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The Pain! The Pain!

Episode #665 — July 23, 2019

A woman has been dating a man for 4 months. She just read on his public blog that he thinks he isn't clicking with her. Should she admit she read his blog? Why would he write such a thing? A gay man encountered a willing slave in the bathroom at an orgy. (As one does.) It turns out this slave wants to be in a 24/7 slave/master relationship. He is also closeted, and politically conservative. Sooooo....is his masochism born out of self-hatred? How can (or should) the caller help this twisted soul? On the Magnum, Dan chats with a sex researcher who recently published a paper on how pain is transmogrified into pleasure within the context of BDSM. It's where science meets magic! And, a drunky lady is sick of her drunky boyfriend wetting the bed when he gets drunk. What could the solution possibly be? 206-302-2064
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It's the S & M show!

Episode #659 — June 11, 2019

With the ever-charming and fearsome Mistress Matisse. She came to our studio to help Dan answer questions about bruises (wanted and unwanted,) gang bangs, the nasty kind of doms you'll meet on Reddit, rough sex when you're pregnant and the proper care and washing of your ball-gag. And more! And, on the Magnum, Dan chats with historian and author Peter Tupper on his new book A Lover's Pinch: A Cultural History of Sadomasochism. Yowwwwch! 206-302-2064
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Luke Burbank is utterly delightful!

Episode #583 — December 26, 2017

A woman struggles to advise her friend who is intolerant of her husband watching a little porn. Hear the dark drama of a gay man who made plans to get tied up by a stranger. All hail Luke Burbank! The clever and kindly host of TBTL and Live Wire Radio demeans himself to discuss open relationships, anal sex as revenge, and the rise of the sex robots. How he manages to keep his dignity intact is a bit of a head-scratcher. Also, a woman is burdened with unwanted cuckold fantasies. Should she purge her brain of them, or try to embrace them? 206-302-2064
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With Mayor Betsy Hodges.

Episode #575 — October 31, 2017

A woman from the UK wonders why Americans are so quick to commit to each other after just a little bit of sex. Dan's history lesson explains it all. A woman and her husband are into hot-spousing. It's been super-fun and brought them closer together as a couple. But her husband gets racked with guilt each time, and runs to tell his priest ALL ABOUT IT. What's his damage? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Mayor Betsy Hodges of Minneapolis about being on the vanguard of urban resistance. Keep fightin' Betsy! And, are you into having women burp in your mouth? This guy is...
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Sex Toy Review! This one's HEAVY.

Episode #571 — October 3, 2017

Darling? Whatever shall we do at our coming trip to the Bondage Bed & Breakfast? A married woman gets busted by her husband for camming. She doesn't consider it cheating, and it gets her so, so horny. How can she reconcile with her husband and still get her camming rocks off? On the magnum, Dan brings back our regular guest, Erika Moen to go over a HEAVY sex toy you all should add to your arsenal. And, a man's sister is a former prison guard who started dating one of the inmates. He doesn't seem like the best person, and the caller is very worried about what will happens we he gets out. Yikes.
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Dr. Rachel Gelman

Episode #547 — April 18, 2017

A woman's in-laws have 12 cats. They won't travel to see the caller's family (including the 2 small children,) because they can't bear to leave the mewling kitties. Are they mentally ill and is there any way to explain this behavior to the kids? A bondage-loving lass goes to clubs and gets tied up by a strictly platonic tying partner. Her boyfriend is ok with it, but feels a little spooked. How can she reassure him that what she and the tying partner do isn't sex? On the Magnum, it's our first do-over! Dan realized he cocked up the answer to the woman who would lose bladder control when she gave blow jobs. This time, Dan brings in Dr. Rachel Gelman- an actual pelvic health specialist who knows what the hell she's talking about. She lives in the UK, he in the States. He is her dom, and also her cousin. They are deeply closeted about their relationship to family and friends. So, what's the problem? 206-302-2064
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With pro dom Justine Cross

Episode #539 — February 21, 2017

A gay man has had small breasts ever since he was a kid. His lovers aren't so into it. He doesn't want to get them removed because he feels they are a part of him. How should he explain his extra bells and whistles? A woman getting into bondage wonders how to communicate a safe word when she has a gag in her mouth. Mmrrrmmff! On the Magnum, Dan chats with a professional dominatrix about the hazards of doing sex work and raising children in a conservative country. And in an unsurprising but satisfying intro, Milo gets his ass handed to him. 
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Our new sex toy review!

Episode #528 — December 6, 2016

A poly woman is very happy with her much older dom. But ever since her mother saw some photos of her daughter all trussed up and naked, the boyfriend is totally not invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas. Is it the age difference? How can our caller convince her mother that her lover is a good guy? A hand-wringing, feminist, good-hearted man wants to try rape-play with his wife. How can he delicately, tenderly suggest he pretend to rape her. You know, if she wants him to. Welcome to our first installment of the Monthly New Sex Toy Review. (We'll think of a clever name for it later.) Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy" is on to tell us about a piece of furniture you JUST MIGHT NEED. A woman is about to get married. Her bestie just confessed that she is having an affair with a married man. How could she?! The caller was going to ask her to be her bridesmaid, but now that she has besmirched the sanctity of marriage, well... huff! She's having second thoughts! Dan schools her real good. 206-302-2064
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Sex Toy Extravaganza!

Episode #496 — April 26, 2016

It's the sex toy extravaganza! After receiving a preternaturally high number of questions about sex toys, we decided to bring in a crack team of experts from women-centered, sex-positive stores across the US and Canada. What actually fits in a cock ring? How do you keep a dildo clean? What's the best restraint to start out with? Do sex toys carry emotional baggage? All these questions and more are answered for you. And additionally, on the Magnum, a man out on parole wonders when and how to tell the story of his crime. 206-302-2064 Thanks to the folks at She Bop, Babeland, Come As You Are and Womens Ware.
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With Parker Molloy.

Episode #475 — December 1, 2015

A man’s boyfriend went as a “slut” for Halloween. It turns out, this was a really bad idea. A woman loves getting tied up. But she also needs to touch herself to get off. So…how is this gonna work? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans writer Parker Molloy about the challenges of transitioning for both partners in a relationship. And, hear the story of a woman who enters “The Land of Pleasure.” By which she means having sex with over 30 men in one long evening. Dan chats with her about how to enjoy her gang-bang kink safely. 206-302-2064 Get your GGG and FUCK FIRST coffee mugs over at www.thestranger.com/savageswag
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