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with Rachel Lark

Episode #553 — May 30, 2017

Oh, that nasty chef! A woman works in a restaurant where her manager is having an affair with the married chef. Sometimes the caller has to serve the chef's poor innocent wife. It's so cruel that all the servers are about to revolt. A married man harbors a cuckolding fantasy. He is certain his wife would never-ever be into it. But would she? Also, we couldn't help but play a couple of Rachel Lark songs, cuz they're so good. And on the Magnum, have you heard of "Hypersomnia?" A woman can't keep herself awake, sometimes at inopportune times, and she worries she'll be taken advantage of. Dan brings on a sleep medicine expert to discuss. Also, a woman who makes a lot of noise during sex, is confused when she gives her boyfriend the best head ever, and he is...perfectly silent.
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Nathaniel Frank on gay marriage.

Episode #552 — May 23, 2017

A straight male weight-lifter likes to shave his chest and pits. His friends are giving him grief about it. How can this sensitive strongman get over the peer pressure and revel in his smooth, smooth body? A gay man's foster son has had a rough life. And now he realizes they are both on Grindr. Awkward? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Nathaniel Frank, author of Awakening: How Gays and Lesbians Brought Marriage Equality to America. And, a woman's sister used to be in an abusive relationship, which she kept hidden. Now she's got a new guy, and guess what? He's a creep! Should the caller speak up? 206-302-2064
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Marc Andreyko from Love is Love.

Episode #546 — April 11, 2017

Gather round, Lovecast listeners. Hear the tale of the pansexual housecleaner and the nasty surprise. Can a giant penis instigate menstrual bleeding? Is there anything a giant penis can't do? Ob/gyn and activist Leah Torres, is here to answer. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Marc Andreyko, creator of Love is Love: the beautiful, heart-rending compilation of comics commemorating the Pulse shootings. If you haven't yet gotten a copy, please do. Dan and Marc chat about the horror of that event as well as the immediate surge of support he encountered in making this important work. And, a grown man's mommy and daddy won't let him share a bed with his girlfriend at the hotel they are paying for. Solutions? 206-302-2064
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Cannibal Cop

Episode #543 — March 21, 2017

A woman's father is planning to go to Russia to fetch his new mail-order bride. How can the caller convince her delusional father that this is not such a good idea? Hear the sordid tale of the Ambien-befuddled, drunky, but also kind of hot step-mother who came on to her step-son in a most aggressive and lascivious way. Now that some years have passed should the caller seek redress? On the Magnum, remember the "Cannibal Cop?" He was the NYPD cop who chatted with his buddies about plans to kidnap, kill and eat ladies. And now he's an author! Dan interviews co-author Brian Whitney about the book, and the...unsavory issues it raises. A woman is dating a man who is so jealous that he insisted that she get rid of her bed, sheets, pillows- everything associated with a previous lover. And guess what? She did it! 206-302-2064
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When your partner has BPD.

Episode #540 — February 28, 2017

A woman's 61 year-old father confided that he has discovered kink. Should she help to connect him to kink resources when she herself is vanilla, and also...his daughter? A man worries that his attraction to East-Indian women might be racist. Dan helps unpack the complicated issues around attraction to specific races. On the Magnum, Dan talks with Randi Kreger, author and expert on Borderline Personality Disorder about dating someone with this unpleasant condition. And, all hail the Cuck-Queen! Dan chats with a woman who gets off on her husband sleeping with other women. Dan instructs her on the alchemical art of turning jealousy into lust.
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Sex Toy Review: Silver Bullet!

Episode #535 — January 24, 2017

"Boyfriend, boyfriend, there's a lump in your testicle!" Should the caller deliver this news bluntly or keep her discovery to herself? A mother's 9-year old son wants to be a stripper when he grows up. How can this mom advise him and keep her cool? Erika Moen from Oh Joy Sex Toy is on for our monthly Sex Toy Review to talk about a whizzy little toy that will make you happy, and won't bankrupt you in the process. Her boyfriend's uncle just served Hamburger Helper. It's the first time she's met the man. Should she politely decline, or choke it down and smile wanly? Dan has some strategies. Oh. And click here. www.impeachthemotherfuckeralready.com Or here! 206-302-2064
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Our new sex toy review!

Episode #528 — December 6, 2016

A poly woman is very happy with her much older dom. But ever since her mother saw some photos of her daughter all trussed up and naked, the boyfriend is totally not invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas. Is it the age difference? How can our caller convince her mother that her lover is a good guy? A hand-wringing, feminist, good-hearted man wants to try rape-play with his wife. How can he delicately, tenderly suggest he pretend to rape her. You know, if she wants him to. Welcome to our first installment of the Monthly New Sex Toy Review. (We'll think of a clever name for it later.) Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy" is on to tell us about a piece of furniture you JUST MIGHT NEED. A woman is about to get married. Her bestie just confessed that she is having an affair with a married man. How could she?! The caller was going to ask her to be her bridesmaid, but now that she has besmirched the sanctity of marriage, well... huff! She's having second thoughts! Dan schools her real good. 206-302-2064
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Kink Bonanza with "No Safe Word."

Episode #527 — November 29, 2016

A gay man wonders if it's possible to have a happy, healthy, poly triad. Can sex give you acne? Dan consults a professor of dermatology to get to the bottom of this one. On the Magnum, a special treat for you uber-kinksters. The gentlemen from the No Safe Word podcast are on to discuss (among other things,) 24/7 master/slave relationships, scat play, and gay orgies in Texas. You're welcome. 206-302-2064
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No on Prop 60!

Episode #523 — November 1, 2016

On the worst birthday EVER, a woman learns that her beloved long distance boyfriend...has a wife. If the wife asks her, should she lie for him? A man's friend is dating a guy who gets coked up, turns the photos of her face-down and hires prostitutes to sleep with him in their shared bed. How can the caller convince his friend to DTMFA? Hey California! How's it going? Please vote NO on Prop 60, won't you? Dan and porn activist/performer Conner Habib explain it for you. On the Magnum, a woman who is about to enjoy a three-way with a couple of men, worries the men will compete with each other. Dan uses his most reassuring tones to ease her mind. 206-302-2064
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Parenting Horror Stories

Episode #522 — October 25, 2016

A man has been with his boyfriend for 1.5 years. The caller's family is loving and welcoming to the boyfriend. But the boyfriend's family won't accept his homosexuality and won't allow the caller to join them at Thanksgiving etc. How long must our caller wait for his boyfriend to grow a pair, and tell his family to piss off already? Next up, we'll just share the title of this call: "Take Your Chances at the All-Girl Orgy?" NOW you're gonna listen aren't you? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the hosts of One Bad Mother, a delightful parenting podcast, about some gnarly situations parents find themselves in. And, a woman is excited to start having three-ways with her boyfriend. EXCEPT. He's a terrible lover, and the caller worries his lack of skill will queer the deal. 206-302-2064
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