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Work-related questions answered: with Rob Walker

Episode #663 — July 9, 2019

A man still has hot videos he took of his ex. He loves his current girlfriend, but the sex isn't nearly as good. How wrong is it to view the historical footage? A straight man has HAD IT UP TO HERE with all this "they/them" stuff! And sometimes, you use "they/them" and they still get mad! "What are we doing here, Dan?" On the Magnum, Dan chats with Rob Walker- Human Resource columnist for Lifehacker, about dealing with various schmuckos at work. Also, a woman and her fiancé happily trade chores for sexual favors. Is this ok? 206-302-2064
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Second Opinion with Hola Papi!

Episode #621 — September 18, 2018

A woman enjoys anonymous webcamming with older men. But do they cross a line when they both pretend that she's... very young? A poly father doesn't know how to explain his healthy, happy relationships to his 5 year old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan enlists JP Brammer, author of the "Hola Papi" advice column to talk about interracial dating and to take down a personal trainer/tease. And, a guy with a girlfriend is sick of everyone asking when they're going to have kids. They don't want kids. What is wrong with people? 206-302-2064
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With Mayor Betsy Hodges.

Episode #575 — October 31, 2017

A woman from the UK wonders why Americans are so quick to commit to each other after just a little bit of sex. Dan's history lesson explains it all. A woman and her husband are into hot-spousing. It's been super-fun and brought them closer together as a couple. But her husband gets racked with guilt each time, and runs to tell his priest ALL ABOUT IT. What's his damage? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Mayor Betsy Hodges of Minneapolis about being on the vanguard of urban resistance. Keep fightin' Betsy! And, are you into having women burp in your mouth? This guy is...
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Katha Pollitt on abortion rights.

Episode #418 — October 28, 2014

It's the triumphant return of Dr. Barak, here to reassure us that drinking pee is still "pretty darn safe." Is guzzling jizz the equivalent of drinking a protein shake? Should a man rat out his boss for watching porn on his phone after work? On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Katha Pollitt about her new book, Pro: Reclaiming Abortion Rights. And more. 206-201-2720
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Dad, whose panties are these?

Episode #388 — April 1, 2014

This episode is riddled with parents creeping out their kids. A man in an established open relationship is horrified to learn that his step-daughter caught him chatting with other ladies. How can he explain to her that he's playing by the rules? It gets much worse. We won't reveal all here, but let's just say that your father might be into panties. And finally in our trilogy of parental distress, how the hell do you tell your kids that your family is…special? Dan brings on poly lawyer Diana Adams to help. Over in Magnumtown... In this week's "What You Got?" Dan chats with Dr. Arielle Kuperberg about her study showing that if you marry young, you're more liable to get divorced, duh. A married man and the little lady like to go out on the town and have some sexy time. But he's not as young as he used to be, and likes to enhance the evening with Viagra. Should he tell her about the Tinkerbell pills? And finally, tattoos: Hot or not?
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Ask an Ethicist!

Episode #383 — February 25, 2014

This week on the Magnum version of the Lovecast, Dan enlists heavyweight ethicist Randy Cohen (the former New York Times columnist) to help answer some pretty twisted questions. A woman feels guilty for dumping her boyfriend. She dumped him because he didn't so much kiss her as stab her with his tongue sword. Could she have maybe taught him the subtle art of kissing instead? An impatient male unicorn wonders if he should call, text and otherwise pester his intended couple. And so much more. 206-201-2720
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Dan and the mortician talk about DEATH.

Episode #366 — October 29, 2013

This week Dan talks sex and death with Caitlin Doughty of Ask a Mortician. Spooky! Dan also chats with Dr. Sydnee and Justin McElroy of the Sawbones podcast about "treatments" for STi's in medical history including huffing mercury, injecting liquid silver and squashing anal warts between stones. Also, mummies with crabs. Scary! And, a woman is having premarital sex. That's sex BEFORE she gets married. Her mother feels nothing but horror. Eeeeeeeee! Happy Halloween, ghouls.
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How can we help homeless LGBT youth?

Episode #361 — September 24, 2013

Are young ladies allowed to call or "text" unattached, young men to ask for a date? Or would this tarnish a girl's valued reputation? A sex worker wonders if it's ethical for her to fake orgasms with her clients. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with the saintly Carl Siciliano, from NYC's Ali Forney Center, the nation's largest organization dedicated to homeless LGBT youths. (Confidential to homophobic parents everywhere: You don't really want your kid to live on the streets do you? Do you?) A bewildered straight couple wonders: In which bathroom should our nation's drag queens dwell? Fragrance. Do you have to wear it if your partner wants you to? And more.
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When lesbians flirt: What is a red-blooded lad to think when his lesbian pal makes goo-goo eyes at him?  Are parents today too sex-positive? Dan and sex educator Amy Lang talk about water sports among 3-year-olds and a bad place to put Legos.  And more.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter GGG2012 at checkout.  This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage   Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast Check out Anna Pulley: http://annapulley.com/ And Amy Lang: http://birdsandbeesandkids.com/
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Come hear the tale of the woman who wanks like a toddler. Remember that boy who got booted out of the Christian singing group "Psalm 100" for being gay? Dan chats him up a bit. How can a fickle bisexual chicken take the plunge and suck some cock already? And more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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