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Tristan Taormino on reclaiming your ass.

Episode #455 — July 14, 2015

An opening rant on Zachery Anderson, who was unfairly imprisoned and put on the sex offenders registry, because an uptight judge wants you to know that hook-up apps are terribly naughty. A man wonders if he should personally confront a guy he knows who creeps on women. On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and rival advice columnist Tristan Taormino about reclaiming the pleasure of anal sex after an assault. And, hear the tale of the strangest job a housecleaner has ever been offered. 206-201-2720
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The complicated nature of abusive relationships.

Episode #449 — June 2, 2015

The complicated nature of abusive relationships: Dan speaks with Seattle author Jason Schmidt about his memoir "A List of Things That Didn’t Kill Me," a raw, honest look at the mix of neglect, abuse and fierce love in his own upbringing. You should buy this book, and then read it. Also, a gay man is about to go to drama school at a conservative Christian college. Should he stay in the closet just long enough to graduate and then begin the lifelong project of exacting his revenge? On the Magnum, a straight man is friends with a transwoman. Once she got her surgery, she’s suddenly super-hot to the caller. Is it time to make a move? And, breast milk: It’s not just for babies anymore! 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Harrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan" when you check out. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.
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Casual sex - fear = one sexy laboratory!

Episode #447 — May 19, 2015

A woman finds herself in the middle of a poly free-for-all when she falls for a guy who is sleeping with every woman he can get his mitts on. Is this the poly lifestyle, or just a dude with a harem? A woman is nursing a crush on a man she suspects to be gay. Is there any way she can divine the truth? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Andreas Baranowski for a “What You Got” on what happens to women when you take fear out of casual sex in a sexy, sexy laboratory. (Warning! The sound quality in this interview is pretty bad. But we can’t help it when science happens in Germany!) And the show ends where it began- with poly heartbreak. A man is crushed to hear that his girlfriend wants him to take a step back, so her girlfriend can move into his primary slot. And he thought he was so cool with the whole poly thing… It’s not for everyone, kids. 206-201-2720
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How to conduct yourself at the kinky play party.

Episode #433 — February 10, 2015

A kinkster is worried that her feminist mother will see some bruises and assume the worst about her boyfriend. How can she explain that they are in a loving, mutually satisfying Dom/sub situation? A woman doesn't like to swallow her boyfriend's come. Is this a rare condition? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Zoë Tersche from the website ThisWink.com about how to comport yourself at kinky play parties. And, a man with a heart condition is sick of his lovers going easy on him in bed. Can he ethically withhold the information that the exciting sex they are about to enjoy might make him keel over? What a way to go. 206-201-2720
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The swirling controversy around PrEP.

Episode #423 — December 2, 2014

A woman dating a water-sports enthusiast is having a hard time, just "letting go." A straight man is horrified by misogynistic, abusive porn. Why is it popular? How can he avoid it? In another instance of straight male bewilderment, a man in his 50s doesn't "get" bondage. How can he find a woman who isn't interested in 50 Shades of anything? On the Magnum, Dan spars with family therapist Damon L Jacobs on the PrEP controversy. And a sad tale of yet another rape at a fraternity, with a victim who didn't report it. 206-201-2720
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Recovering your sexuality after rape.

Episode #420 — November 11, 2014

This week Dan speaks with Janet Yassen, founder of the Boston Area Rape Crisis Center about recovering your sexuality after a sexual assault. A father struggles to explain an affair to his 12 year-old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan dishes with Dan Pashman, host of WNYC's "The Sporkful" on the connection between food, sex, and general deliciousness. And, does the HPV vaccine really work? The answer is yes. But in case you are still skeptical, Dan brings on an expert to confirm. 206-201-2720 Get tickets to our Christmas Extravaganza!! December 5, at Seattle's Neptune Theatre: www.TheStranger.com/LovecastChristmas
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What does Ann Landers' daughter think about TANTRIC SEX?

Episode #414 — September 30, 2014

This week, Dan brings on heavy-hitter advice columnist Margo Howard (daughter of THE Ann Landers…) to cackle and spar about cooking your way into your boyfriend's heart, and TANTRIC SEX of all things. Also, a very sad call about a woman who can only get off when she watches realistic date rape porn. On the Magnum, Dan brings on super lawyer Diana Adams to discuss custody battles and whether your open relationship can be held against you in court. And a lot more. 206-201-2720
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Help! My friend is trans!!!

Episode #411 — September 9, 2014

A woman is shocked to learn that her best friend is a trans woman. Why did she keep it secret? Should the caller feel betrayed? Hear the tale of the French maid outfit that ruined a relationship. A college lesbian is horrified to discover that her roommate is an aggressively anti-gay Christian. A woman's former rapist continues to harass her online. In both cases the archangel Dan Savage raises his mighty sword to do some smiting. We love a good smiting. 206-201-2720
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Do ex-girlfriends make good unicorns?

Episode #376 — January 7, 2014

Red Bull and Vodka makes him last and last and last. But is it the Red Bull or the Vodka? A man and woman want to try a three-way. Do ex-girlfriends make good unicorns? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Diana Adams, a lawyer who specializes in polyamorous families. It's the new frontier. Also, a woman wonders if she has to tell her new boyfriend about her financial troubles, and a straight man wonders how he's going to get laid when everyone thinks he's gay.
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2014 is looking just as pervy as 2013.

Episode #375 — December 31, 2013

A gal is convinced her good friend is a homo. Should she use her wiles to lure him out of the closet? A lad is good friends with a woman who admitted she has a crush on him. He doesn't feel the same way about her, but knows she would make a great life partner. Should he suggest a companionate marriage from the get-go? On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with psychologist and sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto about women's libido, and the need for variety in both genders. Also, some loud neighbors were either acting out a rape scenario, or an actual rape was taking place. Would you call the cops? Or would you just call us?
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