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with Rachel Lark

Episode #553 — May 30, 2017

Oh, that nasty chef! A woman works in a restaurant where her manager is having an affair with the married chef. Sometimes the caller has to serve the chef's poor innocent wife. It's so cruel that all the servers are about to revolt. A married man harbors a cuckolding fantasy. He is certain his wife would never-ever be into it. But would she? Also, we couldn't help but play a couple of Rachel Lark songs, cuz they're so good. And on the Magnum, have you heard of "Hypersomnia?" A woman can't keep herself awake, sometimes at inopportune times, and she worries she'll be taken advantage of. Dan brings on a sleep medicine expert to discuss. Also, a woman who makes a lot of noise during sex, is confused when she gives her boyfriend the best head ever, and he is...perfectly silent.
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Alice Dreger on bikinis for tweens.

Episode #497 — May 3, 2016

A woman’s sister has been in a secret relationship for 7 years. Can or should she talk her sister out of what she thinks is an unhealthy relationship? A woman discovers that she gets off from spitting in her boyfriend’s mouth. Is this common? Is this wrong? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Alice Dreger, author of The Talk: Helping Your Kids Navigate Sex in the Real World about whether it’s cool to let your 12 year old daughter get that teeny-tiny, little bikini. And a shy straight guy can’t figure out how to ask a girl out even when she’s making ggo-goo eyes at him on the train. 206-302-2064
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With Peggy Orenstein.

Episode #494 — April 12, 2016

A woman loves sexting with strangers she meets online. But she has no desire to meet in person. How and when should she let her fellas know this about her? What happens when homophobic parents never come around? Dan speaks with writer Aaron Hartzler, author of “Rapture Practice,” about coming out to intractable family. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Peggy Orenstein, author of “Cinderella Ate My Daughter” and “Girls and Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape” about the distorted expectations women face the in the bedroom. 206-302-2064
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The Birth of The Pill.

Episode #473 — November 17, 2015

“Bark! Bark! Bark!” That’s what a kinky woman’s dog will say when it hears her getting spanked. She worries that this might be a problem, and so, should she maybe not get a dog? A divorced woman is sleeping with the repair man. Her ex-husband is sleeping with their children’s former nanny. Were you just complaining about your life being too complicated? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Jonathan Eig, author The Birth of the Pill. Finally, a man’s girlfriend catches him masturbating to a picture of her friend. And she’s totally cool with it. Just kidding! All hell breaks loose. And! f you really want to enter to win a horrible gun...go here: http://www.steveking.com/cruz-huckabee-jindal-and-santorum-gun-giveaway-2/
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Amy Lang on talking to the children about s-e-x.

Episode #440 — March 31, 2015

Her friend's fiancé would rather enjoy congress with an unwashed blow-up doll than his betrothed. Does this spell ruin, or just a happy companionate marriage? Hear the steamy tale of the nude model, the super-hot art teacher and the things he does with his laser pointer. On the Magnum we've been saving up parenting questions for the indomitable Amy Lang, sex educator and creator of Birds + Bees + Kids, to help parents talk to their kids about s-e-x. And, Dan interviews Alison Stevenson about her article in Vice Magazine, about not giving blow jobs. http://www.vice.com/read/why-i-dont-give-blowjobs-323 206-201-2720
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Sex at Burning Man.

Episode #407 — August 12, 2014

Take it from us, whatever you do- don't offend the adult baby. Also, how should you respond when you get hit on by a 13 year-old? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with "Lazlo" -organizer of the Orgy Dome at Burning Man about sex at the sandy festival. And, welcome to yet another abstinence-before-marriage train wreck. .
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KNEEL BEFORE ME, SLAVE!

Episode #384 — March 4, 2014

We are delighted to welcome back Mollena Williams, a.k.a "The Perverted Negress," to talk about the kinky men you'll meet online who start the conversation with "KNEEL BEFORE ME, SLAVE!" On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. David Ley about pornography addiction, and why the idea is overblown. Also, a drunken bi lad wonders if he should tell his girlfriend that he is a sex worker. And a lot more. 206-201-2720
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We open with a heartrending call from a woman in the Bible belt, whose own children condemn her for dating a black man. The year is 2014. Dan chats with Hanna Rosin (Author of "The End of Men",) on women's changing relationship with their careers vs. partners. On the Magnum, a fascinating "What You Got" with Professor Jennifer Glass. Her study shows that conservative Christians not only have a higher divorce rate, but anyone who lives near their communities have higher divorce rates too. And, hear the woes of a man who likes blow jobs just a little too much.
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The upside of herpes...courtesy of science!

Episode #378 — January 21, 2014

A man with his dream girl, simply cannot forgive her for cheating on him at the very beginning of their relationship. What is the remedy? "Why do I like older men??!" asks a young gay man, with nearly audible hand-wringing. Boner Pills! Do they work? How? On the Magnum…Dan chats with a scientist working to pit herpes against cancer. (We think they deserve each other…) And, listen in as Dan accuses a woman of being "The sentient stove with agency who keeps burning someone." And a ton more. Tickets to the Seattle Valentine's Day show with Dan and guests are at StrangerTickets.com.
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When lesbians flirt: What is a red-blooded lad to think when his lesbian pal makes goo-goo eyes at him?  Are parents today too sex-positive? Dan and sex educator Amy Lang talk about water sports among 3-year-olds and a bad place to put Legos.  And more.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter GGG2012 at checkout.  This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage   Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast Check out Anna Pulley: http://annapulley.com/ And Amy Lang: http://birdsandbeesandkids.com/
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