His hand gets tired! A man is pretty sure his nephew is gay. The rest of the family is homophobic. How can he soften the ground with the family, and let his nephew know he has support without outing or embarrassing him? On the Magnum, Dan welcomes comedian Mike Birbiglia to tackle a question about REM sleep disorder. Also Annie. A woman is willing to play the sub in the bedroom, but when her new boyfriend barks out orders in the kitchen, well, that's not cool! And more! 206-201-2720 Translifeline.org: US: (877) 565-8860, Canada: (877) 330-6366
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How to find ethically made porn.

Episode #413 — September 23, 2014

A man's wife uses their dom/sub relationship as ammo when they are fighting out of the bedroom. And THAT AIN'T FAIR! Should it be a deal-breaker if your boyfriend doesn't like your sense of humor? (Hint: YES.) A gay man is having some complicated orgy issues. Don't we all? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Sarah Mirk- the online editor of Bitch Magazine about feminist-friendly porn; how to find it, and how to avoid the bad stuff. And more, more, more. 206-201-2720
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The Vibrator Addiction Epidemic has hit!

Episode #412 — September 16, 2014

Hey Dan Savage! What do you think about waiting to have sex until marriage? Dan? Good idea? A woman enjoys sharing naked photos of herself. Her friends warn her against it. But it gets her off, so why should she listen to them? On the Magnum, we welcome Debby Herbenick to discuss the vibrator addiction epidemic plaguing ladies across the land. And, a ton of kind, thoughtful responses from our listeners to the lass who was trapped in a hot & cold relationship with a cold-blooded sociopath. This is not to be missed. You listeners are some kind of wonderful.
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When a guy uses concert tickets to entice you to spend time with him, should you accept, even if you feel no attraction? Or would that make you mercenary? A lesbian wonders how to let her potential employers know that she's gay during her job interview. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Japanese bondage trailblazer Midori, about getting what you want out of a kink relationship. Also, is the X-men character Mystique bisexual or what? And more.
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When Gays ATTACK!

Episode #351 — July 16, 2013

Her boyfriend wants it every day. She can manage 4-6 times per week but he still berates her for not putting out enough. Who's side will Dan come down on? Here's another gem of a boyfriend: He won't compliment her or show any signs of affection. He hasn't told his friends about her, and won't pay for anything or inconvenience himself in any way. Foreplay? Nope! And yet, our heroine is still smitten. Meanwhile, over at Seattle's gay pride parade, did an angry mob of lesbians brutally attack a kind and hapless preacher? JoeMyGod's Joe Jervis has the story. On the Magnum version, we present a drinking game. Every time you hear the word "whatever" or "yadda, yadda, yadda," you take a shot. In a sobering call, we learn of a bad case of Domestic Partnership Castration Syndrome, in which a man loses his erections after going through the commitment ceremony. And, a fem dom woman prepares to go to a party where the women wear clothes and men remain naked. Will she and her cross-dressing boyfriend have a good time? Will the other subs in the room imprint on her like a mama duckling?
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Dan chats with the Perverted Negress.

Episode #348 — June 25, 2013

Kids today! A woman agrees to give her new lover her used panties. He then reports that his eleven-year old nephew got a hold of them and did unspeakable things with them. What kind of messed up family are we dealing with here? Another kid! Listen to this kid! She's 18, and her gay co-worker is setting up "dates" between her and his 30 year old friends to have sex with her while he watches. But lest you think he's a monster, don't worry- he's offered to provide the drugs and booze. And over on the Magnum side, a cool interview with Mollena Williams, a.k.a. "The Perverted Negress" on getting started in the kink community. And finally, Dan does what Dan does best: he talks a gay lad into demanding that his bigoted family either accept him as he is, or lose his presence at the Christmas table. And so much more, really.
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