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With Sex Workers' Rights Advocate- Elle Stanger.

Episode #681 — November 12, 2019

A woman wants her boyfriend to pee inside of her. Cool, cool. But he is pee shy! How can he get over it? A woman and her man love threesomes with women. But they don't want kids. Should they warn their unicorn that if she happens to get knocked up they will have no part in the parenting of her kids? Sssssexy! On the Magnum, Dan chats with worker's rights advocate Elle Stanger about the ongoing disaster that is SESTA/FOSTA. A 21 year-old man and his lady both live with their parents, and they have no place to make sweet love. So they do it in the car. But they keep getting caught, once by the police. Is it time to demand some privacy at home? How?
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Get On Your Knees!

Episode #668 — August 13, 2019

A man keeps sending his female friends sexual texts and pics, later apologizing saying it was a mistake and sent to the wrong person. Both our caller, and podcast host know better. A man's husband will sometimes wake in the middle of the night and have wild, uninhibited sex. Then he forgets it happened in the morning. Is it wrong for the caller to enjoy these midnight romps? On the Magnum, Dan chats about one of his favorite subjects: blow jobs- with comedian Jacqueline Novak. And, a bi man's 16 year-old son has come out as bi as well. Naturally, the dad wants to buy his son some anal sex toys. But maybe he should hold off a bit?
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With Sex Worker's Rights Advocate Alex Andrews.

Episode #657 — May 28, 2019

Here are the Savage Lovecast we've noticed that we'll get a bunch of calls on a particular subject all at once. This week it was abortion and weddings. A caller asks if we should just sit on our hands and let Alabama and the other states hijacked by their far right politicians reap the political cost of criminalizing abortion. Hear Dan counsel a gay man who is getting married. A straight couple who the caller considered friends revealed that they couldn't come to the wedding because it violates their Biblical principles. (Sounds like 2 less place settings to deal with. Yahtzee!) On the Magnum, Dan interviews Alex Andrews from the great sex workers' rights advocacy group SWOP. They talk about their pen pal program for incarcerated sex workers, and a misguided (at best) piece of legislation coming up in Florida. And hear the tale of the lovelorn lad and The Mooch.
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The Bad Behavior Show

Episode #639 — January 22, 2019

Some of you are doing terrible things. We start with a teen who has been sneaking off with her mother's vibrator. How can her long-suffering parents encourage her to use one without using *that particular* one? A woman's new boyfriend begs her to let him change her tampon, saying it would bring them closer together. Is this a fetish of his? Is this a fetish of anyone's? This isn't "bad," per se but just what the Sam Hill is going on on here? On the Magnum, Dan chats with bad-assed victims' right's lawyer Carrie Goldberg about the hook-up app Grindr dragging their feet on intervening in some very serious harassment going on. Bad! And, we're not done, just you listen! A woman loves to cheat- she loves the sneaking around, the lying, all of it. She doesn't want poly, she wants to cheat! AND. A gay man regularly "sticks it in" without a condom, even when expressly forbidden to do so. That is so, so bad. Dan has his work cut out for him this week.
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Using the poly label to cheat, cheat, cheat.

Episode #636 — January 1, 2019

The first call of 2019 is all about public sex. So that's how things are looking. We then move on to a deep, methodical analysis of the life cycle of your vibrator. How long should those things last anyway? On the Magnum, Dan chats with queer sex writer Sophie Saint Thomas about her article in Playboy titled "Are Some People Just Slapping the Poly Label on their Cheating?" We are very sorry to report that the answer is yes, yes they are. And, an anxious sister wants to counsel her 16 year-old brother on his plan to initiate a three-way with a couple of lucky young ladies in his class. Ah to be 16... 206-302-2064
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With Justin Lehmiller & Parker Molloy

Episode #626 — October 23, 2018

In the intro, Dan and blogger/trans rights activist Parker Molloy fume over 45's latest anti-trans bluster. A straight man who is apparently just learning some basic facts about our world, wants to know: Do gays ever get divorced? On the Magnum, things get a bit more complicated. Dan interviews Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of "Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life.” They discuss the origins of kinks, and if you can shut them off if they bum you out. Finally, a woman is majorly skeezed whenever she thinks about the existence of incest porn. She just can't go there. Dan's suggestion? ***SPOILER*** Don't go there.
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Ok Seriously. What is up with Adult Babies?

Episode #624 — October 9, 2018

If you found out that your gal pal in her 20s had a hook up with a 17 year-old lad, would you call the cops on her? Should you? Ok, seriously. What is up with adult babies? Dan interviews Lo, of the Dream a Little podcast exploring the relationships between folks who get off on this kind of role play. We suspect you will emerge enlightened. A woman uses the tried and true "pillow humping" technique when she masturbates. Her boyfriend wants her to film it so he can watch. But will he be turned off? Disgusted? Alarmed? And, a woman learned that her monogamous boyfriend has been spending his precious time and money at legal brothels. This broke all the rules. How should she deal with this?
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Are Sugar Babies Sex Workers?

Episode #623 — October 2, 2018

A married couple's teen daughter gets super-irritated when her parents have noisy sex. She sends them snarky texts imploring them to stop. Maybe she includes an eye-rolling emoji or a throwing-up kitten or some such teenaged thing. The dad in this couple doesn't want to "break her." What does Dan Savage have to say? Our guest this week, (on the Micro! You're welcome!) is Brook Urick of Seeking.com- a site where sugar babies can meet their ideal sugar daddy. Hooray! But is this relationship by nature commodified? Is it sex work? Dan and Brook don't see eye to eye on this one. On the Magnum, an out bi guy keeps getting rejected by women once they learn he's bi. Are there any women out there who can handle it? And, a ridiculous sitcom comes to life, when a woman AND HER FRIEND have both set up dates WITH THE SAME GUY.
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A lesbian is a divorcée at age 20. How can she tell her future girlfriends that she had spectacularly bad judgement when she was of a tender age? Hey everyone! Meet Jason, the offended gay Christian! He wishes Dan wouldn't be so derisive of religion. Dan has an answer for him. On the Magnum, a caller is studying to become a sexuality professor. This makes her dates FREAK THE FUCK OUT. Dan brings on an actual sexuality professor -Dr. Debby Herbenick- to address how she dealt with her dating life. And, what should you do when you discover your best friend's new date is on the sex offender registry? (Besides call us.)
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A poly deep dive...

Episode #611 — July 10, 2018

A liberal, PC, feminist, woke man loves to humiliate, slap and call women sluts in the bedroom. (Always consensually.) How can he reconcile the two opposing sides of his personality? A woman and her husband have befriended another family in their new town. The couple revealed that the man is a transman, and that she should ask any questions she wants to. But the caller clammed up and didn't ask. Is it too late to ask about them? How can she learn about the trans experience without offending? In a heavy call, a man relays the tale of how he shoved his girlfriend in a jealous rage. Now that the relationship is over, he wants to make sure he never does anything like that again. How can he keep himself from being "that guy?" On the Magnum: Ready for a polyamory deep dive? Dan interviews Sophie Lucido Johnson, author of Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s).
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