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When Gays ATTACK!

Episode #351 — July 16, 2013

Her boyfriend wants it every day. She can manage 4-6 times per week but he still berates her for not putting out enough. Who's side will Dan come down on? Here's another gem of a boyfriend: He won't compliment her or show any signs of affection. He hasn't told his friends about her, and won't pay for anything or inconvenience himself in any way. Foreplay? Nope! And yet, our heroine is still smitten. Meanwhile, over at Seattle's gay pride parade, did an angry mob of lesbians brutally attack a kind and hapless preacher? JoeMyGod's Joe Jervis has the story. On the Magnum version, we present a drinking game. Every time you hear the word "whatever" or "yadda, yadda, yadda," you take a shot. In a sobering call, we learn of a bad case of Domestic Partnership Castration Syndrome, in which a man loses his erections after going through the commitment ceremony. And, a fem dom woman prepares to go to a party where the women wear clothes and men remain naked. Will she and her cross-dressing boyfriend have a good time? Will the other subs in the room imprint on her like a mama duckling?
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Dan chats with the Perverted Negress.

Episode #348 — June 25, 2013

Kids today! A woman agrees to give her new lover her used panties. He then reports that his eleven-year old nephew got a hold of them and did unspeakable things with them. What kind of messed up family are we dealing with here? Another kid! Listen to this kid! She's 18, and her gay co-worker is setting up "dates" between her and his 30 year old friends to have sex with her while he watches. But lest you think he's a monster, don't worry- he's offered to provide the drugs and booze. And over on the Magnum side, a cool interview with Mollena Williams, a.k.a. "The Perverted Negress" on getting started in the kink community. And finally, Dan does what Dan does best: he talks a gay lad into demanding that his bigoted family either accept him as he is, or lose his presence at the Christmas table. And so much more, really.
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Are therapists bad for your sex life?

Episode #346 — June 11, 2013

On this week's Micro version, how should you comport yourself when you're the Dungeon Monitor, and you have to watch your ex-girlfriend be some other guy's slave? A woman with high libido drifts from sex-negative guy to sex-negative guy. Why would she do this? Dan speaks with Tom Plummer from ImmigrationEquality.org about the plight of international gay couples. On the Magnum podcast, you'll hear an interview with Dr. Marty Klein about shrinks. Are they good for your sex life? A woman wonders where her new boyfriend's balls disappeared to. A pregnant woman is dismayed that her boyfriend hasn't slowed down on his drinking and carousing even a little bit. Should he quit partying in solidarity?
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This show is for the ladies.

Episode #345 — June 4, 2013

This show is for the ladies. First Dan attempts to smash the patriarchy with his opening rant. Then he sticks up for a woman whose military husband won't fuck her. And! The magically clever and hilarious Lindy West comes forth with the female perspective on men who think your vagina is disgusting. There was a long line of women who offered their techniques for getting rid of grabby, cat-calling men. Listen in. Also, David Jay, from asexuality.org talks to Dan on how to come out as a non-sex-having person. And a lot more.
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Dan and Mistress Matisse chat about BDSM.

Episode #343 — May 21, 2013

"She wants a dom, not a dick." Gather round everyone, and listen in as Dan Savage and Mistress Matisse gab about BDSM, where kink comes from, fantasy BDSM vs. non-consensual abuse and how to meet a kinky mate. Also, hear the blow by blow account of a woman who went from her unicorn audition to opening night in a single date. Three-way etiquette tip #46: Couples- it is polite to thank your unicorn with a kind note.
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It's the One-Minute Wonders show! All questions less than a minute! Fast!  Topics: Prostate massage, kinky punishment, kiss-o-phobes, deep throat breath play, uncut blowjobs, yucky facials, double penetration and so much more.  You can do it too.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.  Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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Do you know what a "'bater" is? A 'bater only wants to masturbate. No sex. Now, now would a relationship between a 'bater and a sex-loving fella work out, you think?  A bride-to-be enlists Dan's advice on how to bring her rape fantasy to life on their honeymoon.  A woman has sex-crippling vaginal pain. Dan speaks with human sexuality expert Dr. Debby Herbenick on what she can do.  And more.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.  Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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Ugh! She's so BORED. Bored of tying up her boyfriend and having sex with another woman. Bored with calling him a "little bitch." The real problem is that he won't lift a finger to give her what she wants. It just goes to show that when you're into vanilla, kinky sex can be dull, dull, dull.  Another woman wonders how to be GGG when the sex he wants makes her cry.  And yet another woman asks how she can forgive her boyfriend for stealing naked pictures of her off her computer.  Boy. Some of you are real cads. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.  Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast Savage Lovecast Live in Seattle! To buy tickets to see Dan and the TSARY (we're not quite sure WHAT to wear…) go to www.stgpresents.org
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How can a chronically adulterous lass embark on an open relationship when she is also chronically jealous?  When he was a youth, he and his cousin used to play strip poker. Now the cousin is all grown up, a born again Christian, and pissed. Should make for an awkward family gathering, yes?  A woman is dating a callous, disdainful and incredibly handsome man. He won't have sex with her, but will only deign to accept blow jobs. Any ideas on what she should do with this young man?  But he's so hot!  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the offer code Savage3 for a 30% discount. 
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This week, Dan is joined by his animal handler, Lucy! Lucy can answer questions about shit skid marks left on couches, cheating lying girlfriends, jerk dom creeps AND do Dan's laundry with a smile. She is truly a wonder. Call us with your questions. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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