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A gay cuckolding study with Dr. Justin Lehmiller

Episode #590 — February 13, 2018

A woman is worried that a couple she's friends with will ask her and her husband to swing. How can she politely tell them that she and her husband don't roll that way? A man's new boyfriend is so wonderful! Their relationship is beautiful and amazing. Unfortunately, he is also a homeless, lying meth-head. How can the caller confront his boyfriend with compassion? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Justin Lehmiller about a study looking at cuckolding among gay men. And, a woman's mother's boyfriend invites her to his pool alone, texts her out of nowhere and gives her random gifts of cash. She is loathe to fear the worst about him, but...well, she fears the worst about him. And so does Dan Savage. And so will all of you. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage". Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Everlane.com/Savage
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The CONSPIRACY to make black men gay.

Episode #437 — March 10, 2015

A self-professed "pervert" is married to a self-professed "Christian." He wants to keep watching his porn in peace, she forbids it. Should he sneak to see Hump, or fess up and invite her along? A hand-wringing lesbian feels guilty whenever she gets the foot massages that turn her on so. Dan chats with Jonathan Capehart (of the Washington Post and MSNBC) about homophobia in black culture, and the CONSPIRACY to destroy black families by making black men gay. On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Historian of Sexuality Alice Dreger to talk about her brave new book, "Galileo's Middle Finger: Heretics, Activists, and the Search for Justice in Science."
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Wake up! It's Mike Birbiglia.

Episode #428 — January 6, 2015

A husband can't be bothered to bring his wife to orgasm. Why? It's too much work! His hand gets tired! A man is pretty sure his nephew is gay. The rest of the family is homophobic. How can he soften the ground with the family, and let his nephew know he has support without outing or embarrassing him? On the Magnum, Dan welcomes comedian Mike Birbiglia to tackle a question about REM sleep disorder. Also Annie. A woman is willing to play the sub in the bedroom, but when her new boyfriend barks out orders in the kitchen, well, that's not cool! And more! 206-201-2720 Translifeline.org: US: (877) 565-8860, Canada: (877) 330-6366
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Help! My friend is trans!!!

Episode #411 — September 9, 2014

A woman is shocked to learn that her best friend is a trans woman. Why did she keep it secret? Should the caller feel betrayed? Hear the tale of the French maid outfit that ruined a relationship. A college lesbian is horrified to discover that her roommate is an aggressively anti-gay Christian. A woman's former rapist continues to harass her online. In both cases the archangel Dan Savage raises his mighty sword to do some smiting. We love a good smiting. 206-201-2720
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It's Bible study time...

Episode #359 — September 10, 2013

Dan speaks with pro-gay rights Christian John Shore about the NALT Project. Non-douchey Christians: here's your chance to speak up. www.NotAllLikeThat.org A woman discovers (through snooping, how else?) that her boyfriend is into cross-dressing. How can she let him know she approves without letting on that she snooped? A man in a sugar mama relationship feels awkward about accepting his lady's largess. You should have such problems. On the Magnum version, Dan interviews Dr. Jeffrey Parsons about his study looking at monogamish relationships among gay men. Also, a woman's boyfriend really, really, really wants to do anal sex. The hitch? He's got the world's most ginormous penis. And more. Yes, we know that "ginormous" is not a word.
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When Gays ATTACK!

Episode #351 — July 16, 2013

Her boyfriend wants it every day. She can manage 4-6 times per week but he still berates her for not putting out enough. Who's side will Dan come down on? Here's another gem of a boyfriend: He won't compliment her or show any signs of affection. He hasn't told his friends about her, and won't pay for anything or inconvenience himself in any way. Foreplay? Nope! And yet, our heroine is still smitten. Meanwhile, over at Seattle's gay pride parade, did an angry mob of lesbians brutally attack a kind and hapless preacher? JoeMyGod's Joe Jervis has the story. On the Magnum version, we present a drinking game. Every time you hear the word "whatever" or "yadda, yadda, yadda," you take a shot. In a sobering call, we learn of a bad case of Domestic Partnership Castration Syndrome, in which a man loses his erections after going through the commitment ceremony. And, a fem dom woman prepares to go to a party where the women wear clothes and men remain naked. Will she and her cross-dressing boyfriend have a good time? Will the other subs in the room imprint on her like a mama duckling?
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Dad likes to wear women's clothing. This doesn't bother his daughter, but she doesn't want to hear much more. (But knowing his dress size might come in handy over the holidays.) When your "straight" friend appears on a gay online dating site, does that mean he's out?  A gay man loves to huff his boyfriend's body odor. The boyfriend finds this revolting, and prefers to wear deodorant and cologne. Whose side will Dan Savage take in this skanky debate?   You'll have to listen to find out.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
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More rantings about a man named Weiner. Are garter belts inherently sexist, and is there a male equivalent? Dan interviews Ogi Ogas, co-author of "A Billion Wicked Thoughts" in which two computational neuroscientists embark on the largest study of sexuality since Kinsey. And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. This episode is brought to you by FyreTV- the ultimate adult video experience. Sign up for FREE at www.FyreTV.com To comment on what you're heard on the show, go to www.thestranger.com/lovecast.
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What happens when you're turned on by rape fantasies and then you actually get raped? Time to find a new fantasy. Marijuana! Is it Viagra for women? A transvestite in Kansas: A college crossdresser finds it hard to meet women who will accept him for who he is. We accept you. Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day trial, go to netflix.com/savage. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. You can and should comment on this show over at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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A gay man posted some photos of himself wearing a dress. Now his family is FREAKING OUT. How can he explain that being a little freaky doesn't make him a transexual? Meanwhile, a very game woman is dating a confused cross-dresser. Is he gay? Is he transexual? Dan chats with Helen Boyd- author of "My Husband Betty" to get the scoop. A bisexual man is not out to his family. Is he morally obligated to tell them even when he doesn't have a boyfriend? All this, and more. Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve
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