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Episode #638 — January 15, 2019

A gay man is sick of always having to initiate with his new boyfriend. The boyfriend is a big guy, but very submissive. How can the caller get the dude to make a move now and again? A woman caught her fiancé wanking to photos of his exes. Now she feels jealous and insecure. How can she get over it? On the Magnum, hear two tales of companionate marriages: How to do it right, and how to do it wrong. And, a woman with baby fever is single, but hell bent on reproducing. She is convinced her parents will disapprove of her plan to find a sperm donor. But she's gonna do it anyway...
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Is kink an orientation?

Episode #408 — August 19, 2014

This week, Dan welcomes author Joan Price to talk about sexuality for older folks. Meanwhile, back in high school, a gay lad is suffering because his boyfriend has suddenly decided he's straight. On the Magnum, Dan chats and spars with prolific freelance writer Jillian Keenan about whether kink is a sexual orientation. And, how can a gentle giant figure out how to dominate his lady in the way she really wants?
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Slut-shaming roommates gone wild!

Episode #372 — December 10, 2013

A sexually active woman is slut-shamed by her own roommates in a prudish house intervention. A caller wonders if gay men will pay to be dominated. In the deep South. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with author Emily Maguire about how our culture puts forth the idea that women don't enjoy sex, so men needn't bother making it pleasurable for them. Dreadful, really. And, hear the tale of a woman who had a secret affair with her former high school teacher.
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Dan and Mistress Matisse chat about BDSM.

Episode #343 — May 21, 2013

"She wants a dom, not a dick." Gather round everyone, and listen in as Dan Savage and Mistress Matisse gab about BDSM, where kink comes from, fantasy BDSM vs. non-consensual abuse and how to meet a kinky mate. Also, hear the blow by blow account of a woman who went from her unicorn audition to opening night in a single date. Three-way etiquette tip #46: Couples- it is polite to thank your unicorn with a kind note.
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Meet Naughty Dr. Pee-Pee and the Patient with a Secret. Those of you in the medical or dental professions will find this episode most… illuminating. A man is feeling hella anxiety over the fact that his girlfriend makes a lot more money than he does. Should he make her pay for dinner already? A young gay man is considering an old lover's offer to fly him to his city for a weekend of dom/sub play. Is the lad allowed to go sightseeing or should he expect to spend all of his time in the hotel room? Oh lordy. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage Today's episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
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Dan welcomes very special guest star Mistress Matisse to discuss S&M when you're really, really mad. Also Dan goes into the finer details of hickey etiquette, and clears up once and for all whether mutual masturbation is fact or fiction. Call, call, call.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
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A 70-year-old man finds himself addicted to the expensive charms of a "financial dominatrix." A woman's husband can't be bothered to use the vibrator that sends her over the moon. A kinky couple can't be bothered to take the time to do the BDSM that gets them both off. Hmmm. The gift of ho: The sister of a disabled man wonders how to go about buying him a sex worker for the holidays. Dan brings in guest expert Cory Silverberg, author of The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability, to help her along. And a question for the lesbians of the world: Why don't you want to date a "real man" instead of a "fake man"? Let us know, ladies: 206-201-2720 This episode was brought to you by Audible.com. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage
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Dan's off this week, so we dug up this goodie from last October. Perhaps you remember the morality tale of the lady who fucked her concierge? How about sex with a marijuana enthusiast? How can you get back into the pants of a recently traumatized sexual-assault victim? And the nasty, brutish behavior of a woman's ex-boyfriend turns her on. How can she get some more of that? Back next week with a fresh one. Call us at 206-201-2720.
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She went and fucked her concierge and now things are terribly awkward with him... should she get him fired? * A man's crush just got sexually assaulted and now she's wrecked. He's tried being caring and supportive... how can he get back into her pants? * Another caller's fiancé is a marijuana enthusiast. He's smoking up all her money and lies about it. Any ideas on what she should do? * And finally, a woman is chagrined to discover that during a nasty breakup fight, she found that the cruel and domineering behavior of her boyfriend... turned her on! How can she get some more of that? Also, a caller with a devastatingly sexy New Zealand accent. Rrrrowwwrr! Call 206-201-2720 Keep it short, but give us details. And please don't call from the car or subway.
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Here are the dilemmas and concerns that Dan Savage helps his listeners grapple with this week: He loves her. She loves him. But he wants to dominate her and she just wants some sweet, sweet lovin'. A Caucasian lady offers some advice of her own to our nation's African-American gentlemen. Is one loving teaspoon enough? And, when it comes to orgasms, she's a lone wolf. Can Dan help a young lady learn to share her most intimate moments with others? Listen in. And would it kill you to call? 206-201-2720. It's a voicemail. Record your question, using a land line if at all possible, and maybe we'll use it. Leave your phone number if you're up for a follow-up call.
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