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Legit Slut-Shaming???

Episode #360 — September 17, 2013

A gay man's truly evil step-mother falsely accused him of sexually assaulting his younger siblings. His father never rose to his defense. Should he forgive his father or cut off ties? Penises, penises, penises. That's all her ex-girlfriend could ever think about! Is Penis Envy a real thing? And now that she's free of this lunatic, does it matter? On the Magnum side, is there such a thing as "legitimate slut-shaming?" Did you know that the United States prison system has recently enacted progressive policies regarding transgendered inmates? No, you did not. Terry Schuster, an attorney who specializes in the treatment of prisoners, speaks with Dan about how Chelsea Manning can expect to be treated in prison. And a lot more.
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How to be a friendly but professional unicorn.

Episode #353 — July 30, 2013

A woman has become a regular third (unicorn) for a couple's three-ways. They buy her dinner and drinks. Should she get get over feeling like a mooch and just gracefully accept their largess? When he was in first grade, a man recalls a friend who used to roll around with him and kiss him. How normal is this, and when does it tip into molestation? And more. On the Magnum show, the long-suffering Doc Barak weighs in on the ethics of some clumsy doctoring in a Southern small town. A woman tries to salvage some kind of relationship with her ex, after he helped her through a bi-polar meltdown. And, hear the lasting effects of a really bad party.
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Is it stalking if you know where a cute girl works and you just happen to…pop in?  A man's friend sends him unwanted pictures of his dick. How can the caller tell his pervy friend to knock it off without ruining the friendship? A man snooped and caught his girlfriend cheating with another "bro". Does the "bro code" stipulate that he must rat out the cheating girlfriend, and let said "bro" know that she is as nutty as a fruitcake?  These, and many other questions you never knew you had are answered.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Info about toxic sex toys can be found at www.badvibes.org.   Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast  Info about HUMP at www.humpseattle.com.
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We begin our podcast with arguably the sleaziest caller we've ever encountered. It really has to be heard to be believed.  How can you help a friend when she's hung up on a psycho?  To aid a man who's wife has no libido whatsoever, Dan enlists the help of human sexuality expert, scientist, author and the generally convivial Dr. Debby Herbenick. And Dan speaks with mighty Washington state Senator Ed Murray on the strategy for winning gay marriage rights.  And win, we will. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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The Savage Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse, Seattle's charming and terrifying dominatrix. Can sadists get it on with other sadists? Is domming a viable career choice? Can the master-slave relationship work when it's time to do the dishes? All of this and more await you, worm. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by www.ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter SANTORUM at checkout.
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A woman is having an affair with a man who is probably gay. Should she help him to cross the line into homo-land, or butt out and find somebody who digs chicks? A man is dating a gal who is perfect in every way except for one little problem. She is bat-shit, loony tunes crazy. Is the sex worth it? A queer woman has a girlfriend who's a real snoozer in the sack. She calls her hot gender-queer pals whenever she wants sex, fucks them and then comes home to her girlfriend to read in bed and fall asleep. Will it last? Is it right? And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day trial, go to netflix.com/savage.
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It's the Damsels in Distress episode! A college coed lost her virginity while blasted drunk. Though she remembers giving consent, her shame caused her to call it rape. Now what? Another woman got pregnant with her brand-new boyfriend. Should she keep the baby? She and her fiancé broke up. Can they stay living together in their teeny tiny apartment as friends? Women! 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve Today's episode is brought to you by Get STD Tested. Call today for easy, reliable, and confidential STD testing: 888-387-1879 Check out Dan's It Gets Better Project.
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Polyamory: There's a dark side, you know. When a stripper pays you extra attention at a strip club, does it automatically mean you're being hustled? Gusher on Aisle 3! This lady has the dubious problem of ejaculating so much that she needs three layers of towels lest she soak the bed. And more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today here: http://j.mp/savageaudible Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten
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Grandpa up and died. And he left behind his porn stash. Should his granddaughter rush in to hide it before the rest of the family discovers Grandpa's little secret? A man treats his boyfriend like a Madonna, when he just wants to be a whore. A 23-year-old woman is sick being the only single gal at her friends' weddings. She speaks fluent French. Why can't she land a man? The answer: Apitoiement. And tons more. Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve
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Today, Dan is joined by special guest expert Francisco Ramirez! Francisco dishes out free sex advice in Washington Square Park. Hear Dan and Fran double-team on your weekly dose of smut. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten Here's Francisco's website: www.franciscoramirez.org
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