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No kissing at the orgy.

Episode #371 — December 3, 2013

When attending an orgy, what is the proper etiquette in explaining that you are deathly allergic to beeswax, and therefore cannot kiss anyone for fear one of attendees might have used lip balm? Demi-sexuality: Is it a thing? A woman wonders if she should try to explain birth control to her inexperienced cousin, on her wedding night. Continuing on the Magnums, Dan speaks with Sophia Wallace, creator of "Cliteracy" about her art and her message. And more!
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Lesbian Roller Derby Sleepover, you guys!!

Episode #369 — November 19, 2013

Is it selfish to have a vasectomy? Lesbian roller derby sleepover! A lesbian couple are hosting a sleepover for the all-girl roller derby team that they coach. Some of the girls are gay, and coupled. Should the girls all sleep in one big dog pile where they can be monitored, or should the couples have their own private suites? A man who blogs about his dating adventures asks if he is morally obliged to tell his dates that they may be written about. On the Magnum version, what should you tell your kids when you're going to have Thanksgiving with some family members who are in a loving triad? Speaking of triads, Dan works himself into a froth trying to figure out how to help a woman realize her fantasy of sleeping with two men. Will she succeed? Stay tuned... And more! 206-201-2720
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The Nipple Thing.

Episode #357 — August 27, 2013

Dan helps a woman determine the fine line between over-permissiveness and slut-shaming for her 14 year-old step-daughter. In more hand-wringing, a young man wants to be sure he obtains consent from his lucky ladies, but how much asking is too much asking? On the Magnum show, a woman's boyfriend enjoys a nosefull of cocaine every month or so. She hates it. Does she have the right to ask him to choose between her or his precious blow? Dan explains the finer points of slut etiquette to a lass who prefers to dash off rather than spend the night. And finally, hear the tale of the woman whose snooping revealed that her boyfriend was having an affair with his mother's secretary. Stop that snooping ya'll, lest you learn something you wish you hadn't.
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Are therapists bad for your sex life?

Episode #346 — June 11, 2013

On this week's Micro version, how should you comport yourself when you're the Dungeon Monitor, and you have to watch your ex-girlfriend be some other guy's slave? A woman with high libido drifts from sex-negative guy to sex-negative guy. Why would she do this? Dan speaks with Tom Plummer from ImmigrationEquality.org about the plight of international gay couples. On the Magnum podcast, you'll hear an interview with Dr. Marty Klein about shrinks. Are they good for your sex life? A woman wonders where her new boyfriend's balls disappeared to. A pregnant woman is dismayed that her boyfriend hasn't slowed down on his drinking and carousing even a little bit. Should he quit partying in solidarity?
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When you're an 18 year-old homo living in the South, and your mother is a conservative Christian pastor, how on earth do you come out?  Oooooh, how tantalizing! A famous comedian is maybe cheating on his wife based on dubious hearsay!  We all  know that gays should come out as soon as it's safe for them to do so.  But what about folks in open relationships? Does mom need to know about partner #2?  Oh, and if you were planning on sending Dan a carton of smokes for Christmas, you might want to rethink that.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter GGGSeptember at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage 
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A man's boyfriend's super-hot ex-lover is coming back to town. Should he feel jealous and insecure when they go out for drinks, or start scheming to make a three-way happen?  A man got dumped by his girlfriend. He demanded that she submit an explanation in writing. For some reason, she hasn't done this yet. Any chance they'll get back together?  And a typical question about dick-biting.  Ho hum.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter GGGJuly at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by www.Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or a blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code “Savage7” for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.
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A most magnanimous woman is married to a man who likes trans women. Instead of buying her an anniversary present, he bought himself time with a trans dominatrix. She wants to forgive.  A kinky widow is falling for a trans woman. But she isn't used to the staring and general hostility toward trans people. How can she tell her vanilla friends all about her new, interesting girlfriend?  Dan speaks with activist, sex educator and kinky blogger Tynan Fox about losing the childhood shame around kinky desire.  And more, more, more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.  Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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How do you hit on someone with Aspergers? This week on the Savage Lovecast, Dan speaks with Maxine Aston, author and relationship counselor who specializes in relationships and Aspergers Syndrome. Find her at www.maxineaston.co.uk Also, supporting sissy sons, kinky glitter and the damage that youthful experimentation can do.  Confidential to everyone who lost your virginity last night: Congratulations!  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.xandria.com. Enter the code SAVAGE and get 20% off your entire order. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at www.AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast Want to lend a hand in North Carolina? Go to www.protectallncfamilies.com
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If your lady has a dream about being penetrated by five dicks, does that mean she actually wants to be penetrated by five dicks? Have you ever masturbated for a pretty lady on Chatroulette? Well, here's a man with a pretty face who looks a lot like a lady. Perhaps you've already met. And for those of you with troubled relationships with your siblings, come hear the horrid tale of the woman who hacked into her sister's e-mail, discovered that she has bi tendencies, and then forwarded these e-mails to everyone she knows. Now your sister doesn't look so bad, right?   Right? 206-201-2720   Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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Baby? I know we don't know each other all that well, but I dig you so much that I want you to sleep with another man. Ok? Is it true that soon churches will be FORCED to marry same sex couples or lose their delicious tax exemption??? A woman who hasn't had sex for years is considering ordering in. But should she rent a man or a woman? And more. Lordy, you people are interesting! Call us up with whatever you got: 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download Susie Bright's podcast for free at AudiblePodcast.com/inbed Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast And finally. The Tech-Savvy At-Risk Youth command you to listen to this podcast as well: My Brother, My Brother and Me. Why? Because it's really, really funny. You'll see.
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