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Shy lady doms rise up! With Midori.

Episode #683 — November 26, 2019

A man is getting re-married. Is it shoddy to use the same officiant as his first wedding? Dan talks to a woman who had a blurry encounter with another woman as a very sexually repressed Christian school. Her lover called it rape the next day. It's been ten years, and in this #MeToo era, the caller wonders if she should find the woman and apologize. On the Magnum, a biseuxal woman wonders how she can reconcile being shy and also explore her sexually dominant side. Dan brings the wonderful Midori, wholeads the ForteFemme Women's Dominance Intensive. She knows her stuff, and will surely help churn out an army of joyfully dominant women. Also, Dan issues a tutorial on how to talk dirty without being vulgar. Ok Miss Manners...206-302-2064
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With token straight man, Michael Ian Black.

Episode #679 — October 29, 2019

A tale of two subs: What to do when both people in a couple are submissive? Find one dom to rule them all? Take turns? A woman is super-duper annoyed that her Trump-lovin' brother is throwing a gender reveal party. Are they inherently unacceptable? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan casts about for a straight man to help him answer questions, and finds actor/comedian/author Michael Ian Black to discuss infidelity, betrayal and REVENGE. Also, a lesbian with Asperger's can't tell if her co-worker is flirting with her or not. Tricky stuff. 206-302-2064
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Bi women and weed.

Episode #675 — October 1, 2019

An anonymous LinkedIn contact has asked a woman if she would be his FinDom. He would give her money every week in a form of submission to her. But he refuses to reveal his identity. Should she take him up on it? Would you? A gay man has an out-of-town friend who is straight, conservative and engaged to be married. But when the caller was checking out gay hook-up apps he discovered his friend there. Should the caller reach out to his closeted friend and let him know he knows? Try to stop the wedding? Offer support? Or pretend he never saw a thing? On the Magnum, did you know that bisexual women are huffin' and puffin' that delicious weed way more than straight women? Why would this be? In this "What You Got?" Dan brings on Dr. Morgan Philbin from Columbia University to discuss her research. (For access to this study, Email Dr. Philbin: mp3243@columbia.edu) And, a gay man has been checking out a guy at the gym. Is he gay? Or just working out? Are his smoldering looks being reciprocated? How can he get to the bottom of this sexy mystery?
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It's the S & M show!

Episode #659 — June 11, 2019

With the ever-charming and fearsome Mistress Matisse. She came to our studio to help Dan answer questions about bruises (wanted and unwanted,) gang bangs, the nasty kind of doms you'll meet on Reddit, rough sex when you're pregnant and the proper care and washing of your ball-gag. And more! And, on the Magnum, Dan chats with historian and author Peter Tupper on his new book A Lover's Pinch: A Cultural History of Sadomasochism. Yowwwwch! 206-302-2064
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With Eric Leue from the Free Speech Coalition.

Episode #642 — February 12, 2019

A woman makes twice as much as her boyfriend. When he learned this his eyes went wide. Now she feels guilty. Should she start paying more of the bills? Do you like piña coladas? A kinky woman started dating a new man. Before she could tell him about her kinks she discovered that the dude she's been talking dirty with on Fetlife is THE SAME GUY, but he doesn't know it yet. How can she tell him that they are already...acquainted? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Eric Leue from the Free Speech Coalition about the rise of sex censorship on the internet. Then Eric stayed on to help Dan answer some questions about using dom/sub sex to relieve anxiety, inhibiting your gag reflex, and straight bartenders in gay bars. 206-302-2064
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With Stormy Daniels!

Episode #631 — November 27, 2018

Well looky who blew into town! Stormy Daniels came on over to our studio to answer callers' questions about blow jobs, toxic men, protecting the male ego and other hazards. Stormy and Dan got on like a house on fire, and you must listen to it. A couple questions are on the Micro version and many more are on the Magnum. Also, how to get used to using "they/them" pronouns, and how to explain the Black Lives Matter movement to your clueless, idiotic relatives. 206-302-2064
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With Sunny and Ken from the American Sex Podcast.

Episode #600 — April 24, 2018

You guys? We've been making this podcast for 600 episodes. How do we celebrate? By talking about pee pee! A woman who is about to get married is having a total freak-out affair! She's been seeing her lover for only 3 months, but she's convinced it's true love. Should she call off the wedding? A woman spontaneously comes whenever she sits in a sauna. Why Dan, why??!! Dan chats with the charming and super-freaky Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg-- sexuality educators, hosts of American Sex Podcast, and creators of the Sex with Sunny Megatron TV series on Showtime. Clown orgies? Check. Piss Play? Most definitely. Beet juice? Yes, beet juice. And, is it damaging to tell a newlywed couple to "have sex every day?"
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The Art of the Solicited Dick Pic.

Episode #588 — January 30, 2018

Gather round, and hear two nasty tales of violent, crazy girlfriends. Would you date someone who painted all over your sheets and poured liquor on your clothes? You would? Oh, never mind then. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Nicole Mazzeo, founder of Pleasure Pie and creator of "The Art of the Solicited Dick Pic" a zine for the folks out there who love a naughty surprise on their phones. And, a phone sex worker wonders how she can handle men who want to engage in emotionally scarring sex chatter. What a world. 206-302-2064
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Whoa, no way! It's Sarah Silverman!

Episode #587 — January 23, 2018

This week Dan caught up with Sarah Silverman to chat about her show "I Love You America." They also answered some callers' questions about conquering jealousy, and kids sticking things in their butts, among other things. She is a superior human and you should listen to the whole thing. A sub woman has been chatting with a dom. But he lacks experience, and he's maybe too short? How can she end it without offending him? Also, a woman just can't reclaim the inherent sexiness of her breasts after nursing her child. How can she get her boob-pleasure back? And, so, so, so much more. 206-302-2064
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Mollena Williams on sub space.

Episode #562 — August 1, 2017

If your boyfriend wants you to help him to film women so he can scratch his voyeur itch, is there an ethical way to do this? Hear the sordid tale of the the woman who wants to call Child Protective Services on her own damn boyfriend. On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer and BDSM educator Mollena Williams about "sub space" -what it is, and what it isn't. Also, a woman is getting annoyed that her boyfriend keeps presenting her with highly scripted sex scenarios that probably originated from porn. How can she keep him happy but also fly off-script? 206-302-2064
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