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The Epidemiologist and the Avenger.

Episode #705 — April 28, 2020

Hear the tale of the Garden Wanker, or "What Really Happens in the Asparagus Patch." Dr. Bummer is back! Our epidemiologist pal Dr. Daniel Westreich has returned to talk about the state of the pandemic, how the physical distancing is working, and to mull over the possibility that this could be an opportunity to eliminate ALL STIs. We can dream. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Katelyn Bowden, founder of the BadAss Army- a group that fights for victims of revenge porn. And, we end with a heartwarming coming-out story from a woman who recorded a video for her family and sent it out via group chat. Their response...may shock you. Remember: Not everyone is totally awful.
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Time to lawyer up!

Episode #704 — April 21, 2020

This pandemic is getting sexier and sexier! Who's up for some Strip Ping-Pong? A gay man hooked up with a dude he had met a few months ago through an app. The dude asked our caller if he found him attractive. But the dude's photo was wildly inaccurate. He had gained weight since the photo was taken. When the caller tried to tactfully explain this, dude went ballistic, accusing him of being fat-phobic. Judge Savage issues his ruling. On the Magnum...let's get a lawyer! The pandemic will be mighty good for the lawyering business apparently. Dan brings on divorce attorney Lori Lopez Guzzo to give some free advice to a woman whose husband wants a divorce after encouraging her to quit her job. Her advice? Lawyer up and take him down. And, a woman had broken up with her boyfriend. But now that she is locked down and lonely, she just wanted to be "held and cuddled." Is it ok to invite him back into her life...temporarily? Ok, enough with the Covid-19 calls already! Send us some non-covid related queries and we'll run a virus-free show, we swear!
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What about the gay penguins?

Episode #698 — March 10, 2020

Sometimes people call us when they're drunk. Sometimes they call us about their dogs. Welcome to the center of this Venn diagram. A woman has been invited to a "costume wedding." She will be required to dress up like a character in a movie. Is this asking too much? On the Magnum version of the show, it's a super-weird "What You Got?" with an evolutionary reproductive biologist who mulls over the *possibility* that the animal kingdom is teeming with same-sex behavior. Not just the homo penguins. And, a young woman is turned on by much older men. How can she score a silver fox without looking like gold digger?
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All about WEED with Lester Black.

Episode #696 — February 25, 2020

A straight man was dating a woman, and it felt great. Until she gave him the "I'm not ready for a relationship" line. Is this always a lie? What does it mean? Dan spells it out, with no sugar on top. A man is worried about his new girlfriend. You see, she has never had penetrative sex. Is he special enough to be her first? On the Micro and more on the Magnum, Dan chats with weed journalist (now there's a sweet job if ever we've heard of one,) Lester Black. They talk about a woman whose smart husband turns into a drooling dullard whilst blazed, smoking when you're pregnant, and the effects of marijuana on dick size. Can you resist this show? No, you cannot. A man on the frozen tundra hasn't had sex in 3 years because he claims to be a grower, not a shower. Women reject him because of his dick size (he thinks) and then reject him further when he fails to eat them out properly. But he wants to learn! He asks his female friends if he can practice on them, but strangely, they all say "no."
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With the brililant Peggy Orenstein

Episode #693 — February 4, 2020

A woman is hoping to find a monogamous partner who is also kinky. But when she puts the word "kinky" in her profile she gets flooded with ridiculous pervs. How can she filter out the clueless horndogs? Hear the very unpleasant tale of a gay couple who venture to an older man's apartment for a hook-up, only to find there were many more men there than promised. Why was this gentleman so dishonest? Aren't older men supposed to be supportive mentors for up and coming young 'mos? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with super-duper smart writer Peggy Orenstein, (author of Girls and Sex) about her new book- Boys and Sex. She and Dan discuss how boys both suffer from and then perpetuate the culture of toxic masculinity. If you have a kid with a penis, you should listen to this one. A man is ordained to marry people through one of those mail-in certificates. His sister has asked him to perform her marriage ceremony. But her fiancé is a lying, coke addled, no-good drunk! How can he bless this mess? 206-302-2064 or voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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It's the food poisoning episode!

Episode #677 — October 15, 2019

A woman has vowed to never date a Trump voter. But she lives in a small conservative town, and she's getting lonely... A woman did some sex work a couple years ago. She's dating someone new and wonders if, when or how to tell him. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Joan Price, author of "Naked at Our Age" about how to combat the effects of early menopause. Poor unicorn! Her couple broke up! Should she ask the lady in the (former) couple if she can continue to be with her ex? Awkward! 206-302-2064 Feel better Dan!
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Bi women and weed.

Episode #675 — October 1, 2019

An anonymous LinkedIn contact has asked a woman if she would be his FinDom. He would give her money every week in a form of submission to her. But he refuses to reveal his identity. Should she take him up on it? Would you? A gay man has an out-of-town friend who is straight, conservative and engaged to be married. But when the caller was checking out gay hook-up apps he discovered his friend there. Should the caller reach out to his closeted friend and let him know he knows? Try to stop the wedding? Offer support? Or pretend he never saw a thing? On the Magnum, did you know that bisexual women are huffin' and puffin' that delicious weed way more than straight women? Why would this be? In this "What You Got?" Dan brings on Dr. Morgan Philbin from Columbia University to discuss her research. (For access to this study, Email Dr. Philbin: mp3243@columbia.edu) And, a gay man has been checking out a guy at the gym. Is he gay? Or just working out? Are his smoldering looks being reciprocated? How can he get to the bottom of this sexy mystery?
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With Caitlin Doughty and Roxane Gay

Episode #591 — February 20, 2018

A gay man's boyfriend insists on showering just before sex, every single time. But the caller likes a little funk! How can they reconcile this fundamental difference. Dan's answer is sneaky. Don't be alarmed, but one of this week's questions requires the expertise of a mortician. On the Magnum, Dan enlists New York Times rival columnist Roxane Gay for a Second Opinion on some folks who got dumped, and can't deal. Also, hear the tale of the man and his very, very rich employer- a petty woman who doesn't hesitate snub and insult his girlfriend.
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Sex Toy Review: Silver Bullet!

Episode #535 — January 24, 2017

"Boyfriend, boyfriend, there's a lump in your testicle!" Should the caller deliver this news bluntly or keep her discovery to herself? A mother's 9-year old son wants to be a stripper when he grows up. How can this mom advise him and keep her cool? Erika Moen from Oh Joy Sex Toy is on for our monthly Sex Toy Review to talk about a whizzy little toy that will make you happy, and won't bankrupt you in the process. Her boyfriend's uncle just served Hamburger Helper. It's the first time she's met the man. Should she politely decline, or choke it down and smile wanly? Dan has some strategies. Oh. And click here. www.impeachthemotherfuckeralready.com Or here! 206-302-2064
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