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Don't believe the female viagra hype.

Episode #451 — June 16, 2015

A divorced single mother can’t seem to get it through her lovers’ heads that she just wants casual relationships. How can she convince them that there’s no ring required? A woman’s mouth is dick Kryptonite! Her boyfriend’s penis always goes soft when she tries to go down. What on earth is she doing wrong? On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and bioethics professor Alice Dreger as well as documentarian Liz Canner, who created Orgasm Inc, about the hype and general scumminess surrounding the new “Female viagra”- flibanserin. And tons more. 206-201-2720
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Dating and disclosure with bipolar disorder.

Episode #393 — May 6, 2014

He grew up conservative and Christian. Now that he's over it, he's dating an awesome lass. But she likes to talk about sex, and he's still shy and giggly about it. A woman and her husband have embarked on a long-distance, open relationship. But that doesn't mean she wants to hear every damn thing about the girls he's yakking with on Chat Roulette. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Ellen Forney, creator of the amazing graphic novel "Marbles" about dating and disclosure when you have bipolar disorder. And finally, arguably one of the oddest calls we've ever gotten from a man whose son is caught looking at…well, what he's caught looking at may SHOCK YOU. And so much more. 206-201-2720
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Season 16 approaches! The new season will start on October 22. Be sure to come back here then, to renew or or subscribe for the first time. A maligned man is stigmatized among his social circle for having herpes. A closeted bi woman wonders if she should stop slapping the asses of the rest of the ladies on her team in the showers. Rowwwrrrrr. A 20 year old lesbian has a great relationship…when they see each other. When they communicate online, they rip each other apart. On the Magnums, a happily childless woman is tormented by her relatives who ask her over and over, "WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO HAVE KIDS?" Is there a delicate way to suggest your boyfriend wear a smaller sized condom? Finally, hear the amazing dramatic reenactment of a man going pee. Because he really, really likes to go pee.
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Legit Slut-Shaming???

Episode #360 — September 17, 2013

A gay man's truly evil step-mother falsely accused him of sexually assaulting his younger siblings. His father never rose to his defense. Should he forgive his father or cut off ties? Penises, penises, penises. That's all her ex-girlfriend could ever think about! Is Penis Envy a real thing? And now that she's free of this lunatic, does it matter? On the Magnum side, is there such a thing as "legitimate slut-shaming?" Did you know that the United States prison system has recently enacted progressive policies regarding transgendered inmates? No, you did not. Terry Schuster, an attorney who specializes in the treatment of prisoners, speaks with Dan about how Chelsea Manning can expect to be treated in prison. And a lot more.
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How to be a friendly but professional unicorn.

Episode #353 — July 30, 2013

A woman has become a regular third (unicorn) for a couple's three-ways. They buy her dinner and drinks. Should she get get over feeling like a mooch and just gracefully accept their largess? When he was in first grade, a man recalls a friend who used to roll around with him and kiss him. How normal is this, and when does it tip into molestation? And more. On the Magnum show, the long-suffering Doc Barak weighs in on the ethics of some clumsy doctoring in a Southern small town. A woman tries to salvage some kind of relationship with her ex, after he helped her through a bi-polar meltdown. And, hear the lasting effects of a really bad party.
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Is it stalking if you know where a cute girl works and you just happen to…pop in?  A man's friend sends him unwanted pictures of his dick. How can the caller tell his pervy friend to knock it off without ruining the friendship? A man snooped and caught his girlfriend cheating with another "bro". Does the "bro code" stipulate that he must rat out the cheating girlfriend, and let said "bro" know that she is as nutty as a fruitcake?  These, and many other questions you never knew you had are answered.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Info about toxic sex toys can be found at www.badvibes.org.   Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast  Info about HUMP at www.humpseattle.com.
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We begin our podcast with arguably the sleaziest caller we've ever encountered. It really has to be heard to be believed.  How can you help a friend when she's hung up on a psycho?  To aid a man who's wife has no libido whatsoever, Dan enlists the help of human sexuality expert, scientist, author and the generally convivial Dr. Debby Herbenick. And Dan speaks with mighty Washington state Senator Ed Murray on the strategy for winning gay marriage rights.  And win, we will. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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The Savage Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse, Seattle's charming and terrifying dominatrix. Can sadists get it on with other sadists? Is domming a viable career choice? Can the master-slave relationship work when it's time to do the dishes? All of this and more await you, worm. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by www.ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter SANTORUM at checkout.
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A woman is having an affair with a man who is probably gay. Should she help him to cross the line into homo-land, or butt out and find somebody who digs chicks? A man is dating a gal who is perfect in every way except for one little problem. She is bat-shit, loony tunes crazy. Is the sex worth it? A queer woman has a girlfriend who's a real snoozer in the sack. She calls her hot gender-queer pals whenever she wants sex, fucks them and then comes home to her girlfriend to read in bed and fall asleep. Will it last? Is it right? And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day trial, go to netflix.com/savage.
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It's the Damsels in Distress episode! A college coed lost her virginity while blasted drunk. Though she remembers giving consent, her shame caused her to call it rape. Now what? Another woman got pregnant with her brand-new boyfriend. Should she keep the baby? She and her fiancé broke up. Can they stay living together in their teeny tiny apartment as friends? Women! 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve Today's episode is brought to you by Get STD Tested. Call today for easy, reliable, and confidential STD testing: 888-387-1879 Check out Dan's It Gets Better Project.
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