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Drinking in Moderation?!

Episode #629 — November 13, 2018

Here in Seattle, we have a sportsball team called "The Sounders." On the Savage Lovecast, well, it's another matter altogether. Oh look! It's Nancy, putting the men who fear/refuse vasectomies on blast. Dan's on your side, fellas. Nancy is not. On the Magnum, a caller has hit rock bottom and quit drinking. But he wonders if he can ever have a single beer again. Is it possible to drink in moderation if you're an alcoholic? Dan brings on clinical psychologist (and co-founder of CheckUp & Choices) Dr. Reid Hester to puzzle this one out. And, a heartbreaking, kind-of terrible call from a woman whose son has been convicted of sexual assault discovers "ravishment porn" on her boyfriend's computer. Oh, it is all just such a mess. We have it on good authority that you too, are a mess. 206-302-2064
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Mom discovered a portable pussy sex toy in her teenaged son's backpack. Are you a mother? Do you plan to be one someday? What will you do when you discover a portable pussy in your teenaged son's backpack? A man and his girlfriend see each other every few months. And when they do, hoo boy! They have sex every few hours. By the end of their time together she feels sore. Right? She wants to try pegging him so he can understand what it's like to be penetrated so frequently. He wonders if this is even analogous. Dan brings a bit of clarity to this fraught situation. And, oh my god speaking of fraught! A father asked his daughter to lie to mom about the earring in the hot tub and say it was hers, when it WASN'T. At first the daughter agreed to lie for her dad, but then wisely changed her mind. Now what? And, on the Magnum, Dan chats with Slate writer Evan Urquhart- a trans guy who covers LGBTQ issues about dating trans folk.
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Male escorting- a sociological study.

Episode #601 — May 1, 2018

A married man and his wife are planning some swinging fun times. But one of the people who responded to his anonymous post is his high school pal! Should he tell her who he is? That he knows who she is? Oh my god, this could be SO EMBARRASSING. A woman and her boyfriend used to have frequent, fantastic sex..when he was drunk. Now that he's sober, their love-life is bland and scant. How can they have hot, booze-free sex? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr John Scott, a sociology Professor from Brisbane, Australia about his work studying male escorts. And, a married woman bemoans the fact that her husband won't throw her around and take his pleasure. He won't consent to an open marriage. What's this libidinous lass to do?
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Get Thee to a Therapist, Go. With Buck Angel.

Episode #577 — November 14, 2017

Gather round the circle listeners, as Dan invokes the serenity prayer to council a woman who is being trolled by her neighbor's WiFi network name. A trans man who has not yet begun his transition, is angry and frustrated that he can't find any gay men who are interested in him. Buck Angel, (a.k.a the Man with a Pussy) swoops in to give much-needed, rational perspective. On the Magnum: Get Thee to a Therapist, Go. A treasure trove of callers who perhaps could use the services of an actual professional. Or not. Whatever. 206-302-2064
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Sex Toy Review! This one's HEAVY.

Episode #571 — October 3, 2017

Darling? Whatever shall we do at our coming trip to the Bondage Bed & Breakfast? A married woman gets busted by her husband for camming. She doesn't consider it cheating, and it gets her so, so horny. How can she reconcile with her husband and still get her camming rocks off? On the magnum, Dan brings back our regular guest, Erika Moen to go over a HEAVY sex toy you all should add to your arsenal. And, a man's sister is a former prison guard who started dating one of the inmates. He doesn't seem like the best person, and the caller is very worried about what will happens we he gets out. Yikes.
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All about your father's penis.

Episode #567 — September 5, 2017

A couple are dismayed that the condom keeps slipping off when they're doing it doggie style. Dan offers some time-honored tricks. Disability Awareness Consultant Andrew Gurza, schools us all about dating folks with disabilities. On the Magnum, Dan chats with author Jesse Bering about penis size and natural selection. Science! And speaking of penises, can you pump that thing up and make it bigger in the same way you can stretch an earlobe? 206-302-2064
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Michael Hobbes on gay, middle-aged dating.

Episode #556 — June 20, 2017

Wait. Are public orgasms ok now? A man and his girlfriend observed a woman having one, right there, out on the street, in broad daylight. A gay man broke one of his rules. His boyfriend is still closeted to his family, and when they come to town, the caller has to clear out. Can this work? Does he have to break up? On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and editor Michael Hobbes about the particular challenges middle-aged gay men face in dating. Finally... "Hey there, old friend who I used to know in high school! I'm back in town, and thought we could meet and reconnect, in some sort of low-key way, like maybe you could come with me to get my nipple pierced! What do you mean your girlfriend doesn't like this idea?" 206-302-2064
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The pleasures and dangers of choking.

Episode #533 — January 10, 2017

A man's friend came out when they were in high school. Now after a sojourn to the desert to "pray away the gay" the tortured closet case is "church hunting for a bride." Can his pal talk him out of this? A woman's co-worker tried to kiss her at work, despite her unrelentingly professional demeanor, and complete lack of interest. Now they have to go on a work trip together. How can she bat him away? Should she skip the trip? On the Magnum, Dan chats with a kink expert about choking. Anybody have some better words for pussy than...pussy? 206-302-2064
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With the Liberal Redneck!

Episode #519 — October 4, 2016

Dan welcomes Trae Crowder, or "the Liberal Redneck" (our favorite redneck) to tackle some questions about conservative Christian bigots, guns and spit. It's a great conversation- do have a listen. Also, a lesbian is dismayed that her girlfriend insists she take a shower every time they have sex. Is she a germophobe or... what? And, a man's girlfriend has announced that she wants to take up smoking. Nicotine. Not even weed. Why? Because her father smoked. AND, a man working on a political campaign wants to fuck his intern. Good idea? Bad idea? These campaigns can be STRESSFUL, man. 206-302-2064
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With Tegan and Sara

Episode #511 — August 9, 2016

A young man living at home is getting blamed for his father's second divorce. That sounds like kind of a raw deal doesn't it? A man is in a GREAT relationship with his girlfriend. It's SO AWESOME. Except when she gets drunk and verbally abuses him. So there's that. On the Magnum, Dan chats with identical twin, queer, pop-star heart-throbs, Tegan and Sara about online dating, and what to do with that bottle of conditioner your ex left behind in the shower. A man and his wife are going through hard times. Thank goodness for Linda, his mother-in-law who is there to help. Except...she's always there! How can our caller carve out some Linda-free time to fuck his wife already? 206-302-2064
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