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Dan Savage worships Goddess Charlotte Lashes.

Episode #771 — August 3, 2021

Our opening "sexcess" story will make all the licensed massage therapists cringe. We are truly sorry. A woman and her girlfriend have gotten in the habit of using baby voices with each other. They know this is terrible, but they can't stop. Dan! Make them stop! On the Magnum, Dan continues crushing out on dominatrixes. This week, he interviews Goddess Charlotte Lashes about financial domination, kinky conservatives, and boyfriends who are being dominated by their mothers. Goddess Charlotte COMMANDS YOU TO LISTEN. A bisexual woman is very attracted to penises. She likes everything about cis women except their vaginas. And she's attracted to trans folks...but only if they have a dick. So, is this wrong? When she's on a date, how and when should she ask what they have down below? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Those naughty ancient Greeks.

Episode #765 — June 22, 2021

A mother in Central America is worried that her son is being a little too risky when he walks home from the beach in women's clothing. When she confronts him about this, he calls her a transphobic, homophobic boomer. Teens! Am I right? A woman is afraid that her boyfriend will cheat on her. And yet, she fantasizes that her boyfriend is cheating on her. How can she preserve her self-esteem while indulging her cuckqueen instincts? On the Magnum, it turns out the ancient Greeks were wrong about cunnilingus! Dan interviews Mark Haskell Smith author of "Rude Talk in Athens" which explores how comedians in ancient Athens brawled with each other. One of the worst insults was to accuse another of going down on a lady. Silly ancient Greeks. And, are the terms "tops" and "bottoms" only for the gays? And can straight polyamorous people march in the pride parade?
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Sometimes the "happy ending" in an erotic massage can go both ways. Our caller enjoyed orally pleasuring his masseuse so much that he wants to continue the relationship outside the parlor. What is the proper etiquette in asking out an erotic massage practitioner? (Sorry LMTs! We know you don't want to hear ANY of this...) A married woman discovered a gif of jiggly boobs with her sister's face superimposed over them. Where did she see this? On her husband's computer of course. So now what? On the Magnum, a proud, strong feminist woman has rape fantasies that flood her with shame. Dan brings on Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want, to unpack the origins and nature of problematic fantasies. And, somewhere in the deep South, a bisexual man wants ungodly things done to him...
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Enter the World of the Furries.

Episode #761 — May 25, 2021

Our opening "sex-cess" story is extra delightful this week, because it centers the Climbing Boy. Our caller advises you to get yourself one, pronto. Ok, neo-pronouns. Just how ridiculous are they? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Seattle writer Matt Baume about the friendly, pervy world of furries and the super-interesting work they've been doing with virtual reality spaces. And, commenting on a shopgirl's ass- can you get away with it if you're a queer woman?
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With comedian London Hughes.

Episode #745 — February 2, 2021

Sure, sure. He's a good boyfriend...during a pandemic. But when the covid glasses come off, will he still be right for her? After 20 years of marriage, a woman finally understands that she is asexual. She wants nothing of sex, whatsoever. She would love for him to get laid outside of their relationship, but he's an introvert, and not inclined to open their marriage. And if he found a woman to have sex with, would he leave her? On the Magnum, degenerate homosexual Dan Savage teaches potty-mouthed comedian London Hughes all about anal sex! And, they discover that they share a super-power. Listen in. Finally, what is the purpose of using a cock ring around the scrotum? After you listen to this show, you will know the answer.
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Escape from Conversion Therapy Camp!

Episode #732 — November 3, 2020

Our opening covid-era Sexcess story features seniors in a retirement community huffing on ice bongs and getting it on. If they can do it, you can too. A Wiccan druid witchy woman is dating a Christian dude. They let each other be. But when he requests that they do some role playing where she dresses up as a "sexy witch" and puts a spell on him, she wonders if she should be offended or just hop on his broomstick already. Dan interviews Adam Sass, author of Surrender Your Sons- a YA thriller about a gay kid who escapes from a conversation therapy camp. It sounds awesome! Book sales will support Born Perfect, an organization fighting to ban conversion therapy. Bornperfect.org What do you do, when your boyfriend's mother offers you a baby blanket made by her mother, when you don't have or want kids? A) Tell her you don't want the stupid blanket. B) Take the stupid blanket.
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With Cory Doctorow

Episode #729 — October 13, 2020

A woman's friend is acting like a damn fool. Again. She plans to travel across the country to meet a man she met online, without even having spoken to him on the phone. Is she getting catfished? Who knows? Should the caller try to talk her gullible, sensitive friend out of this recklessness? An erotic dancer feels guilty when her customers fall in love with her. Is she leading them on? On the Magnum, Dan welcomes back writer and digital rights activist Cory Doctorow. They discuss the appeal of conspiracy theories, Joe Biden, and texting expectations among many other things. And, a man and his long term girlfriend have mis-matched libidos. He is poly and horny. She is asexual. They are about to adopt her cousins and raise them together. So now would be a difficult time to begin a relationship with a dear friend of theirs, right? Maybe, maybe not. It's always so complicated! 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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A man is going through a divorce from his wife of 7 years. Although their breakup was peaceful, now her communication is curt and unfriendly. Is he entitled to feel angry about her unwarranted coldness? A man kindly lent a friend some money. Now she keeps asking him for more and more every month! Should he just set her up with a regular payment, or cut off the friendship? On the Micro and the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with Dr. Wednesday Martin, author of Untrue, about women's libido, how it really works, and how our culture's misunderstanding harms relationships. A group of folks were disparaging "outie vaginas" at a party. One of the women there got awfully quiet. Did they offend her? Is this the equivalent of making fun of itsy-bitsy, teeny-tiny penises?
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Mob Queens with Michael Seligman

Episode #674 — September 24, 2019

It's your typical story: Man has sex with girl who has only 2 fingers on one of her hands. Man never calls girl again because he only wanted casual sex anyway. Years later, man feels guilty for not calling girl with disability because he worries she will think he ghosted her because of her weird hand. Man calls homosexual sex advice podcaster for absolution. A man and his wife are embarking on some sex club explorations. Dan chats with the man about how to stay safe and keep his head together and his marriage strong. Also, there is talk of glory holes. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Michael Seligman, co-host of "Mob Queens" a podcast about some deliciously sordid gay history. Finally, a woman was hooking up with a guy who came on her chest and then licked it up. So far so good. But her friends, including her gay male friends, are grossed out to hear this detail. What is going on here? Why the squick factor?
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What do we do now that Tumblr is dead?

Episode #658 — June 4, 2019

Here's a conundrum: A black, gay man is married to his white husband. They want to drive into threesomes, but the black man is only attracted to white men and the white man is only attracted to black men. So you see. This is a real pickle. Meanwhile, a straight man has fantasies where he is a gay leather daddy, and his real life butch lesbian friend is his sub "boy." Is this a thought crime? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Fast Company freelance journalist Sean Captain about the sad demise of Tumblr as safe space to find sweet, sweet pornography. He talks about the media landscape and what is emerging as Tumblr's likely replacements. And, a man who recently moved to Los Angeles, feels daunted by his new roommate who thinks she's psychic and talks to spirits. Is everyone like this in LA?
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