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Welcome to the Real Doll Brothel.

Episode #633 — December 11, 2018

A woman had sex with a pre-op transwoman. But she didn't make the caller come, or even try. Now the caller wonders if this is a "vagina-bodied" vs "non vagina-bodied" problem, or just a "jerk" problem. A married gay man with kids begs Dan for a quick n' dirty guide on how to add a third partner into their relationship. How can they have adventures and maintain the sanctity of their family unit? On the Magnum version, check out Canada! They are slowly but surely opening sex doll & robot brothels. Is this gonna be ok? Dr. James Cantor, the Director of the Toronto Sexuality Center, is on to discuss the implications of this new phenomenon. Canada- you so freaky. A woman's sister is into drag, and wants to include the caller. The caller wants to dress up in female drag (even though she's a woman) but worries about culturally appropriating gay male culture's appropriation of women. Did you get all that? Spoiler! Dan tells her to chill out. High heels are super weird. 206-302-2064
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The triumphant return...OF LUCY!

Episode #404 — July 22, 2014

Dan and his buddy Lucy chat about spanking, cheating, pervy cousins and sleeping with the cab driver.
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The Tortured Creamed Corn Metaphor.

Episode #370 — November 26, 2013

A man and his wife have agreed to divorce. But they have to keep living together for 3 more months. Would it be shabby to start sleeping with the hot gal that lives down the block? An 18 year old girl is engaged to be married to a man who she already knows to be sexually incompatible with her. So what's the problem? Dan chats with Dr. David Sarwer about libido changes following weight-loss surgery. In Magnum-land, a couple embarking on an open relationship disagree on who to tell and how to tell about their new, scandalous status. And, you're going to want to gather 'round the Thanksgiving table with your entire family and listen to the tale of a woman who went a-snooping and discovered that her sister is in a sugar-baby/sugar daddy relationship. Dan chats with the PR lass at a sugar daddy website about how wholesome and innocent this arrangement must truly be. It warms the heart.
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How can we help homeless LGBT youth?

Episode #361 — September 24, 2013

Are young ladies allowed to call or "text" unattached, young men to ask for a date? Or would this tarnish a girl's valued reputation? A sex worker wonders if it's ethical for her to fake orgasms with her clients. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with the saintly Carl Siciliano, from NYC's Ali Forney Center, the nation's largest organization dedicated to homeless LGBT youths. (Confidential to homophobic parents everywhere: You don't really want your kid to live on the streets do you? Do you?) A bewildered straight couple wonders: In which bathroom should our nation's drag queens dwell? Fragrance. Do you have to wear it if your partner wants you to? And more.
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Dating "Senior Sensitivo."

Episode #356 — August 20, 2013

"Cum Dumpster." Is this a sweet, sexy term, or just plain nasty? A straight woman in Texas feels like a nelly gay man trapped in a woman's body. How can she find her people? A woman has been using OK Cupid for 2 years and still hasn't gotten any action. So Dan chats with OK Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder on what she might be doing wrong. On the Magnum version, Dan interviews sex researcher Dr. Joye Swan on risk-taking and using the idea of monogamy as a magical shield. And more.
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