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Strap it on... with Tristan Taormino!

Episode #628 — November 6, 2018

A woman has been with her fiancé for 4 years. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, he's started moaning and groaning in bed like a porn starlet. Why the sudden vocalizations? IS HE CHEATING ON HER? An asexual, non-binary person feels like an invader when they show up at BDSM parties. Is it alright to join that community when you are uninterested in sex? On the Magnum, we are delighted to welcome back author, sex educator and bitter podcasting rival Tristan Taormino. She and Dan discuss strap-ons, and how to peg your partner real good. Two HIV negative gay men have been together for 5 years. They started acting out role-play scenes where one infects the other. It's been super hot, but the caller is uncomfortable even pretending such a thing. He is old enough to remember the worst days of AIDs. Is this role play ok? Or a thought crime? Do whatchoo wanna. 206-302-2064
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Where do kinks come from?

Episode #608 — June 19, 2018

A woman had offered an Amazon delivery guy a drink of water in her house, and gave him her phone number. One year later he started sending her nasty messages and dick pics. Should she report him to his employer? Call the cops? A divorced man's 13 year-old daughter came out to him as a "homo-romantic asexual." Should he tell her conservative Christian mother? Also, is this just a phase? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Phd student Sam Hughes about his work exploring why some people are kinky. And, hear the tale of the lice-ridden, bed bugs-carryin', panty-free hippy chick.
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Dating an asexual.

Episode #602 — May 8, 2018

A woman's husband installed a hidden camera in their house. We aren't saying WHERE he installed it, but you should know that this call made us take off our headphones for a second. As a young man navigates through his dating life, he finds that the girls he's really attracted to ghost him, and the gals he's lukewarm about chase him with conviction. Why?! Dan chats with the lad and gives him a clue. On the Magnum Dan speaks with Dr. Lori Brotto about having a fulfilling relationship with an asexual. Check out her book here. And, THE INTERNET IS NOT SAFE FOR YOU. Our guest, Anthony Hecht is a little less alarmist than that, but not much
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Let's Play "Spot the Abuser!" with Lynn Fairweather.

Episode #581 — December 12, 2017

The kinksters have their "aftercare"- time after a rough sexual encounter to reconnect and comfort each other. But what about after casual vanilla sex? A woman wants to instigate an aftercare revolution for all. Dan gently, patiently explains away some men's rights nonsense to a man incensed at at a fictional "double standard." On the Magnum, a woman who tends to choose abusive men wonders how she can prevent herself from making this mistake over and over again. Dan brings on Lynn Fairweather, domestic violence consultant, speaker, and author of "Stop Signs: Recognizing, Avoiding, and Escaping Abusive Relationships" to help pick this lock. A caller used to be a terrible person with terrible friends. How can she start over? It starts by calling 206-302-2064
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Mistress Matisse and her Velvet Swing

Episode #558 — July 4, 2017

A gay marine wants to keep his dick locked up in a chastity cage. His problem is...wait. Isn't that first sentence enough for you? A straight man has noticed that ALL of his friends are into feet. Why would this be? On the Magnum we welcome Mistress Matisse, to talk about her new magical lube. Also with Mistress Matisse, how can you explain the beautiful bruises your dom gives you? 206-302-2064
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Michael Hobbes on gay, middle-aged dating.

Episode #556 — June 20, 2017

Wait. Are public orgasms ok now? A man and his girlfriend observed a woman having one, right there, out on the street, in broad daylight. A gay man broke one of his rules. His boyfriend is still closeted to his family, and when they come to town, the caller has to clear out. Can this work? Does he have to break up? On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and editor Michael Hobbes about the particular challenges middle-aged gay men face in dating. Finally... "Hey there, old friend who I used to know in high school! I'm back in town, and thought we could meet and reconnect, in some sort of low-key way, like maybe you could come with me to get my nipple pierced! What do you mean your girlfriend doesn't like this idea?" 206-302-2064
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The dark tale of the Nazi Granny.

Episode #529 — December 13, 2016

A woman is living at her boyfriend's house with his parents while he is away. Guess what! The dad has started kissing her on the mouth and tries to slip her the tongue. Should she tell her boyfriend that his father is a loathsome fiend? Speaking of loathsome fiends, a woman's boyfriend is so obsessed with her keeping slim that he snatches food out of her mouth and tosses it on the floor. Any ideas what she should do? In a "What You Got?" a researcher discusses his study about men who are attracted to transwomen. What's your grandmother like? Well, this caller's grandmother, (originally from Germany,) still admires Adolf Hitler. The nazi granny lives in a senior home, and the caller is charged with bringing her groceries. What would you do? Welcome to our wonderful world. 206-302-2064
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Dr. Lori Brotto on asexuality

Episode #525 — November 15, 2016

Welcome to the Savage Lovecast where we are ready to fight like hell to take our country back. Are you? Apparently, Trump-voting family members are a thing. Should you spend your holidays with these people? Dan's answer will not shock you. A divorced man has started dating a new woman. When he was married he got caught seeing a sex-worker and it became a public scandal. When should he tell his new love about his past? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lori Brotto in a "What You Got?" about asexuality. A straight man starts shaking uncontrollably whenever he is about to have sex, and it ruins everything. How can he get over this? A man was together with his wife for 13 years. Then she left him for a woman....a rich woman. So did she leave him for the scratch or the snatch?
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With AIDS activist Peter Staley.

Episode #477 — December 15, 2015

A stoned gentleman is wracked with guilt for making the dog he’s caring for stop masturbating already! (Maybe he should be hitting the indica rather than the sativa, say the TSARY.) “Virginity is obsolete as a concept,” declares this 20 year-old woman, who is seeing an 18 year-old lad with precious little experience. How can she take care of her little darling and gently guide him to the land of sexual pleasure, honoring the campsite rule? A strident feminist has found a man who can really get her off. The problem is that he is a chauvenist pig! Is it ethical to sleep with the enemy? On the Magnum, Dan and AIDS activist Peter Staley get into a dust-up over PreP and its effect on rising STD rates among gay men. (Don’t worry, they’re still friends.) Get your Savage Lovecast coffee mugs over at www.thestranger.com/savageswag 206-302-2064
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Tristan Taormino on reclaiming your ass.

Episode #455 — July 14, 2015

An opening rant on Zachery Anderson, who was unfairly imprisoned and put on the sex offenders registry, because an uptight judge wants you to know that hook-up apps are terribly naughty. A man wonders if he should personally confront a guy he knows who creeps on women. On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and rival advice columnist Tristan Taormino about reclaiming the pleasure of anal sex after an assault. And, hear the tale of the strangest job a housecleaner has ever been offered. 206-201-2720
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