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Dr. Debby Herbenick on ANXIETY ORGASMS.

Episode #491 — March 22, 2016

A straight man has begun a relationship with a transwoman. To put his question bluntly, is he obligated to suck her dick? How on earth is a nice gay man supposed to deal with his father when dad has sworn to vote for Donald Trump? A woman is horrified to see boudoir paintings of her boyfriend’s ex staring at her from the walls. Does she have the right to ask him to take them down? On the Magnum, a woman gets turned on when she experiences anxiety. She even had a couple orgasms in the airport when she missed her flight. Dr. Debby Herbenick chats with Dan about this phenomenon and how to harness such a dark power. 206-302-2064 Hey, are you still reading this? We are putting together a special sex toys episode with lots of experts. If you have a question relating to dildos, restraints, vibrators and the like, NOW IS THE TIME TO CALL. Like right now.
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Female Ejaculate Study-Debunked!

Episode #430 — January 20, 2015

It's the Getting-Women-to-Come show! Sometimes ladies can't come and want to. Sometimes ladies can't come and they don't want to. Sometimes ladies can come just fine. Dan sure talks a lot about female orgasms on this show, considering he's never been near one. Bad Science Alert! Female Ejaculate: Is it pee? Dan speaks with fearless blogger Amy Luna Manderino about some annoying hyperventilation in response to a recent study on squirting. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Cooper Beckett from the Life on the Swingset podcast about the joys and perils of swinging. And finally, a new image will spring to mind when you hear "She's smokin' hot!!" 206-201-2720
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Allison Moon on female ejaculation geysers.

Episode #427 — December 30, 2014

A drunken lass has intellectual crushes on her professors. How can she express her "love for their intellect?" A man is totes bummed when a date ditches him after discovering that he smokes cigarettes. Is this just what online dating is like? One condom. Three people. Does this math add up? On the Magnum, Dan chats with uber-lesbian author and sex educator Allison Moon about female ejaculation and the geyser that sometimes results. And, listen to a cavalcade of remedies for PMS! 206-201-2720
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How to find ethically made porn.

Episode #413 — September 23, 2014

A man's wife uses their dom/sub relationship as ammo when they are fighting out of the bedroom. And THAT AIN'T FAIR! Should it be a deal-breaker if your boyfriend doesn't like your sense of humor? (Hint: YES.) A gay man is having some complicated orgy issues. Don't we all? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Sarah Mirk- the online editor of Bitch Magazine about feminist-friendly porn; how to find it, and how to avoid the bad stuff. And more, more, more. 206-201-2720
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Tracy Clark-Flory on "Involuntary Celibates."

Episode #397 — June 3, 2014

A woman is going nuts because her boyfriend insists on keeping a memento of his previous girlfriend. Is he being unreasonable, or is she the mayor of Crazytown? A straight man wonders if it's too weird to ask his martial arts partner to be his "kink buddy." On the Magnum, Dan chats with Salon writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the "Involuntary Celibates" community, and the rampant misogyny within it. Yikes! Also, meet yet another casualty in the Kissing Wars.
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Accidental lady-buggering; It's a thing!

Episode #341 — May 7, 2013

How should you respond when your cousin accidentally sends you a naked pic? Dick growing pills. Any money in that racket? Dan speaks with Dr. Thomas Clark from the CDC about a new worrisome meningitis outbreak among gay men. And, over on the Magnum side: Finally the answer to the age old question of whether it's ok for a woman to eat her own female ejaculate! Dan speaks with Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, author of "Why Men Fake It" about why men fake it. And, an avalanche of responses from men and women about accidental lady-buggering.
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This week we are joined by the good doctor Vy Chu- a specialist in gay men's health. So there's a lot of talk about butts. And balls. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day trial, go to www.netflix.com/savage. You can and should comment on this show over at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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Too much information? A woman confides in a friend that she is having an affair. Now the friend feels on the hook with this unwanted knowledge. Should she tell or clam up? A man and his girlfriend have agreed to embark on an open relationship. But it's open only for him. She's not allowed to go outside the relationship. Is this okay? Heike Rodriguez, an educator who teaches women how to achieve female ejaculation, talks with Dan in the studio and makes him squirm in about a dozen ways. Two words: vulva puppet. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day trial, go to netflix.com/savage Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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Polyamory: There's a dark side, you know. When a stripper pays you extra attention at a strip club, does it automatically mean you're being hustled? Gusher on Aisle 3! This lady has the dubious problem of ejaculating so much that she needs three layers of towels lest she soak the bed. And more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today here: http://j.mp/savageaudible Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten
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Fruit fetish! A woman enjoys being penetrated by fruits and vegetables. The problem? Her husband won't eat the bananas. A man has been subtly propositioned by a married couple to have a three-way. He wants to… BUT HE'S SCARED. Bawk. Bawk. Bawk. Is having a child like having a dog? Or like having a heroin problem? Does your dog wear diapers? Call us at 206-201-2720. This episode was brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today: http://j.mp/savageaudible Today's episode is brought to you by Adam & Eve. Receive 50% off most any item, when you enter "Savage" at check-out: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve
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