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No on Prop 60!

Episode #523 — November 1, 2016

On the worst birthday EVER, a woman learns that her beloved long distance boyfriend...has a wife. If the wife asks her, should she lie for him? A man's friend is dating a guy who gets coked up, turns the photos of her face-down and hires prostitutes to sleep with him in their shared bed. How can the caller convince his friend to DTMFA? Hey California! How's it going? Please vote NO on Prop 60, won't you? Dan and porn activist/performer Conner Habib explain it for you. On the Magnum, a woman who is about to enjoy a three-way with a couple of men, worries the men will compete with each other. Dan uses his most reassuring tones to ease her mind. 206-302-2064
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Parenting Horror Stories

Episode #522 — October 25, 2016

A man has been with his boyfriend for 1.5 years. The caller's family is loving and welcoming to the boyfriend. But the boyfriend's family won't accept his homosexuality and won't allow the caller to join them at Thanksgiving etc. How long must our caller wait for his boyfriend to grow a pair, and tell his family to piss off already? Next up, we'll just share the title of this call: "Take Your Chances at the All-Girl Orgy?" NOW you're gonna listen aren't you? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the hosts of One Bad Mother, a delightful parenting podcast, about some gnarly situations parents find themselves in. And, a woman is excited to start having three-ways with her boyfriend. EXCEPT. He's a terrible lover, and the caller worries his lack of skill will queer the deal. 206-302-2064
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With MTV's Ira Madison III.

Episode #510 — August 2, 2016

A man has started dating a woman he suspects is a virgin. She's hot, but he doesn't want to have to teach her about sex. Should he bail, or give her a few lessons? A woman fell into bed with a man so drunk, that he didn't remember going down on her. Now he's asking her friends what happened that night. Should she tell? On the Magnum, Dan chats with MTV's Ira Madison III about the complex issues that come with being a black man with submission fantasies. And, the sleepover that fried a mother's brain. 206-302-2064
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All Hail Panti Bliss!

Episode #504 — June 21, 2016

A tortured gay man can’t envision a world where it’s better to be out than to stay in the closet. Dan tries his darnedest to convince him. Hey fellow homos: call us and pitch in, won’t you? A woman catches her boyfriend signing up for a hook-up app. What does this mean? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the Queen of Ireland, a.k.a Panti Bliss- the drag queen who took on Irish homophobes and won big. A true hero who looks fabulous in heels. And, hear the wisdom of a Trump supporter! 206-302-2064
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Alice Dreger on bikinis for tweens.

Episode #497 — May 3, 2016

A woman’s sister has been in a secret relationship for 7 years. Can or should she talk her sister out of what she thinks is an unhealthy relationship? A woman discovers that she gets off from spitting in her boyfriend’s mouth. Is this common? Is this wrong? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Alice Dreger, author of The Talk: Helping Your Kids Navigate Sex in the Real World about whether it’s cool to let your 12 year old daughter get that teeny-tiny, little bikini. And a shy straight guy can’t figure out how to ask a girl out even when she’s making ggo-goo eyes at him on the train. 206-302-2064
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With Peggy Orenstein.

Episode #494 — April 12, 2016

A woman loves sexting with strangers she meets online. But she has no desire to meet in person. How and when should she let her fellas know this about her? What happens when homophobic parents never come around? Dan speaks with writer Aaron Hartzler, author of “Rapture Practice,” about coming out to intractable family. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Peggy Orenstein, author of “Cinderella Ate My Daughter” and “Girls and Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape” about the distorted expectations women face the in the bedroom. 206-302-2064
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Abbi and Ilana from BROAD CITY.

Episode #490 — March 15, 2016

Aw sheeeeeeee, guys. It’s Abbi and Ilana from BROAD CITY. Dan and the gals talk about period sex, pegging, smoking weed, beards and bumpkins among other things. You’ll also hear some inside dirt about their process in making Broad City and their plans for the future. These two are twin forces of nature and you should listen to the whole raucous conversation. Also, if a guy sends you a dick pic with some possible evidence of an STI, should you speak up? Or giggle demurely? 206-302-2064
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Parents and their trans kids.

Episode #482 — January 19, 2016

A young woman is about to embark on a three-way with her boyfriend and another man. How can she make sure the experience isn’t demeaning? A gay man has incest fantasies. How can he find a man willing to role play a father-figure? A married woman and her husband prefer to use condoms. So why is everyone around her so smug and condescending about it? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Robert Garofalo about a father whose kid calls himself transmale, but often presents as female. They discuss the challenges parents face in keeping an open mind and an open heart as kids and teens figure themselves out. 206-302-2064
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Scary ass stories with Dr. Vy Chu.

Episode #458 — August 4, 2015

Dan speaks to an actual lesbian about how to get started in the homosexual lifestyle. Also hear the sordid tale of the evil rock star training an army of dick-biting groupies. On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Dr. Vy Chu, to discuss a worst-case ass scenario and how to care for your sweet, sweet bottom. New Number! Use it. Live it. 206-302-2064
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Amy Lang on talking to the children about s-e-x.

Episode #440 — March 31, 2015

Her friend's fiancé would rather enjoy congress with an unwashed blow-up doll than his betrothed. Does this spell ruin, or just a happy companionate marriage? Hear the steamy tale of the nude model, the super-hot art teacher and the things he does with his laser pointer. On the Magnum we've been saving up parenting questions for the indomitable Amy Lang, sex educator and creator of Birds + Bees + Kids, to help parents talk to their kids about s-e-x. And, Dan interviews Alison Stevenson about her article in Vice Magazine, about not giving blow jobs. http://www.vice.com/read/why-i-dont-give-blowjobs-323 206-201-2720
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