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A gay cuckolding study with Dr. Justin Lehmiller

Episode #590 — February 13, 2018

A woman is worried that a couple she's friends with will ask her and her husband to swing. How can she politely tell them that she and her husband don't roll that way? A man's new boyfriend is so wonderful! Their relationship is beautiful and amazing. Unfortunately, he is also a homeless, lying meth-head. How can the caller confront his boyfriend with compassion? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Justin Lehmiller about a study looking at cuckolding among gay men. And, a woman's mother's boyfriend invites her to his pool alone, texts her out of nowhere and gives her random gifts of cash. She is loathe to fear the worst about him, but...well, she fears the worst about him. And so does Dan Savage. And so will all of you. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage". Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Everlane.com/Savage
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With Cecile Richards, President of Planned Parenthood.

Episode #586 — January 16, 2018

This week is no big deal. Our guest is just Cecile Richards, the PRESIDENT OF PLANNED PARENTHOOD. She graciously joined us to discuss her mighty organization, the battle they do daily to provide sexual health, and to answer a question about a woman's yucky Trump-supportin' mama. If, by some weird fluke you have not yet donated to Planned Parenthood, you are commanded to do so immediately. www.plannedparenthood.org/donate Also, a woman and her husband don't quite know how to ask a couple they are friendly with if they would like to watch them have sex. It could be awkward. 206-302-2064.
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Black bottoming with sexy Marquis.

Episode #584 — January 2, 2018

A woman is facing old school, mild harassment at her law firm, of all places. How can she learn to shut these men down without looking like a Grumpy Gertie? A man is dating a new woman who seems great. But! She reminds him so much of his abusive ex, that he can't even. Should he explain his sudden absence to her? Break up cleanly? Try to make it work? On the Magnum, racial erotics ahoy! It would appear that white men want black men to fuck them. But what of the black man who just wants to get fucked? Dan enlists Marquis- a black man who knows what the hell is going on here. And Dan explains the nature of the sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship to a nervous lady. Don't be nervous. Take a deep breath and call 206-302-2064
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Luke Burbank is utterly delightful!

Episode #583 — December 26, 2017

A woman struggles to advise her friend who is intolerant of her husband watching a little porn. Hear the dark drama of a gay man who made plans to get tied up by a stranger. All hail Luke Burbank! The clever and kindly host of TBTL and Live Wire Radio demeans himself to discuss open relationships, anal sex as revenge, and the rise of the sex robots. How he manages to keep his dignity intact is a bit of a head-scratcher. Also, a woman is burdened with unwanted cuckold fantasies. Should she purge her brain of them, or try to embrace them? 206-302-2064
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How to flirt and not be a dick. With Vonny Leclerc.

Episode #582 — December 19, 2017

A woman's 13 year-old brother wants to shave his crotch. And now mom is FREAKING OUT and the whole family is in disarray over the pubes she found in the sink! A straight couple gets recognized in a bar from an online profile they placed together a long time ago. The woman in the couple pretended it wasn't them. Was this a) wrong, b) chicken, c) sex shaming to man who noticed them, or d) all of the above. On the Magnum, Dan chats with feminist writer Vonny Leclerc on how hard men have it now that they aren't allowed to flirt with underlings. And, a woman is terribly nervous about the Prince Albert her husband wants to get. Dan offers gentle reassurance.
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Look out, Monogamy. Here comes Esther Perel.

Episode #578 — November 21, 2017

A married man is deliciously conflicted as his wife sleeps with women. It turns him on at first, but then jealousy and resentment settle in. How to reconcile? A woman newly broken up with her boyfriend has some recent boudoir photos kicking around. Should she send them to him? On the Magnum, listen in on our live show in Vancouver with Esther Perel, author of "Mating in Captivity." Dan and Esther take long hard look at the history of human relationships and our culture's obsession with monogamy. YOUR DAYS ARE NUMBERED, MONOGAMY.
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Get Thee to a Therapist, Go. With Buck Angel.

Episode #577 — November 14, 2017

Gather round the circle listeners, as Dan invokes the serenity prayer to council a woman who is being trolled by her neighbor's WiFi network name. A trans man who has not yet begun his transition, is angry and frustrated that he can't find any gay men who are interested in him. Buck Angel, (a.k.a the Man with a Pussy) swoops in to give much-needed, rational perspective. On the Magnum: Get Thee to a Therapist, Go. A treasure trove of callers who perhaps could use the services of an actual professional. Or not. Whatever. 206-302-2064
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The Nanny and the Handyman.

Episode #573 — October 17, 2017

A woman has been monogamous with her boyfriend for 5 years. But she really wants to fuck the Swedish handyman. Should she fuck the Swedish handyman? A white woman and her boyfriend are into the whole Japanese schoolgirl thing. Is this racist? Is it wrong? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Carsie Blanton, creator of a dirty, nasty, filthy card game that sounds really fun. Check it out at www.thefingtruth.com. And, a divorced man finds he keeps dating women who say they are down for casual relationships, but when push comes to shove, they are really playing "the long game."
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Women in gay bars. We have a problem.

Episode #565 — August 22, 2017

What do you do when your best friend is dating a con man? A woman has been with her boyfriend for a year. He has a key to her apartment, and regularly lets himself in when she isn't there, even though she told him not to. How big of a problem do we have here? On the Magnum, Dan talks to Alexander Cheves who published a controversial article in The Advocate about what place, if any, women have in gay bars. And, a woman's best friend also happens to be her step-mother. (Same age though.) How can the caller counsel her pal on how to improve her sex life...with her father? 206-302-2064
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The science of DTMFA.

Episode #564 — August 15, 2017

A seemingly kind man only gets off when his girlfriend is in pain. She noticed this and plays it up to please him. Don't tell him this, but she isn't in pain. She loves it. But what if her acting skills fail? A woman has started dating a man who travels a lot and has a girlfriend in every city. Should she join his sprawling harem? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. Samantha Joel, in a "What You Got?" about the psychology of what make someone finally decide to end a relationship. And, a woman gets cold easily and likes to wear socks during sex. Her lovers tell her to take them off, because...visuals. Dan enlists science to defend this shivering lass. 206-302-2064
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