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The kindly mother of a 12 year-old boy wonders if she should discreetly leave some lube by his bed as he learns to love him himself fully. A woman is horrified to discover that her hook-up doesn't have sheets on the bed. "The bed is no good," she laments. Should she see him again? Is there a fix here? Dan and the mighty Mistress Matisse revisit the horrifying SESTA/FOSTA bill snaking its way into law. This bill will be devastating to sex workers and the internet in general. Please follow #LetUsSurvive onTwitter and learn about this latest nasty piece of legislation. In much happier news, a caller who formerly suffered from Death Grip Syndrome, has made a full recovery, thanks to Dan's proven therapy program.
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All about your father's penis.

Episode #567 — September 5, 2017

A couple are dismayed that the condom keeps slipping off when they're doing it doggie style. Dan offers some time-honored tricks. Disability Awareness Consultant Andrew Gurza, schools us all about dating folks with disabilities. On the Magnum, Dan chats with author Jesse Bering about penis size and natural selection. Science! And speaking of penises, can you pump that thing up and make it bigger in the same way you can stretch an earlobe? 206-302-2064
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With brother Bill Savage and Bailey Jay.

Episode #516 — September 13, 2016

A man is seeing a woman 12 years his senior. His friends think he's nuts, but he's having a great time. Is there something wrong here? A married man has come to realize that he is poly. His wife is still as monogamous as the day she married him. How can he get her to accept his polyamorous nature and let him sleep with lots and lots of lovely ladies? Dan chats with his smarty-pants brother Bill (an associate professor of English) on the historical roots of American anti-immigrant stupidity. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with transsexual porn star Bailey Jay about how to approach a transwoman without making her feel objectified. And so much more. 206-302-2064
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All Hail Panti Bliss!

Episode #504 — June 21, 2016

A tortured gay man can’t envision a world where it’s better to be out than to stay in the closet. Dan tries his darnedest to convince him. Hey fellow homos: call us and pitch in, won’t you? A woman catches her boyfriend signing up for a hook-up app. What does this mean? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the Queen of Ireland, a.k.a Panti Bliss- the drag queen who took on Irish homophobes and won big. A true hero who looks fabulous in heels. And, hear the wisdom of a Trump supporter! 206-302-2064
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Hillary Frank on sex after pregnancy.

Episode #453 — June 30, 2015

This week we are delighted to welcome Hillary Frank, host and creator of The Longest Shortest Time podcast, to answer some questions about reclaiming your sex life after pregnancy. Also, a woman tends to date messed-up, and/or addicted guys, because she likes to try to heal them in their “time of darkness.” How can she keep doing all this groovy healing without constantly dating damaged men? A woman’s husband is bisexual. He came out to a friend at their subtly anti-gay church group and the man ran screaming. How can she help her husband to get over the loss of this friend? And more, more, more. 206-201-2720
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Jason Schwartzman in the house.

Episode #452 — June 23, 2015

OMG it’s actual movie star famous guy celebrity JASON SCHWARTZMAN. And guess what? He’s clever, funny and super-nice. He and Dan talk about his new movie The Overnight, swinging, swastika tattoos (spoiler: he’s against them,) controlling mothers, and the famous people you want to sleep with. Don’t miss it. There’s some on the micro, and more on the Magnum. Also, a man’s new boyfriend has the same name of a former abuser of his. How can he get over the horrible association? And, how can an experimenting bisexual lass get “lesbian society” to take her seriously? And more! 206-201-2720
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Don't believe the female viagra hype.

Episode #451 — June 16, 2015

A divorced single mother can’t seem to get it through her lovers’ heads that she just wants casual relationships. How can she convince them that there’s no ring required? A woman’s mouth is dick Kryptonite! Her boyfriend’s penis always goes soft when she tries to go down. What on earth is she doing wrong? On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and bioethics professor Alice Dreger as well as documentarian Liz Canner, who created Orgasm Inc, about the hype and general scumminess surrounding the new “Female viagra”- flibanserin. And tons more. 206-201-2720
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Casual sex - fear = one sexy laboratory!

Episode #447 — May 19, 2015

A woman finds herself in the middle of a poly free-for-all when she falls for a guy who is sleeping with every woman he can get his mitts on. Is this the poly lifestyle, or just a dude with a harem? A woman is nursing a crush on a man she suspects to be gay. Is there any way she can divine the truth? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Andreas Baranowski for a “What You Got” on what happens to women when you take fear out of casual sex in a sexy, sexy laboratory. (Warning! The sound quality in this interview is pretty bad. But we can’t help it when science happens in Germany!) And the show ends where it began- with poly heartbreak. A man is crushed to hear that his girlfriend wants him to take a step back, so her girlfriend can move into his primary slot. And he thought he was so cool with the whole poly thing… It’s not for everyone, kids. 206-201-2720
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Chitty-chatting with Jeffery Self

Episode #439 — March 24, 2015

Trapped in LA, Dan chitty-chats with comedian Jeffery Self about self lubricating, bossy slaves, "little brother" role playing and three-ways with celebrities among other things. The Gay is strong with this one. Also, on the Magnum Dan talks with sex and family educator Stephanie Mitelman about the struggles people on the autism spectrum have with sexuality and dating. 206-201-2720
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Our silly little drug war.

Episode #434 — February 17, 2015

A married woman has lost all sex drive. Her husband is willing to let her be with other men. But the thought of her husband with another woman makes her so jealous that her mouth goes dry. Is this gonna work out ok? A straight man with a newly issued hall pass is having a hard time meeting ladies who will sleep with him because they know he's in a relationship. Why must it be this way? Why?! On the Magnum, Dan chats with author Johann Hari, on our silly little drug war, and how drug abuse results from boredom and isolation, not drug availability. And more! 206-201-2720
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