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People are...good? With Nicholas A. Christakis.

Episode #653 — April 30, 2019

A kinky woman enjoys having slaves. But the guy she really likes is vanilla. It didn't work out. This is sad. Does being kinky mean you can't have vanilla love too? A school teacher and her boyfriend want to go to a sex club. But she's worried about running into parents of her students, or school administration. How cautious should this sexy schoolmarm be? On the Magnum, Dan chats with sociologist and author Nicholas A. Christakis about his book: Blueprint: The Evolutionary Origins of a Good Society. They discuss monogamy, polyandry, polygyny and the human propensity for ...wait for it...peace and love. How he fares against eternal pessimist Dan Savage is up to you to decide. And, a fat man bemoans the lack of porn celebrating fat men.
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Doggity Style!

Episode #634 — December 18, 2018

Dear Australia, Hi! This is the Savage Lovecast. Listen. Do you guys refer to the very common sexual position where a man enters a woman from behind while she is on all fours as ..."Doggity Style?" No? We didn't think so. (Both Dan and Nancy are gobsmacked by this call.) A man's friend has been accused of sexual assault from when they were both in a pseudo-Christian cult. The caller believes the women, but also wants to support his friend and help him to become a better person. How? Strap-ons...for MEN??!! Well, sure! So says Erika Moen, our resident sex toy expert, and co-author of a new sex ed book called Drawn to Sex: the Basics. And, on the Magnum version, does enjoyment of spicy food correlate to being a sub? Oh, for Christ's sake. 206-302-2064
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Mindfulness: The female Viagra?

Episode #617 — August 21, 2018

A woman got together with what seemed to be the perfect man for her. Kinky. Into spanking. And social justice! But after they got together she discovered that he is really the married pastor of a conservative mega-church. Dan counsels her on whether to unmask this lying creep. A gay man came out late in life. When he tells his dates this, they balk. How can he reveal his truth to the men in his life and still earn their respect? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the estimable Dr. Lori Brotto about her new book: "Better Sex through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire." Sounds good, right? And, what on earth is "tribbing?" Spell-check sure doesn't like it.
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Meet the lesbian panel!

Episode #613 — July 24, 2018

A woman who lives in a group house likes listening in when someone is having sex near her. Handwringing ensues. Is this unethical? Should she feel guilty? Should she stop? A woman who has gone from eating way too little to eating way too much, wrestles with how to talk about the diminishing sex with her boyfriend. On the Magnum, Dan convenes a high-powered lesbian panel to handle a few questions concerning processing, fighting, processing, how to define yourself, and processing. Lady-loving ladies rejoice! And, a gay man is annoyed that all the films he's seen show gay sex in one, predictable, tedious position. Why do filmmakers lack imagination?
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Erotica by and for women? Yes please...

Episode #604 — May 22, 2018

A 60 year-old man has been dating a woman for 4 months. He wishes she would lose some weight. Oh, and also? She lost her breasts to cancer. Does he have the right to ask her to get a boob job too? Sidle up, dear listener, and hear the tale of the woman, her much older boyfriend, and...and her boyfriend's...son? After hearing this, one of the tech-savvy at-risk youth had to take a walk around the block. But fearlessly, we continue! On the Magnum, Dan interviews Inka, the creator of ForPlay Films: Erotica made by women, for women. And somehow Dan convinced Nancy to talk about sex during a woman's "moon time." This show is a banger. 206-302-2064.
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The kindly mother of a 12 year-old boy wonders if she should discreetly leave some lube by his bed as he learns to love him himself fully. A woman is horrified to discover that her hook-up doesn't have sheets on the bed. "The bed is no good," she laments. Should she see him again? Is there a fix here? Dan and the mighty Mistress Matisse revisit the horrifying SESTA/FOSTA bill snaking its way into law. This bill will be devastating to sex workers and the internet in general. Please follow #LetUsSurvive onTwitter and learn about this latest nasty piece of legislation. In much happier news, a caller who formerly suffered from Death Grip Syndrome, has made a full recovery, thanks to Dan's proven therapy program.
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A sex toy to help you DO YOUR KEGELS.

Episode #585 — January 9, 2018

A man is into being tied up and pegged. But his wife finds it dull, tedious, boring and stultifying. Should he give up on the idea, or find a way to convince his wife that she could have some fun here. Oh no! More S&M trouble! A woman had a great date with a hot dom who dommed her so, so right. But now she feels nothing but shame. How can she clear out all the kink-phobia from her naughty brain? On the Magnum, our resident sex toy reviewer Erika Moen has found a toy to help you DO YOUR KEGELS. Do them now. And, can we accurately gauge how good a parent someone will be based on how they treat a cute, little puppy-dog? 206-302-2064
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Get Thee to a Therapist, Go. With Buck Angel.

Episode #577 — November 14, 2017

Gather round the circle listeners, as Dan invokes the serenity prayer to council a woman who is being trolled by her neighbor's WiFi network name. A trans man who has not yet begun his transition, is angry and frustrated that he can't find any gay men who are interested in him. Buck Angel, (a.k.a the Man with a Pussy) swoops in to give much-needed, rational perspective. On the Magnum: Get Thee to a Therapist, Go. A treasure trove of callers who perhaps could use the services of an actual professional. Or not. Whatever. 206-302-2064
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Rachel Bloom

Episode #549 — May 2, 2017

A gay man living in Jerusalem wants to get with one of the orthodox guys who are always furtively eyeing him. But how can he make his move? A married man in an open relationship is SO BUSTED when he installs recording devices in his wife's room when she's having a man over. How can he channel his voyeur fetish on a consensual way? Dan sidles right up next to Rachel Bloom, star and creator of "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend" to talk about Tinder jerks, anal novices and getting ogled on stage. Some is on the Micro, all is on the Magnum. And, a building manager is faced with the unenviable task of chastising a tenant couple for having ear-splittingly loud sex, AND chastising their neighbor for recording the whole thing. 206-302-2064
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RANDY RAINBOW

Episode #531 — December 27, 2016

In these dark times, there is a man to bring us joy. His name is Randy Rainbow. Dan and Randy talk about his brilliant YouTube videos, dealing with the election and farting. A woman in a long distance relationship doesn't like the way her man goes down on her. So, she just sits there and waits for it to be over. Maybe there's a better strategy to explore? On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and Editor of Bustle.com, Gabrielle Moss about a practice you need to acquaint yourself with: grapefruiting. And, learn how NOT to incorporate nosebleeds into your sex life. 206-302-2064
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