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Episode #615 — August 7, 2018

A woman keeps dating men who hide her and won't acknowledge that she exists on social media. What on earth is going on here? A woman knows that her personal trainer is a Christian. But is he the good kind or the bad kind? Should she find out before she continues her patronage? On the Magnum version, Amp from "Watt's the Safeword" is on to explain and discuss the phenomenon of "sub drop" in pornography and in the wild. And, what it really means when you're attracted to Wonder Woman.
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The Neuroscience of Orgasm

Episode #538 — February 14, 2017

A couple tricky pregnancy situations on this show: A newly pregnant woman has discovered that her boyfriend snoops through her personal stuff with no apology. Should she dump him and embrace single motherhood? Our other pregnant woman misjudged the timing, and now has the unenviable duty of telling her current boyfriend that he is probably not the father. Bummer right? On the Magnum, Dan chats with researcher Adam Safron for a "What You Got?" about the neuroscience of female orgasm. Finally, welcome to the SIGN WARS. A liberal woman put up Hillary Clinton signs. Her right wing neighbor put up Trump signs. It escalated until the election. Now that we are where we are, should she take down her signs already? 206-302-2064
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At the Trump rally with Ana Marie Cox.

Episode #512 — August 16, 2016

Special guest ranter Ana Marie Cox tells us what it's actually like at a Trump rally. (Spoiler: terrifying.) A gay man is living in a group house with a straight couple. When the man in the couple drinks, he gets a bit...handsy, much to his girlfriend's delight. Should the caller get together with his roommate? Will the girlfriend give her permission? What exactly is the etiquette when you discover that your long distance boyfriend of 4 years actually has a wife and kid? Should you ghost him? Or confront him? On the Magnum, author, feminist pornographer, and sex educator Madison Young chats about making the porn you want to see. Also, Dan advises a woman who has been HIV positive from birth, on how to disclose her status, and own it without shame. 206-302-2064
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The Birth of The Pill.

Episode #473 — November 17, 2015

“Bark! Bark! Bark!” That’s what a kinky woman’s dog will say when it hears her getting spanked. She worries that this might be a problem, and so, should she maybe not get a dog? A divorced woman is sleeping with the repair man. Her ex-husband is sleeping with their children’s former nanny. Were you just complaining about your life being too complicated? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Jonathan Eig, author The Birth of the Pill. Finally, a man’s girlfriend catches him masturbating to a picture of her friend. And she’s totally cool with it. Just kidding! All hell breaks loose. And! f you really want to enter to win a horrible gun...go here: http://www.steveking.com/cruz-huckabee-jindal-and-santorum-gun-giveaway-2/
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The tricky question of how to treat pedophiles.

Episode #472 — November 10, 2015

Hear the sordid tale of what the gay man saw when he woke up to find his boyfriend absent from the guest bed while they were visiting a …friend. Meanwhile in another corner of the cheat-o-verse, a man sees his best friend’s girlfriend on a daitng app. He thought they were monogamous. Should he rat her out to his pal? On the Magnum, Dan brings on a couple of guests. Debra Soh is a writer whose latest article in Salon ruffled some feathers. She wrote about our dysfunctional approach to treating pedophiles and the people started freaking. And, Dan brings on OB/GYN and writer Dr. Jen Gunter to discuss abortion and concept of a “little soul.” Do you have a family? Do you want to ask a question about them? Call us! 206-302-2064
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With "The Perverted Negress" Mollena Williams.

Episode #469 — October 20, 2015

How can a man convince his lady to give him the kind of sloppy head that makes her gag? It’s not like he’s anti-feminist or anything! A woman’s mother-in-law does NOT APPROVE of her poly lifestyle. But mom doesn’t know that her precious son is also as poly as the day is long. Should they cut off contact from his mother? Or is it time for him to come out already? Tear jerker! Dan tries to talk a suffering, abused gay kid into leaving her parents’ toxic home. On the Magnum, get kinky with Mollena Williams, a.k.a The Perverted Negress. 206-302-2064
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Second Opinion with Ask Polly

Episode #429 — January 13, 2015

How can you tell when a slap to the face is welcome or unwelcome in a BDSM situation? A weepy slapper wants to know. How much trouble can naughty photos on Tumblr cause your new boyfriend? Chest tattoos: hot or not? Dan welcomes Heather Havrilesky of "Ask Polly" to tackle this one in a Second Opinion. And on the Magnum, does a woman have a right to ask about her new boyfriend's prescription for Cialis? Nancy weighs in! 206-201-2720
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Help! My friend is trans!!!

Episode #411 — September 9, 2014

A woman is shocked to learn that her best friend is a trans woman. Why did she keep it secret? Should the caller feel betrayed? Hear the tale of the French maid outfit that ruined a relationship. A college lesbian is horrified to discover that her roommate is an aggressively anti-gay Christian. A woman's former rapist continues to harass her online. In both cases the archangel Dan Savage raises his mighty sword to do some smiting. We love a good smiting. 206-201-2720
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The upside of herpes...courtesy of science!

Episode #378 — January 21, 2014

A man with his dream girl, simply cannot forgive her for cheating on him at the very beginning of their relationship. What is the remedy? "Why do I like older men??!" asks a young gay man, with nearly audible hand-wringing. Boner Pills! Do they work? How? On the Magnum…Dan chats with a scientist working to pit herpes against cancer. (We think they deserve each other…) And, listen in as Dan accuses a woman of being "The sentient stove with agency who keeps burning someone." And a ton more. Tickets to the Seattle Valentine's Day show with Dan and guests are at StrangerTickets.com.
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2014 is looking just as pervy as 2013.

Episode #375 — December 31, 2013

A gal is convinced her good friend is a homo. Should she use her wiles to lure him out of the closet? A lad is good friends with a woman who admitted she has a crush on him. He doesn't feel the same way about her, but knows she would make a great life partner. Should he suggest a companionate marriage from the get-go? On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with psychologist and sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto about women's libido, and the need for variety in both genders. Also, some loud neighbors were either acting out a rape scenario, or an actual rape was taking place. Would you call the cops? Or would you just call us?
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