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A gay cuckolding study with Dr. Justin Lehmiller

Episode #590 — February 13, 2018

A woman is worried that a couple she's friends with will ask her and her husband to swing. How can she politely tell them that she and her husband don't roll that way? A man's new boyfriend is so wonderful! Their relationship is beautiful and amazing. Unfortunately, he is also a homeless, lying meth-head. How can the caller confront his boyfriend with compassion? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Justin Lehmiller about a study looking at cuckolding among gay men. And, a woman's mother's boyfriend invites her to his pool alone, texts her out of nowhere and gives her random gifts of cash. She is loathe to fear the worst about him, but...well, she fears the worst about him. And so does Dan Savage. And so will all of you. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage". Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Everlane.com/Savage
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Our silly little drug war.

Episode #434 — February 17, 2015

A married woman has lost all sex drive. Her husband is willing to let her be with other men. But the thought of her husband with another woman makes her so jealous that her mouth goes dry. Is this gonna work out ok? A straight man with a newly issued hall pass is having a hard time meeting ladies who will sleep with him because they know he's in a relationship. Why must it be this way? Why?! On the Magnum, Dan chats with author Johann Hari, on our silly little drug war, and how drug abuse results from boredom and isolation, not drug availability. And more! 206-201-2720
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The Brothers McElroy

Episode #421 — November 18, 2014

Wait. You haven't yet heard "My Brother, My Brother and Me?" Well, we've rectified that situation, as Dan joins forces with the McElroy Brothers for a Second Opinion on how to change your boyfriend's look, the cruel practice of "sexile" and a cold hard look at the institution of "dude's night out." On the Magnum, hear Dan try to talk some sense into a young man whose fuckbuddy is a heroin enthusiast. She's twitchin' and scratchin' but he's "leaning toward eating her pussy." Hhhhot! This is kind of one of our favorite shows. Listen in, won't you? 206-201-2720 Listen to the brothers every god-damned week at MBMBAM.com.
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Cameron Esposito and her side-mullet too.

Episode #415 — October 7, 2014

A man is getting a yucky feeling from his best friend's new girlfriend. They've never met, mind you. But she seems kind of superficial? On social media? Should he speak up to protect his friend, or butt out already? A very naughty woman is sexting with her ex-boyfriend. AND HE DOESN'T KNOW IT'S HER. On the Magnum, Dan and comedian Cameron Esposito yak about straight men in lesbian bars, pathetic closet cases, and a woman who is trapped in and oppressed by her given name. Cameron's got a real pretty voice. 206-201-2720
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The Nipple Thing.

Episode #357 — August 27, 2013

Dan helps a woman determine the fine line between over-permissiveness and slut-shaming for her 14 year-old step-daughter. In more hand-wringing, a young man wants to be sure he obtains consent from his lucky ladies, but how much asking is too much asking? On the Magnum show, a woman's boyfriend enjoys a nosefull of cocaine every month or so. She hates it. Does she have the right to ask him to choose between her or his precious blow? Dan explains the finer points of slut etiquette to a lass who prefers to dash off rather than spend the night. And finally, hear the tale of the woman whose snooping revealed that her boyfriend was having an affair with his mother's secretary. Stop that snooping ya'll, lest you learn something you wish you hadn't.
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"I got no stake in his balls."

Episode #344 — May 28, 2013

A woman met a man in a bar and they exchanged numbers. Then she sent him some steamy, hot, erotic fiction that she wrote. About him. What's the reading on the Good Sense-O-Meter? Ladies! When creeps dish out cat-calls and unwanted touches, how do you respond? We want to hear your stories. 206-201-2720 On the potential side effects of hair loss medication, the ever prudent Dan Savage counsels "Don't gamble with your boner." And that's just the beginning! On the Magnum side… Sordid tales of video blackmail, an Australian man who won't go down (under,) yet another open relationship catastrophe and, the deliciously heart-warming tale of a woman who obligingly kicks a man in the balls. You'll feel like you were there.
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A man's boyfriend's super-hot ex-lover is coming back to town. Should he feel jealous and insecure when they go out for drinks, or start scheming to make a three-way happen?  A man got dumped by his girlfriend. He demanded that she submit an explanation in writing. For some reason, she hasn't done this yet. Any chance they'll get back together?  And a typical question about dick-biting.  Ho hum.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter GGGJuly at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by www.Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or a blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code “Savage7” for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.
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What happens when you're turned on by rape fantasies and then you actually get raped? Time to find a new fantasy. Marijuana! Is it Viagra for women? A transvestite in Kansas: A college crossdresser finds it hard to meet women who will accept him for who he is. We accept you. Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day trial, go to netflix.com/savage. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. You can and should comment on this show over at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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A gay man watches in horror as his gay friend attempts to become straight in order to please Jesus Christ. Meanwhile, an ex-Mormon and current foot-fetishist wonders if it's dishonest to give his girlfriend a foot rub. A grandpa is worried about the porn watching habits of his grandson. Though he used to spank it pretty good in his day... And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten Today's episode is brought to you by Get STD Tested. Call today for easy, reliable, and confidential STD testing: 888-387-1879
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Sometimes spring-winter romances just can't work. Like when he is 19 years old, and she is 11. Dan helps a very confused bisexual woman and a virgin Muslim homo to come out—at least to themselves. After their third child is born, a man is no longer attracted to his wife. And he feels like a big jerk. And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten
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