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Sometimes the "happy ending" in an erotic massage can go both ways. Our caller enjoyed orally pleasuring his masseuse so much that he wants to continue the relationship outside the parlor. What is the proper etiquette in asking out an erotic massage practitioner? (Sorry LMTs! We know you don't want to hear ANY of this...) A married woman discovered a gif of jiggly boobs with her sister's face superimposed over them. Where did she see this? On her husband's computer of course. So now what? On the Magnum, a proud, strong feminist woman has rape fantasies that flood her with shame. Dan brings on Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want, to unpack the origins and nature of problematic fantasies. And, somewhere in the deep South, a bisexual man wants ungodly things done to him...
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Serial Cow Pie Copulators

Episode #751 — March 16, 2021

"Dear Miss Manners, Am I obliged to respond to the gentlemen I encounter on 'Grindr,' even if I am not in the least bit interested?" Dan counsels yet another woman who lays herself down as a human doormat. DTMFA! If your man hasn't yet told his friends that he's dating you, it's time to move on. On the Magnum, we have a very special What You Got?: Listen, we can't put this delicately. There are birds out there that prefer to have sex with cowpies over the females of their species. Dan interviews Dr. Gail Patricelli, a (delightful) researcher who studies the freaky sage grouse. She and her scientist pals trick these pathetic birds with robots and round flat turds. So that's a job you could have. And, a woman insists that uncircumcised penises feel better inside than cut ones. Could be!
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After the shot: dating post-vaccination.

Episode #749 — March 2, 2021

Have you ever been blocked? This man was! When he and his boyfriend of 6 months had their first big fight, they broke up, and the boyfriend slammed the door shut. Now the caller wants closure. Dan Savage is here to hold his hand through it. A man is attempting to grow some foreskin through...techniques. He thinks circumcision should be outlawed. But when he discusses this with some of his Jewish or Muslim pals, it doesn't go over well. On the Magnum version, Dan chats with Dr. Stacy De-Lin about dating and covid-safety now that many of us are beginning to get vaccinated. Also, is it safe to have your poly sister babysit for your kid? And, a woke woman is annoyed that her friend has invited her to a Zoom gender-reveal party.
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What do we do now that Tumblr is dead?

Episode #658 — June 4, 2019

Here's a conundrum: A black, gay man is married to his white husband. They want to drive into threesomes, but the black man is only attracted to white men and the white man is only attracted to black men. So you see. This is a real pickle. Meanwhile, a straight man has fantasies where he is a gay leather daddy, and his real life butch lesbian friend is his sub "boy." Is this a thought crime? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Fast Company freelance journalist Sean Captain about the sad demise of Tumblr as safe space to find sweet, sweet pornography. He talks about the media landscape and what is emerging as Tumblr's likely replacements. And, a man who recently moved to Los Angeles, feels daunted by his new roommate who thinks she's psychic and talks to spirits. Is everyone like this in LA?
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Johann Hari on the depression epidemic.

Episode #644 — February 26, 2019

A man lives in a duplex below a couple women. One day, he heard them having sex, and it inspired him to have a wank. Now he feels guilty. Is he an Eavesdropping Tom? A woman hooked up with a younger man. He asked her if his penis looked like it was circumcised. He wasn't and she told him so. How could a fella possibly not know this about himself? It is very perplexing. On the Magnum Dan has a long conversation with Johann Hari - the controversial author of "Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions." They discuss the western world's depression epidemic and whether treatment is over-medicalized. Hari offers a new paradigm on how to truly address human suffering. And what about being in a relationship with depressed people? That's Dan's wheelhouse. Listen in.
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Is there a urologist in the house?

Episode #627 — October 30, 2018

A sugar baby has fallen in love with her sugar daddy. He loves her too! Except, he kind of doesn't want her to meet his actual daughter. Does she have the right to demand it? A coach at a college has been asked to drive one of her students to get an abortion. Because of where they live, it will take 4 hours. Should she do it? Welcome to America. On the Magnum, things get a little gnarly with our urologist pal, Dr. Stephen King. How many times you can handle hearing the words "dorsal slit" being said without squirming just a little? And, a dad is concerned that his 10 year-old daughter wants to compete for the center position on her co-ed football team. With those boys reaching down there to do whatever it is they do in football...poor dad. 206-302-2064 Thanks to Audible for supporting the Savage Lovecast. For a free audiobook with a 30-day free trial, go to audible.com/savage or text savage to 500-500. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for up to $55 Free postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial.
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This show begins and ends with circumcision.

Episode #569 — September 19, 2017

This show begins and ends with circumcision. A woman is dating her first uncut man and wonders if Dan has any... tips. Then, at the end of the Magnum, an uncut man who is into "pig play" (that's dick-stank- you're welcome,) wonders if he should get himself an adult circumcision. So there's that to ponder. A high school teacher and her pal wonder why the kids are so into hickeys. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Slate writer Mark Joseph Stern, about the infuriating phenomenon of left wing anti-semitism. 206-302-2064
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Burlesque vs. Stripping

Episode #354 — August 6, 2013

A straight man has been the recipient of some rather shoddy pegging. Dan sets him on a better course. A woman's older boyfriend insists her gay friends are out to sleep with her. Dan senses dark machinations at work. Are you, a straight woman, obliged to inform your hook-up that his dick stinks to high heaven? On the Magnum version, Dan interviews feminist blogger Amanda Marcotte on the hysteria surrounding female sexuality and hook-up culture on college campuses. A woman is so darned pretty that she can't have any male friends because they ALL want to sleep with her. Dan speaks with male burlesque sensation Waxy Moon on the differences between burlesque and stripping, and what to do if your boyfriend doesn't want to see you in pasties.
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It's Lucy's last show. Hats off to Dan's brave, plucky assistant. Small hands- big heart.  The calls! Wood. He shows it and grows it at the earliest opportunity. Is this a turn-off or something to cultivate?  A woman discovers her boyfriend has stashed away some women's underpants. They're definitely not hers…is this a problem?  A stunningly insecure gay man wonders if he should get circumcised to please his rude lover.  And so much more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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How do you ask your lady if her boobs are the work of god or man? A woman engaged to be married wants to help a gay couple she knows by being a surrogate mother. Her fiancé isn't having it. Who should prevail? Poppers! Deep fried snack or sex enhancing drug- they're both nasty. Call us. Tell us everything. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day trial, go to netflix.com/savage. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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