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Are therapists bad for your sex life?

Episode #346 — June 11, 2013

On this week's Micro version, how should you comport yourself when you're the Dungeon Monitor, and you have to watch your ex-girlfriend be some other guy's slave? A woman with high libido drifts from sex-negative guy to sex-negative guy. Why would she do this? Dan speaks with Tom Plummer from ImmigrationEquality.org about the plight of international gay couples. On the Magnum podcast, you'll hear an interview with Dr. Marty Klein about shrinks. Are they good for your sex life? A woman wonders where her new boyfriend's balls disappeared to. A pregnant woman is dismayed that her boyfriend hasn't slowed down on his drinking and carousing even a little bit. Should he quit partying in solidarity?
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An autistic virgin woman wants to get into the swinging lifestyle. Should she get sterilized now, or kick that can down the road? During a fight with his ex-girlfriend, a big man discovered that he likes getting slapped around a bit. How can he let future lovers know this, and get over his shame?  A woman on painkillers finds that she's turned on by the idea of a man "taking advantage" of her while she's blotto on meds. Is this a thing? Can it be done safely?  Silly kinkster! Everything is "a thing."  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
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A most magnanimous woman is married to a man who likes trans women. Instead of buying her an anniversary present, he bought himself time with a trans dominatrix. She wants to forgive.  A kinky widow is falling for a trans woman. But she isn't used to the staring and general hostility toward trans people. How can she tell her vanilla friends all about her new, interesting girlfriend?  Dan speaks with activist, sex educator and kinky blogger Tynan Fox about losing the childhood shame around kinky desire.  And more, more, more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.  Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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How do you hit on someone with Aspergers? This week on the Savage Lovecast, Dan speaks with Maxine Aston, author and relationship counselor who specializes in relationships and Aspergers Syndrome. Find her at www.maxineaston.co.uk Also, supporting sissy sons, kinky glitter and the damage that youthful experimentation can do.  Confidential to everyone who lost your virginity last night: Congratulations!  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.xandria.com. Enter the code SAVAGE and get 20% off your entire order. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at www.AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast Want to lend a hand in North Carolina? Go to www.protectallncfamilies.com
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A newly employed dishwasher wants to have sex with both of his bosses because he suspects they may be swingers. Is this a wise course of action?  Dan discusses the intricate financial and marketing strategies of selling your used underpants. Everybody worries about coming out to their parents, but what about grandparents? Here's a big shout-out to the open-minded oldsters out there.  And we know you're out there.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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Too much information? A woman confides in a friend that she is having an affair. Now the friend feels on the hook with this unwanted knowledge. Should she tell or clam up? A man and his girlfriend have agreed to embark on an open relationship. But it's open only for him. She's not allowed to go outside the relationship. Is this okay? Heike Rodriguez, an educator who teaches women how to achieve female ejaculation, talks with Dan in the studio and makes him squirm in about a dozen ways. Two words: vulva puppet. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day trial, go to netflix.com/savage Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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A woman and her mother have a tumultuous relationship. How will she take is when her daughter comes out as poly? A man and his wife have a great sex life, except she won't fuck his pal. Does pegging make you gay? Real men actually wonder this. Remember: It's just a dolphin. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today here: http://j.mp/savageaudible Check out Dan's It Gets Better Project
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Dear girlfriend. I love you so much. But can you please wash your vagina? A woman at the beginning of an online dating adventure is warned that her potential paramour has a terribly bruised penis from extreme masturbation. Hot or not? A man wants to date dominatrixes, but not because he wants to be a sub. He just thinks they're hot. And tons more. Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com www.ExtremeRestraints.com
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It's the gay teen episode! Dan wants you to give these folks a jingle: Teresa McNeece — superintendent tmcneece@itawamba.k12.ms.us phone (662)862-2159 Ext. 14 Principal Trae Wiygul twiygul@itawamba.k12.ms.us (662)862-3104 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten
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Exactly how leotarded is it to have centerfolds up on the walls when you're in your mid 20s? When subs marry: How can they each get what they want, when what they both want is a good whuppin'? A man's sister is shocked, appalled, and very, very inquisitive about a three-way he had recently. Is it any of her business? Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam & Eve. Receive 50% off most any item, when you enter "Savage" at check-out: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve
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