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With Dr. Wednesday Martin.

Episode #652 — April 23, 2019

A woman claims that over 90% of the time, her casual hook-ups end with the man orgasming, and she gets...nothing. And then! When she asks for a little reciprocity, these men accuse her of being a demanding princess. Meanwhile, another straight woman loves it when her men say no at first. She loves the chase and her ultimate victory. Is this a kink? Is it something she can work into her long term relationships? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer and social researcher Dr. Wednesday Martin, about how women struggle with monogamy. Sometimes we do! And, in yet another shocking upending of our expectations, a woman LOVES to receive dick pics. How can she ask for them, without training these men to send them to every woman they meet? Oh look! It's a text from that guy I just...god damn it. 206-302-2064
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Weed = Better Orgasms for Women. Yay Science!

Episode #650 — April 9, 2019

Look at her. She's only a lesbian when she's drunk! Why does she dream of a white picket fence with her loving wife by her side but only when she's had 5 whisky sours? A woman is planning to marry prince charming. He is so wonderful in every way. Except...when he wants sex he grabs her head and pulls it down to his crotch. Is this just how men ask for sex these days? On the Magnum, Dan's suspicions are confirmed by science ONCE AGAIN. This time, he speaks with Dr. Becky Lynn about the effect marijuana has on female orgasm. And, hear the tale of the older gay man, his much younger Panamanian boyfriend and the worried daughter. 206-302-2064
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With comedian Kate Willett

Episode #648 — March 26, 2019

A woman has been dating her older boyfriend for 6 years, and she still hasn't met his kids. Does she have grounds for righteous indignation here? A woman and her boyfriend are considering bringing in another man for a threeway. How can they proceed with caution? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with comedian Kate Willett about dating Trump voters, breaking up amicably and what to do when the boner fails to show up. Also, when your boyfriend prefers bathhouses to you.
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Welcome to the Real Doll Brothel.

Episode #633 — December 11, 2018

A woman had sex with a pre-op transwoman. But she didn't make the caller come, or even try. Now the caller wonders if this is a "vagina-bodied" vs "non vagina-bodied" problem, or just a "jerk" problem. A married gay man with kids begs Dan for a quick n' dirty guide on how to add a third partner into their relationship. How can they have adventures and maintain the sanctity of their family unit? On the Magnum version, check out Canada! They are slowly but surely opening sex doll & robot brothels. Is this gonna be ok? Dr. James Cantor, the Director of the Toronto Sexuality Center, is on to discuss the implications of this new phenomenon. Canada- you so freaky. A woman's sister is into drag, and wants to include the caller. The caller wants to dress up in female drag (even though she's a woman) but worries about culturally appropriating gay male culture's appropriation of women. Did you get all that? Spoiler! Dan tells her to chill out. High heels are super weird. 206-302-2064
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Are Sugar Babies Sex Workers?

Episode #623 — October 2, 2018

A married couple's teen daughter gets super-irritated when her parents have noisy sex. She sends them snarky texts imploring them to stop. Maybe she includes an eye-rolling emoji or a throwing-up kitten or some such teenaged thing. The dad in this couple doesn't want to "break her." What does Dan Savage have to say? Our guest this week, (on the Micro! You're welcome!) is Brook Urick of Seeking.com- a site where sugar babies can meet their ideal sugar daddy. Hooray! But is this relationship by nature commodified? Is it sex work? Dan and Brook don't see eye to eye on this one. On the Magnum, an out bi guy keeps getting rejected by women once they learn he's bi. Are there any women out there who can handle it? And, a ridiculous sitcom comes to life, when a woman AND HER FRIEND have both set up dates WITH THE SAME GUY.
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A woman went on a date, and everything went so well. Until...he disappeared without a trace. Did this man truly turn into a ghost? Dan calls her back and gets the full story. On the Magnum, for a "What You Got?" Dan chats with Kristen Mark on how to maintain sexual desire in long term relationships. And, a woman's husband suffered an injury that he is slowly recovering from. But it has wreaked havoc on their sex life. How can they get back to the good times? This "In sickness and in health" stuff is hard!
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Stop SESTA!

Episode #595 — March 20, 2018

A trans man is losing his hair and worries that he won't be able to rock the hyper-masculine bald guy look. Can you be sweet, sexy and bald all at the same time? Dogs! Sex! These two topics come together not once, but three times on this very show. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer and cultural critic Alana Massey on the misguided Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act (SESTA.) A woman's best friend has a husband who calls her a "horrible wife" and "slut" under his breath. The caller isn't quite ready to dump this so-called friend and her nasty husband because their social circles are so intertwined. Still. Being called a slut, by your friend's husband? Under his breath??!
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with Rachel Lark

Episode #553 — May 30, 2017

Oh, that nasty chef! A woman works in a restaurant where her manager is having an affair with the married chef. Sometimes the caller has to serve the chef's poor innocent wife. It's so cruel that all the servers are about to revolt. A married man harbors a cuckolding fantasy. He is certain his wife would never-ever be into it. But would she? Also, we couldn't help but play a couple of Rachel Lark songs, cuz they're so good. And on the Magnum, have you heard of "Hypersomnia?" A woman can't keep herself awake, sometimes at inopportune times, and she worries she'll be taken advantage of. Dan brings on a sleep medicine expert to discuss. Also, a woman who makes a lot of noise during sex, is confused when she gives her boyfriend the best head ever, and he is...perfectly silent.
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Finally! A show all about dicks.

Episode #465 — September 22, 2015

It’s the dick show! Do you have one? (Or are you one?) Gather around for a “What You Got?” with Dr. Cynthia Graham about condoms and male sensitivity, the poor things. Then! On the Magnum, Mike Pearl, a writer for Vice Magazine discusses the science behind the need to rename Death Grip Syndrome. Also, how do you deal with it when a flasher lives in your neighborhood? And tons more.
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Trans porn star Bailey Jay.

Episode #464 — September 15, 2015

Have you ever loved someone so much, even though you’ve known them for only 6 weeks, that when they break up with you, you call a sex advice podcaster sobbing and sobbing? Meanwhile, a married man with his wife for 11 years, is working on forgiving her for cheating on him, and on opening their relationship so she can be her full self. Also, he thinks it’s kind of hot. On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans porn star/occultist Bailey Jay about the effects of hormone therapy on libido. Also, what to do when your boyfriend is TOO NICE.
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