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Episode #700 — March 24, 2020

This week, Dan's guest is epidemiologist Daniel Westreich, who spells out the concept of physical distancing, and why sexual intimacy is going to be pretty difficult to attain for many of us. Some of the conversation is on the Micro, and all of it is on the Magnum. A man asks if virtual reality porn makes sense to help "spice up your sex life." Why yes, it makes A LOT of sense right now. A woman who is engaged to be married to her boyfriend has a female friend. This friend made a drunken, predatory pass at her. Can/should she forgive and try to salvage the friendship? And, saddle up for this weird ride: A man is married to his wife. Cool, cool. They have an open relationship. No prob. She has a boyfriend. Nice. She lives with her boyfriend. Ok? He is not allowed to seek outside partners. Wait- what? Also, his wife's boyfriend forbids her from having sex with the caller, her husband. Soooooo. The caller needs a little chat from Dan Savage. Ring ring!
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A man is going through a divorce from his wife of 7 years. Although their breakup was peaceful, now her communication is curt and unfriendly. Is he entitled to feel angry about her unwarranted coldness? A man kindly lent a friend some money. Now she keeps asking him for more and more every month! Should he just set her up with a regular payment, or cut off the friendship? On the Micro and the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with Dr. Wednesday Martin, author of Untrue, about women's libido, how it really works, and how our culture's misunderstanding harms relationships. A group of folks were disparaging "outie vaginas" at a party. One of the women there got awfully quiet. Did they offend her? Is this the equivalent of making fun of itsy-bitsy, teeny-tiny penises?
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Michael Hobbes on Human Trafficking Hysteria

Episode #689 — January 7, 2020

Why, oh why (bemoans this woman,) is it that the indie, cool, female-owned sex stores never carry dildos that are big enough for her? WHY?! A gay man has been invited to be the man of honor at his sister's wedding. But you know what's weird? The sister is marrying a racist, anti-gay creep who has convinced her that the caller (and all gay people) are degenerates. So. Should our caller carry out his man of honor duties nonetheless? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with Michael Hobbes, co-host of the "You're Wrong About" podcast, about the misinformation swirling around the concept of human trafficking. And a 20 year-old woman is dating an older man. He wants to have kids one day. She is nowhere near considering such a thing. But when they have sex, she gets turned on by talking about getting knocked up. Is it unethical to engage in pregnancy dirty talk with a man who wants to be a dad?
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With Sex Workers' Rights Advocate- Elle Stanger.

Episode #681 — November 12, 2019

A woman wants her boyfriend to pee inside of her. Cool, cool. But he is pee shy! How can he get over it? A woman and her man love threesomes with women. But they don't want kids. Should they warn their unicorn that if she happens to get knocked up they will have no part in the parenting of her kids? Sssssexy! On the Magnum, Dan chats with worker's rights advocate Elle Stanger about the ongoing disaster that is SESTA/FOSTA. A 21 year-old man and his lady both live with their parents, and they have no place to make sweet love. So they do it in the car. But they keep getting caught, once by the police. Is it time to demand some privacy at home? How?
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Get On Your Knees!

Episode #668 — August 13, 2019

A man keeps sending his female friends sexual texts and pics, later apologizing saying it was a mistake and sent to the wrong person. Both our caller, and podcast host know better. A man's husband will sometimes wake in the middle of the night and have wild, uninhibited sex. Then he forgets it happened in the morning. Is it wrong for the caller to enjoy these midnight romps? On the Magnum, Dan chats about one of his favorite subjects: blow jobs- with comedian Jacqueline Novak. And, a bi man's 16 year-old son has come out as bi as well. Naturally, the dad wants to buy his son some anal sex toys. But maybe he should hold off a bit?
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With Sex Worker's Rights Advocate Alex Andrews.

Episode #657 — May 28, 2019

Here are the Savage Lovecast we've noticed that we'll get a bunch of calls on a particular subject all at once. This week it was abortion and weddings. A caller asks if we should just sit on our hands and let Alabama and the other states hijacked by their far right politicians reap the political cost of criminalizing abortion. Hear Dan counsel a gay man who is getting married. A straight couple who the caller considered friends revealed that they couldn't come to the wedding because it violates their Biblical principles. (Sounds like 2 less place settings to deal with. Yahtzee!) On the Magnum, Dan interviews Alex Andrews from the great sex workers' rights advocacy group SWOP. They talk about their pen pal program for incarcerated sex workers, and a misguided (at best) piece of legislation coming up in Florida. And hear the tale of the lovelorn lad and The Mooch.
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The Bad Behavior Show

Episode #639 — January 22, 2019

Some of you are doing terrible things. We start with a teen who has been sneaking off with her mother's vibrator. How can her long-suffering parents encourage her to use one without using *that particular* one? A woman's new boyfriend begs her to let him change her tampon, saying it would bring them closer together. Is this a fetish of his? Is this a fetish of anyone's? This isn't "bad," per se but just what the Sam Hill is going on on here? On the Magnum, Dan chats with bad-assed victims' right's lawyer Carrie Goldberg about the hook-up app Grindr dragging their feet on intervening in some very serious harassment going on. Bad! And, we're not done, just you listen! A woman loves to cheat- she loves the sneaking around, the lying, all of it. She doesn't want poly, she wants to cheat! AND. A gay man regularly "sticks it in" without a condom, even when expressly forbidden to do so. That is so, so bad. Dan has his work cut out for him this week.
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Using the poly label to cheat, cheat, cheat.

Episode #636 — January 1, 2019

The first call of 2019 is all about public sex. So that's how things are looking. We then move on to a deep, methodical analysis of the life cycle of your vibrator. How long should those things last anyway? On the Magnum, Dan chats with queer sex writer Sophie Saint Thomas about her article in Playboy titled "Are Some People Just Slapping the Poly Label on their Cheating?" We are very sorry to report that the answer is yes, yes they are. And, an anxious sister wants to counsel her 16 year-old brother on his plan to initiate a three-way with a couple of lucky young ladies in his class. Ah to be 16... 206-302-2064
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With Justin Lehmiller & Parker Molloy

Episode #626 — October 23, 2018

In the intro, Dan and blogger/trans rights activist Parker Molloy fume over 45's latest anti-trans bluster. A straight man who is apparently just learning some basic facts about our world, wants to know: Do gays ever get divorced? On the Magnum, things get a bit more complicated. Dan interviews Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of "Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life.” They discuss the origins of kinks, and if you can shut them off if they bum you out. Finally, a woman is majorly skeezed whenever she thinks about the existence of incest porn. She just can't go there. Dan's suggestion? ***SPOILER*** Don't go there.
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Ok Seriously. What is up with Adult Babies?

Episode #624 — October 9, 2018

If you found out that your gal pal in her 20s had a hook up with a 17 year-old lad, would you call the cops on her? Should you? Ok, seriously. What is up with adult babies? Dan interviews Lo, of the Dream a Little podcast exploring the relationships between folks who get off on this kind of role play. We suspect you will emerge enlightened. A woman uses the tried and true "pillow humping" technique when she masturbates. Her boyfriend wants her to film it so he can watch. But will he be turned off? Disgusted? Alarmed? And, a woman learned that her monogamous boyfriend has been spending his precious time and money at legal brothels. This broke all the rules. How should she deal with this?
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