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Nathaniel Frank on gay marriage.

Episode #552 — May 23, 2017

A straight male weight-lifter likes to shave his chest and pits. His friends are giving him grief about it. How can this sensitive strongman get over the peer pressure and revel in his smooth, smooth body? A gay man's foster son has had a rough life. And now he realizes they are both on Grindr. Awkward? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Nathaniel Frank, author of Awakening: How Gays and Lesbians Brought Marriage Equality to America. And, a woman's sister used to be in an abusive relationship, which she kept hidden. Now she's got a new guy, and guess what? He's a creep! Should the caller speak up? 206-302-2064
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Ever since her brother walked in on her masturbating as a child, our poor caller thinks about him when she’s fantasizing. How can she get her brother out of her sex-head? In other yucky family dramas, a woman’s father has advanced dementia, and tugs it openly, all the time. It’s gotten to the point where she doesn’t want to see a single penis- not even her dear boyfriend’s. How can she get her father out of her sex-head? Man. What is going on out there? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Emily Bazelon and Mistress Matisse about decriminalization of prostitution. And, even though gay marriage is finally legal in this country, a lesbian still finds the concept of a lesbian wedding ridiculous. Dan helps her tease her discomfort apart. 206-302-2064
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Matt Baume on the gay marriage fight.

Episode #457 — July 28, 2015

A woman feels so insecure about the way her vagina looks, she won’t let her boyfriend near it. How can he convince her that she is beautiful all over? A disabled gay man has a boyfriend who refuses to have sex with him. His psychiatrist thinks they should stay together. Dan thinks otherwise. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Matt Baume, author of “Defining Marriage” about the heroes of the marriage equality struggle. Also, a pestering professor asks his former student to sleep with him, right after she asked him for a recommendation. How should she handle this bit of unpleasantness? And more. Call us at our new number! 206-302-2064
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Second Opinion with Carolyn Hax.

Episode #425 — December 16, 2014

If you're a bisexual man in a monogamous relationship with a woman, is a little twink porn so wrong? When mothers move in: A woman's libido plummeted right around the time that her boyfriend's mother moved in to the apartment below them. Coincidence? In an action-packed Magnum, Dan welcomes rival advice-giving powerhouse Carolyn Hax to grapple with some serious poly drama and super-freaky, non-communicative parents. Also, all hail Evan Wolfson! He's the architect of the national gay marriage legalization campaign. He and Dan discuss the plight of a gay, married man who has to move to a state that doesn't recognize his marriage. All that…and more. 206-201-2720
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With special guest, John Corvino!

Episode #400 — June 24, 2014

A woman discovers through dubious sources that her step-mother might be cheating on her father. Dan walks her through a way to deal with this unpleasantness. A woman still living with her ex-husband and son wonders how poly people balance all those boyfriends and girlfriends. On the Magnum, Dan welcomes philosophy professor and gay marriage diplomat John Corvino to discuss ethics and the state of the gay rights movement. And more.
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Panti Bliss, you GO girl!

Episode #385 — March 11, 2014

On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Irish drag queen Panti Bliss about his battle with litigious homophobes and the mighty, mighty power of drag. Dan also welcomes author and therapist Dr. Marty Klein to advise a woman whose dear friend has cut off all contact with females in his life because he has been diagnosed with sex addiction. What do you do when your new man's belly makes it impossible to fuck? And finally, what would you rather lose: your unibrow or your virginity? Plus a ton more.
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The upside of herpes...courtesy of science!

Episode #378 — January 21, 2014

A man with his dream girl, simply cannot forgive her for cheating on him at the very beginning of their relationship. What is the remedy? "Why do I like older men??!" asks a young gay man, with nearly audible hand-wringing. Boner Pills! Do they work? How? On the Magnum…Dan chats with a scientist working to pit herpes against cancer. (We think they deserve each other…) And, listen in as Dan accuses a woman of being "The sentient stove with agency who keeps burning someone." And a ton more. Tickets to the Seattle Valentine's Day show with Dan and guests are at StrangerTickets.com.
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After over a year of dating a woman online that the caller had never met, he is horrified to learn that she isn't at all who she said she was. What now? Bloody lovin': Dan brings on a pointy-headed professor to discuss the taboo against sex with a menstruating woman. On the Magnum version, Dan chats with an expert on when and how to call Child Protective Services. A lesbian who is getting married can't help but notice that her mother was WAY more engaged in her two straight daughters' weddings than the caller's. How can she get mom to show some support? And, is there etiquette when presenting your hairy ass to a waxer, if you are a gentleman? And a lot more.
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Tales of open relationships gone horribly wrong.

Episode #342 — May 14, 2013

Tales of open relationships gone bad. Is it so wrong to move in with your boyfriend to save on rent? Also, is it against the rules of matrimony to not serve cake at a wedding? Plus on the Magnum show, Dan speaks with sexual health educator Debby Herbenick about lube and ladies and Vibrator Addiction Syndrome. Also Dan drags his older brother on to talk about how they tormented each other as children. And a lot more.
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A man receives a mysterious image of a woman's pregnant belly, accompanied by a simple message telling him he's the father. Does he have the right to ask for proof? A conversation with Jillian Keenan, whose article in the New York Times explores her obsession with spankings and how she learned to "come out" about her kink. And an update from the newly out gay kid whose family demanded he go back in the closet AND come home for the holidays. Spoiler alert: He did neither. We love holidays! But holidays can be hard! Try to have a good one. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage   Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.   Look! It's Ms. Keenan's article: Finding the Courage to Reveal a Fetish
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