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With Cory Doctorow

Episode #729 — October 13, 2020

A woman's friend is acting like a damn fool. Again. She plans to travel across the country to meet a man she met online, without even having spoken to him on the phone. Is she getting catfished? Who knows? Should the caller try to talk her gullible, sensitive friend out of this recklessness? An erotic dancer feels guilty when her customers fall in love with her. Is she leading them on? On the Magnum, Dan welcomes back writer and digital rights activist Cory Doctorow. They discuss the appeal of conspiracy theories, Joe Biden, and texting expectations among many other things. And, a man and his long term girlfriend have mis-matched libidos. He is poly and horny. She is asexual. They are about to adopt her cousins and raise them together. So now would be a difficult time to begin a relationship with a dear friend of theirs, right? Maybe, maybe not. It's always so complicated! 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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A man is going through a divorce from his wife of 7 years. Although their breakup was peaceful, now her communication is curt and unfriendly. Is he entitled to feel angry about her unwarranted coldness? A man kindly lent a friend some money. Now she keeps asking him for more and more every month! Should he just set her up with a regular payment, or cut off the friendship? On the Micro and the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with Dr. Wednesday Martin, author of Untrue, about women's libido, how it really works, and how our culture's misunderstanding harms relationships. A group of folks were disparaging "outie vaginas" at a party. One of the women there got awfully quiet. Did they offend her? Is this the equivalent of making fun of itsy-bitsy, teeny-tiny penises?
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Mob Queens with Michael Seligman

Episode #674 — September 24, 2019

It's your typical story: Man has sex with girl who has only 2 fingers on one of her hands. Man never calls girl again because he only wanted casual sex anyway. Years later, man feels guilty for not calling girl with disability because he worries she will think he ghosted her because of her weird hand. Man calls homosexual sex advice podcaster for absolution. A man and his wife are embarking on some sex club explorations. Dan chats with the man about how to stay safe and keep his head together and his marriage strong. Also, there is talk of glory holes. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Michael Seligman, co-host of "Mob Queens" a podcast about some deliciously sordid gay history. Finally, a woman was hooking up with a guy who came on her chest and then licked it up. So far so good. But her friends, including her gay male friends, are grossed out to hear this detail. What is going on here? Why the squick factor?
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What do we do now that Tumblr is dead?

Episode #658 — June 4, 2019

Here's a conundrum: A black, gay man is married to his white husband. They want to drive into threesomes, but the black man is only attracted to white men and the white man is only attracted to black men. So you see. This is a real pickle. Meanwhile, a straight man has fantasies where he is a gay leather daddy, and his real life butch lesbian friend is his sub "boy." Is this a thought crime? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Fast Company freelance journalist Sean Captain about the sad demise of Tumblr as safe space to find sweet, sweet pornography. He talks about the media landscape and what is emerging as Tumblr's likely replacements. And, a man who recently moved to Los Angeles, feels daunted by his new roommate who thinks she's psychic and talks to spirits. Is everyone like this in LA?
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People are...good? With Nicholas A. Christakis.

Episode #653 — April 30, 2019

A kinky woman enjoys having slaves. But the guy she really likes is vanilla. It didn't work out. This is sad. Does being kinky mean you can't have vanilla love too? A school teacher and her boyfriend want to go to a sex club. But she's worried about running into parents of her students, or school administration. How cautious should this sexy schoolmarm be? On the Magnum, Dan chats with sociologist and author Nicholas A. Christakis about his book: Blueprint: The Evolutionary Origins of a Good Society. They discuss monogamy, polyandry, polygyny and the human propensity for ...wait for it...peace and love. How he fares against eternal pessimist Dan Savage is up to you to decide. And, a fat man bemoans the lack of porn celebrating fat men.
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Strap it on... with Tristan Taormino!

Episode #628 — November 6, 2018

A woman has been with her fiancé for 4 years. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, he's started moaning and groaning in bed like a porn starlet. Why the sudden vocalizations? IS HE CHEATING ON HER? An asexual, non-binary person feels like an invader when they show up at BDSM parties. Is it alright to join that community when you are uninterested in sex? On the Magnum, we are delighted to welcome back author, sex educator and bitter podcasting rival Tristan Taormino. She and Dan discuss strap-ons, and how to peg your partner real good. Two HIV negative gay men have been together for 5 years. They started acting out role-play scenes where one infects the other. It's been super hot, but the caller is uncomfortable even pretending such a thing. He is old enough to remember the worst days of AIDs. Is this role play ok? Or a thought crime? Do whatchoo wanna. 206-302-2064
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Where do kinks come from?

Episode #608 — June 19, 2018

A woman had offered an Amazon delivery guy a drink of water in her house, and gave him her phone number. One year later he started sending her nasty messages and dick pics. Should she report him to his employer? Call the cops? A divorced man's 13 year-old daughter came out to him as a "homo-romantic asexual." Should he tell her conservative Christian mother? Also, is this just a phase? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Phd student Sam Hughes about his work exploring why some people are kinky. And, hear the tale of the lice-ridden, bed bugs-carryin', panty-free hippy chick.
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Dating an asexual.

Episode #602 — May 8, 2018

A woman's husband installed a hidden camera in their house. We aren't saying WHERE he installed it, but you should know that this call made us take off our headphones for a second. As a young man navigates through his dating life, he finds that the girls he's really attracted to ghost him, and the gals he's lukewarm about chase him with conviction. Why?! Dan chats with the lad and gives him a clue. On the Magnum Dan speaks with Dr. Lori Brotto about having a fulfilling relationship with an asexual. Check out her book here. And, THE INTERNET IS NOT SAFE FOR YOU. Our guest, Anthony Hecht is a little less alarmist than that, but not much
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Let's Play "Spot the Abuser!" with Lynn Fairweather.

Episode #581 — December 12, 2017

The kinksters have their "aftercare"- time after a rough sexual encounter to reconnect and comfort each other. But what about after casual vanilla sex? A woman wants to instigate an aftercare revolution for all. Dan gently, patiently explains away some men's rights nonsense to a man incensed at at a fictional "double standard." On the Magnum, a woman who tends to choose abusive men wonders how she can prevent herself from making this mistake over and over again. Dan brings on Lynn Fairweather, domestic violence consultant, speaker, and author of "Stop Signs: Recognizing, Avoiding, and Escaping Abusive Relationships" to help pick this lock. A caller used to be a terrible person with terrible friends. How can she start over? It starts by calling 206-302-2064
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Mistress Matisse and her Velvet Swing

Episode #558 — July 4, 2017

A gay marine wants to keep his dick locked up in a chastity cage. His problem is...wait. Isn't that first sentence enough for you? A straight man has noticed that ALL of his friends are into feet. Why would this be? On the Magnum we welcome Mistress Matisse, to talk about her new magical lube. Also with Mistress Matisse, how can you explain the beautiful bruises your dom gives you? 206-302-2064
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