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Ask a Fuck-Up.

Episode #605 — May 29, 2018

A woman was chilling with her male friend, you know, the way friends do, and sure, he wishes they were a couple, but she's not into him that way, so anyway, she invited him over after some drinking and masturbated in front of him, you know, the way friends do, except now things are weird? A lesbian was told by a transwoman who still has a penis that it's transphobic to not want to have sex with her. Discuss. On the Magnum, it's time for a Second Opinion! Dan chats with the newest sex advice columnist to hit the scene: Brandy Jensen from The Outline's "Ask a Fuck-Up." And, another mysterious ghosting. Where do the men go when they disappear?
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The Art of the Solicited Dick Pic.

Episode #588 — January 30, 2018

Gather round, and hear two nasty tales of violent, crazy girlfriends. Would you date someone who painted all over your sheets and poured liquor on your clothes? You would? Oh, never mind then. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Nicole Mazzeo, founder of Pleasure Pie and creator of "The Art of the Solicited Dick Pic" a zine for the folks out there who love a naughty surprise on their phones. And, a phone sex worker wonders how she can handle men who want to engage in emotionally scarring sex chatter. What a world. 206-302-2064
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Wonder Woman!

Episode #572 — October 10, 2017

The Kissing Clause: should kissing come standard in a relationship? Dan interviews Angela Robinson, the director of "Professor Marsten and the Wonder Women"- a bio-pic about the poly, Dom/sub, super-freak creator of the Wonder Woman comics. On the Magnum, a woman's male co-worker is getting pimped out against his will by his boyfriend. Dan brings on sex worker rights activist Mistress Matisse to discuss how to support the lad. And, a man in a 7-year triad, fears he will soon be replaced.
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Sex Toy Review! This one's HEAVY.

Episode #571 — October 3, 2017

Darling? Whatever shall we do at our coming trip to the Bondage Bed & Breakfast? A married woman gets busted by her husband for camming. She doesn't consider it cheating, and it gets her so, so horny. How can she reconcile with her husband and still get her camming rocks off? On the magnum, Dan brings back our regular guest, Erika Moen to go over a HEAVY sex toy you all should add to your arsenal. And, a man's sister is a former prison guard who started dating one of the inmates. He doesn't seem like the best person, and the caller is very worried about what will happens we he gets out. Yikes.
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With Eli Finkel, author of "The All-or-Nothing Marriage."

Episode #570 — September 26, 2017

A woman is considering finding herself a sugar daddy to make ends meet. Should she tell her boyfriend? A man has a friendly relationship with his ex-girlfriend. He just doesn't want to see her and her new man splattered all over his social media. Would it be petty to mute her for a while? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Eli Finkel, author of "The All-or-Nothing Marriage." And, a woman's husband suddenly has a glamorous job with lots of fancy perks! She has been the bread-winner all this time, and feels resentful of all the fun her gets to have. How can she overcome these nasty feelings?
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Going Gay for One Drunken Night.

Episode #554 — June 6, 2017

A woman wants to try a three-way. But all the posts online are riddled with spelling and grammar errors. (Not sexy!) How can she forge a more classy connection? A woman has been with her fiancé for 5 years. He loves to play with her nipples, but she hates it. And guess what? She has never told him this. Before they wed, how can she confess that she's been grinning and bearing it the whole time? On the Magnum, how drunk does a straight boy have to be before he'll get it on with another guy? An intrepid scientific researcher went into the field to find out. And a lesbian wonders how she can improve her relationship with her father, when he thinks she's possessed by the devil. Tricky. 206-302-2064
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Blow jobs and TMJ

Episode #550 — May 9, 2017

A couple of ex-Mormons started dating. He broke up with her because she wasn't "nice." But don't worry everybody- he immediately came back to her. Then he broke up with her again, because he's gay. But it's ok! He changed his mind on that as well and came back to her. Now he isn't sure if he wants to be with her because of her jealousy issues. Ah, true love. A 13 year-old girl came out as gay to her mother, who easily accepts this. But grandma! She's a big ole Christian homophobe. Should the caller out her daughter to her mother? Even if the daughter doesn't want her to? On the Magnum, a man's wife has TMJ, and so can't give oral sex for very long. Dan chats with Dr. Michael Plaut who has written extensively on the subject. And, remember Dan's open rant on "stealthers?" Hear the horrible tale of a stealther in action. 206-302-2064
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Dr. Rachel Gelman

Episode #547 — April 18, 2017

A woman's in-laws have 12 cats. They won't travel to see the caller's family (including the 2 small children,) because they can't bear to leave the mewling kitties. Are they mentally ill and is there any way to explain this behavior to the kids? A bondage-loving lass goes to clubs and gets tied up by a strictly platonic tying partner. Her boyfriend is ok with it, but feels a little spooked. How can she reassure him that what she and the tying partner do isn't sex? On the Magnum, it's our first do-over! Dan realized he cocked up the answer to the woman who would lose bladder control when she gave blow jobs. This time, Dan brings in Dr. Rachel Gelman- an actual pelvic health specialist who knows what the hell she's talking about. She lives in the UK, he in the States. He is her dom, and also her cousin. They are deeply closeted about their relationship to family and friends. So, what's the problem? 206-302-2064
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Who's happier: Monogamous or open couples?

Episode #545 — April 4, 2017

A man gets turned on by the sight of his girlfriend smoking. The problem is, she doesn't smoke. We get our monthly sex toy review by the delightful (and knowledgable) Erika Moen. This week: a big ole vibrator called The Doxy. On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. Terri Conley in a "What You Got?" about the relative happiness of monogamous vs. non-monogamous couples. And, how to break up with a dumb, religious bigot. Quick answer: Immediately. 206-302-2064
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Poly Life with Cunning Minx

Episode #537 — February 7, 2017

A man's girlfriend moved to NYC to become a ballerina. But instead she's been boozing and eating food! Is it his place to tell her that ballerinas don't actually, you know, eat? A transwoman has moved heaven and earth to get herself through college, despite her parents cutting her off. But then! Her school sent their choir to sing at You Know Who's inauguration. She's considering dropping out in protest. Don't worry, Dan talks her out of it. On the Magnum, welcome to Poly Land! Dan chats with Cunning Minx, from the Polyamory Weekly podcast about the joys and pitfalls of poly living, complete with strategies for keeping your head together. If you are curious about how the poly folk get all their loving done, then be sure to tune in. Also, a woman is horrified to discover that her new boyfriend is pathologically messy. 206-302-2064
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