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With Caitlin Doughty and Roxane Gay

Episode #591 — February 20, 2018

A gay man's boyfriend insists on showering just before sex, every single time. But the caller likes a little funk! How can they reconcile this fundamental difference. Dan's answer is sneaky. Don't be alarmed, but one of this week's questions requires the expertise of a mortician. On the Magnum, Dan enlists New York Times rival columnist Roxane Gay for a Second Opinion on some folks who got dumped, and can't deal. Also, hear the tale of the man and his very, very rich employer- a petty woman who doesn't hesitate snub and insult his girlfriend.
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Sex Toy Review: Silver Bullet!

Episode #535 — January 24, 2017

"Boyfriend, boyfriend, there's a lump in your testicle!" Should the caller deliver this news bluntly or keep her discovery to herself? A mother's 9-year old son wants to be a stripper when he grows up. How can this mom advise him and keep her cool? Erika Moen from Oh Joy Sex Toy is on for our monthly Sex Toy Review to talk about a whizzy little toy that will make you happy, and won't bankrupt you in the process. Her boyfriend's uncle just served Hamburger Helper. It's the first time she's met the man. Should she politely decline, or choke it down and smile wanly? Dan has some strategies. Oh. And click here. www.impeachthemotherfuckeralready.com Or here! 206-302-2064
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The pleasures and dangers of choking.

Episode #533 — January 10, 2017

A man's friend came out when they were in high school. Now after a sojourn to the desert to "pray away the gay" the tortured closet case is "church hunting for a bride." Can his pal talk him out of this? A woman's co-worker tried to kiss her at work, despite her unrelentingly professional demeanor, and complete lack of interest. Now they have to go on a work trip together. How can she bat him away? Should she skip the trip? On the Magnum, Dan chats with a kink expert about choking. Anybody have some better words for pussy than...pussy? 206-302-2064
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Nancy weighs in.

Episode #532 — January 3, 2017

A 45 year-old man has observed his 21 year-old niece putting up suggestive pics on Instagram. Would it be the correct avuncular gesture to talk to his niece about the folly of her actions? Meanwhile, a woman's boyfriend's cousin called her a "fuckin' bitch" when she wrecked him at laser tag. Her boyfriend won't defend her honor. Who will? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan counsels a woman sick with jealousy over her boyfriend's unilateral decision to have an open relationship. 206-302-2064
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Sexual Advance Directives

Episode #521 — October 18, 2016

How is a sex worker supposed to deal with it when her clients keep quoting Donald Trump?! A woman is dating an insecure man who grabs her boobs at inappropriate times and then pouts when she tells him to stop. Can she retrain him to not act like such an imbecile? On the Magnum, Dan talks to Law Professor Alexander A. Boni-Saenz about the tricky concept of sexual advance directives. A man's mother has Alzheimers. His step-father is taking care of her, and confessed to carrying on an affair with his mother's dear friend, who also helps with her care. Should he tell his mother? Heavy, right? 206-302-2064
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With the Liberal Redneck!

Episode #519 — October 4, 2016

Dan welcomes Trae Crowder, or "the Liberal Redneck" (our favorite redneck) to tackle some questions about conservative Christian bigots, guns and spit. It's a great conversation- do have a listen. Also, a lesbian is dismayed that her girlfriend insists she take a shower every time they have sex. Is she a germophobe or... what? And, a man's girlfriend has announced that she wants to take up smoking. Nicotine. Not even weed. Why? Because her father smoked. AND, a man working on a political campaign wants to fuck his intern. Good idea? Bad idea? These campaigns can be STRESSFUL, man. 206-302-2064
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Parents: You are being JUDGED.

Episode #515 — September 6, 2016

A bi man in a poly triad wonders how to bring home his couple to meet the conservative parents. A woman enjoys following men around for the feeling of "predatory power" the pursuit gives her. Is this a problem? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Professor Barbara Sarnecka, in a "What You Got?" showing how uptight our society is about leaving children alone. The study is HERE. And, while on a trip to NYC, and gay man finds someone he knows from back home on Grindr. When he contacted the friend to say "Hi there!" the friend disappeared and blocked him. Awkward? 206-302-2064
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With the Workologist.

Episode #513 — August 23, 2016

A closeted bi woman, newly aware of her own bisexuality, feels guilty when she so much as hugs another woman. How can she get over it already? A lesbian is about to have her wedding. Does she have the right to exclude Trump supporters from the guest list? On the Magnum, Dan chats with NYT columnist Rob Walker, of the Workologist, about how to deal with some sexist, bigoted schmucks at the workplace. A bi woman started seeing a super-sexy bi gal. But! She only gets to sleep with her when the boyfriend is in the room watching. And he's kind of a jerk! A true dilemma, yes? 206-302-2064
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All Hail Panti Bliss!

Episode #504 — June 21, 2016

A tortured gay man can’t envision a world where it’s better to be out than to stay in the closet. Dan tries his darnedest to convince him. Hey fellow homos: call us and pitch in, won’t you? A woman catches her boyfriend signing up for a hook-up app. What does this mean? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the Queen of Ireland, a.k.a Panti Bliss- the drag queen who took on Irish homophobes and won big. A true hero who looks fabulous in heels. And, hear the wisdom of a Trump supporter! 206-302-2064
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Smashing the Herpes Stigma with Ella Dawson.

Episode #502 — June 7, 2016

A man is dating a woman who stopped putting on make-up and fixing her hair. If he asked her to start gussying herself up again, would that make him, like…you know…an asshole? A woman asks a question that sends Dan scurrying to the red phone to call a veterinarian for some expert advice. Why does Dan need a vet? You’ll have to listen to find out. (Cat humping.) On the Magnum, Dan and sex blogger Ella Dawson are here to SMASH THE HERPES STIGMA once and for all. Glad that’s out of the way. Also, a woman wonders if she let her boyfriend wax her pussy, would it kill the romance a bit? 206-302-2064
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