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Minda Honey

Episode #544 — March 28, 2017

A straight man is into pre-op transwomen in an odd way. He wants nothing to do with their penises, but just likes knowing they're there. In another penis obsessed call, a man with big 'un is dismayed when a lady fails to swoon at the sight of his flaccid dong. Doesn't she know about showers vs. growers?! On the Magnum, Dan welcomes RIVAL advice columnist Minda Honey from Leo Weekly in Kentucky. They discuss the etiquette of what one does when a fellow dominatrix basically STEALS your financial sub right out from under you. Beeeeyotch! Also Dan will help you to master the art of deep throating in these quick easy steps. Useful! 206-302-2064
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Cannibal Cop

Episode #543 — March 21, 2017

A woman's father is planning to go to Russia to fetch his new mail-order bride. How can the caller convince her delusional father that this is not such a good idea? Hear the sordid tale of the Ambien-befuddled, drunky, but also kind of hot step-mother who came on to her step-son in a most aggressive and lascivious way. Now that some years have passed should the caller seek redress? On the Magnum, remember the "Cannibal Cop?" He was the NYPD cop who chatted with his buddies about plans to kidnap, kill and eat ladies. And now he's an author! Dan interviews co-author Brian Whitney about the book, and the...unsavory issues it raises. A woman is dating a man who is so jealous that he insisted that she get rid of her bed, sheets, pillows- everything associated with a previous lover. And guess what? She did it! 206-302-2064
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The pleasures and dangers of choking.

Episode #533 — January 10, 2017

A man's friend came out when they were in high school. Now after a sojourn to the desert to "pray away the gay" the tortured closet case is "church hunting for a bride." Can his pal talk him out of this? A woman's co-worker tried to kiss her at work, despite her unrelentingly professional demeanor, and complete lack of interest. Now they have to go on a work trip together. How can she bat him away? Should she skip the trip? On the Magnum, Dan chats with a kink expert about choking. Anybody have some better words for pussy than...pussy? 206-302-2064
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Dr. Lori Brotto on asexuality

Episode #525 — November 15, 2016

Welcome to the Savage Lovecast where we are ready to fight like hell to take our country back. Are you? Apparently, Trump-voting family members are a thing. Should you spend your holidays with these people? Dan's answer will not shock you. A divorced man has started dating a new woman. When he was married he got caught seeing a sex-worker and it became a public scandal. When should he tell his new love about his past? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lori Brotto in a "What You Got?" about asexuality. A straight man starts shaking uncontrollably whenever he is about to have sex, and it ruins everything. How can he get over this? A man was together with his wife for 13 years. Then she left him for a woman....a rich woman. So did she leave him for the scratch or the snatch?
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With Tegan and Sara

Episode #511 — August 9, 2016

A young man living at home is getting blamed for his father's second divorce. That sounds like kind of a raw deal doesn't it? A man is in a GREAT relationship with his girlfriend. It's SO AWESOME. Except when she gets drunk and verbally abuses him. So there's that. On the Magnum, Dan chats with identical twin, queer, pop-star heart-throbs, Tegan and Sara about online dating, and what to do with that bottle of conditioner your ex left behind in the shower. A man and his wife are going through hard times. Thank goodness for Linda, his mother-in-law who is there to help. Except...she's always there! How can our caller carve out some Linda-free time to fuck his wife already? 206-302-2064
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With Wonkette's Rebecca Schoenkopf

Episode #508 — July 19, 2016

Last week, we asked our African-American listeners to call and speak their minds. Please listen to them at the end of the show. It's the American thing to do. A woman is married to a man she knows is a creep. He pervs at all the wrong times to all the wrong people. So is it a good or bad idea to open their relationship? On the Magnum, Wonkette's Rebecca Schoenkopf takes some calls about the continuing rift between Bernie supporters and Hillary supporters. Also, should a woman get a harmless but ugly mole removed from her vagina, or learn to love it? 206-302-2064
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Second Opinion with Mallory Ortberg.

Episode #480 — January 5, 2016

In two separate calls, straight men are harassed by their gay male friends. One caller had his buddy drunkenly grope him. The other’s pal assails him with aggressive sexual innuendo. Knock it off fellas! A married woman has a husband who doesn’t trust her. She comes home late from her bar job and he assumes she’s cheating on him. She’s never been unfaithful. How can she turn this ship around? On the Magnum, Dan gets a Second Opinion from Mallory Ortberg, Slate’s delightful, new “Dear Prudie” advice columnist. Dan throws Mallory in the deep end with a call from a woman whose 60 year-old housesitter might have riffled through her sex toy drawer, and concludes with a call from the brother of a child rapist. Welcome to the advice business, Mallory! 206-302-2064
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Dan on Bill Cosby and Mark Oppenheimer on Mormons

Episode #462 — September 1, 2015

A man has entered into a committed poly triad… and mom’s not having it. How can the caller get his mother to accept his other girlfriend? Dan’s take on the shenanigans of hilarious comedian, Bill Cosby. A woman’s boyfriend REALLY wants to do anal. He wants this so badly that he’s willing to try it without warning, lube or consent. And it causes her tremendous pain. Can any of you guess what Dan’s advice is? On the Magnum, Dan chats with New York Times religion writer Mark Oppenheimer about his new podcast “Unorthodox,” and the Jewish-Mormon connection. Also, dating a chronic liar; super- fun or super-exhausting? 206-302-2064
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Tristan Taormino on reclaiming your ass.

Episode #455 — July 14, 2015

An opening rant on Zachery Anderson, who was unfairly imprisoned and put on the sex offenders registry, because an uptight judge wants you to know that hook-up apps are terribly naughty. A man wonders if he should personally confront a guy he knows who creeps on women. On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and rival advice columnist Tristan Taormino about reclaiming the pleasure of anal sex after an assault. And, hear the tale of the strangest job a housecleaner has ever been offered. 206-201-2720
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The complicated nature of abusive relationships.

Episode #449 — June 2, 2015

The complicated nature of abusive relationships: Dan speaks with Seattle author Jason Schmidt about his memoir "A List of Things That Didn’t Kill Me," a raw, honest look at the mix of neglect, abuse and fierce love in his own upbringing. You should buy this book, and then read it. Also, a gay man is about to go to drama school at a conservative Christian college. Should he stay in the closet just long enough to graduate and then begin the lifelong project of exacting his revenge? On the Magnum, a straight man is friends with a transwoman. Once she got her surgery, she’s suddenly super-hot to the caller. Is it time to make a move? And, breast milk: It’s not just for babies anymore! 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Harrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan" when you check out. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.
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