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A white man is dating an Asian man and tends to be attracted to Asian men. Does this make him a rice queen? Is it racist to be a rice queen? Can he learn to feel attraction toward other races? A straight man has a great girlfriend except for one little problem. She gives painful blowjobs with her sharp little teeth. After three long years, he's never complained. How can he explain what he likes down there? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with clinical sexologist Damian Jacob Sendler, about lethal asphyxiation. How can kinksters take the "lethal" out of that term? Are they prosecuted differently than other murderers? Yikes! And, a man with staggeringly high libido (12 times per day sounds about right to him) is in a monogamous long-term relationship. What could go wrong?
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A woman went on a date, and everything went so well. Until...he disappeared without a trace. Did this man truly turn into a ghost? Dan calls her back and gets the full story. On the Magnum, for a "What You Got?" Dan chats with Kristen Mark on how to maintain sexual desire in long term relationships. And, a woman's husband suffered an injury that he is slowly recovering from. But it has wreaked havoc on their sex life. How can they get back to the good times? This "In sickness and in health" stuff is hard!
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Whoa, no way! It's Sarah Silverman!

Episode #587 — January 23, 2018

This week Dan caught up with Sarah Silverman to chat about her show "I Love You America." They also answered some callers' questions about conquering jealousy, and kids sticking things in their butts, among other things. She is a superior human and you should listen to the whole thing. A sub woman has been chatting with a dom. But he lacks experience, and he's maybe too short? How can she end it without offending him? Also, a woman just can't reclaim the inherent sexiness of her breasts after nursing her child. How can she get her boob-pleasure back? And, so, so, so much more. 206-302-2064
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Let's Play "Spot the Abuser!" with Lynn Fairweather.

Episode #581 — December 12, 2017

The kinksters have their "aftercare"- time after a rough sexual encounter to reconnect and comfort each other. But what about after casual vanilla sex? A woman wants to instigate an aftercare revolution for all. Dan gently, patiently explains away some men's rights nonsense to a man incensed at at a fictional "double standard." On the Magnum, a woman who tends to choose abusive men wonders how she can prevent herself from making this mistake over and over again. Dan brings on Lynn Fairweather, domestic violence consultant, speaker, and author of "Stop Signs: Recognizing, Avoiding, and Escaping Abusive Relationships" to help pick this lock. A caller used to be a terrible person with terrible friends. How can she start over? It starts by calling 206-302-2064
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Mistress Matisse and her Velvet Swing

Episode #558 — July 4, 2017

A gay marine wants to keep his dick locked up in a chastity cage. His problem is...wait. Isn't that first sentence enough for you? A straight man has noticed that ALL of his friends are into feet. Why would this be? On the Magnum we welcome Mistress Matisse, to talk about her new magical lube. Also with Mistress Matisse, how can you explain the beautiful bruises your dom gives you? 206-302-2064
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The pleasures and dangers of choking.

Episode #533 — January 10, 2017

A man's friend came out when they were in high school. Now after a sojourn to the desert to "pray away the gay" the tortured closet case is "church hunting for a bride." Can his pal talk him out of this? A woman's co-worker tried to kiss her at work, despite her unrelentingly professional demeanor, and complete lack of interest. Now they have to go on a work trip together. How can she bat him away? Should she skip the trip? On the Magnum, Dan chats with a kink expert about choking. Anybody have some better words for pussy than...pussy? 206-302-2064
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Garfunkel & Oates! Squeeeee!

Episode #349 — July 2, 2013

First off, prepare yourself for the most Depressing Rant Ever. (We recorded this show well before DOMA went DOWN.) A young gay man connected with another lad on Grindr. Then he met up with a different man, at the SAME HOUSE. What tomfoolery is this? A lad and his boyfriend are planning to try out a bathhouse for the first time, and ask Dan for some basic tips. What he suggests…may shock you. And, the inimitable Garfunkel & Oates come on the show to explain a shameful evasive strategy that many women have mastered. On the Magnum side, Dan talks to a man who may have to adopt his own niece, because his brother (the baby's father) is in and out of jail. Choking! Groovy fun, or not such a good idea? Are all drag queens gay? Do they have to be? Because here's a straight woman who's attracted to them. And a ton more...
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What happens when you're turned on by rape fantasies and then you actually get raped? Time to find a new fantasy. Marijuana! Is it Viagra for women? A transvestite in Kansas: A college crossdresser finds it hard to meet women who will accept him for who he is. We accept you. Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day trial, go to netflix.com/savage. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. You can and should comment on this show over at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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OMG! Don't you hate it when you go to a gay bar, make out with TWO gay men (even though you are a woman), and then totally don't remember it because you were, like, too drunk? How do you tell your on-again, off-again lover that you are suddenly into kink? This includes a bonus anti-choking sermon from Father Dan Savage. Don't do it. A lost lesbian bemoans the fact that she is a butch dyke attracted to other butch dykes. Can she meet anyone like her? Maybe if she moved out of Tulsa, Oklahoma… And more. 206-201-2720 You can and should comment on this show over at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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Hear the tale of the bi, pagan, poly lady who is dating, of all things, an asexual. A man committed a pretty nasty electronic crime. Does he deserve to do time? A new Pavlovian weight-loss program. And more! Call us at 206-201-2720 Congratulations, Tim! Today's episode is brought to you by Adam & Eve. Receive 50% off most any item, when you enter "Savage" at check-out: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve
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