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The Pain! The Pain!

Episode #665 — July 23, 2019

A woman has been dating a man for 4 months. She just read on his public blog that he thinks he isn't clicking with her. Should she admit she read his blog? Why would he write such a thing? A gay man encountered a willing slave in the bathroom at an orgy. (As one does.) It turns out this slave wants to be in a 24/7 slave/master relationship. He is also closeted, and politically conservative. Sooooo....is his masochism born out of self-hatred? How can (or should) the caller help this twisted soul? On the Magnum, Dan chats with a sex researcher who recently published a paper on how pain is transmogrified into pleasure within the context of BDSM. It's where science meets magic! And, a drunky lady is sick of her drunky boyfriend wetting the bed when he gets drunk. What could the solution possibly be? 206-302-2064
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We got PUNKED.

Episode #645 — March 5, 2019

A woman has taken up with two men. One of them is a pal, and it's all about the sex. The other one is her perfect fit emotionally, but the sex is on the "meh" side. How on earth can she choose between them? A while back we had on a guest who turned out to be a charlatan! He duped a lot of media outlets, the Lovecast included. Dan interviews the journalist from Gizmodo who outed this fraud. Crow: it's what's for dinner. On the Magnum, a woman is dating a guy who is great in every way, except! He has terrible teeth. Would it be too shallow of her to dump him over this? And, a woman still grieving over her father's death sobs when she orgasms. Is this normal?
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Ask a Fuck-Up.

Episode #605 — May 29, 2018

A woman was chilling with her male friend, you know, the way friends do, and sure, he wishes they were a couple, but she's not into him that way, so anyway, she invited him over after some drinking and masturbated in front of him, you know, the way friends do, except now things are weird? A lesbian was told by a transwoman who still has a penis that it's transphobic to not want to have sex with her. Discuss. On the Magnum, it's time for a Second Opinion! Dan chats with the newest sex advice columnist to hit the scene: Brandy Jensen from The Outline's "Ask a Fuck-Up." And, another mysterious ghosting. Where do the men go when they disappear?
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A woman went on a date, and everything went so well. Until...he disappeared without a trace. Did this man truly turn into a ghost? Dan calls her back and gets the full story. On the Magnum, for a "What You Got?" Dan chats with Kristen Mark on how to maintain sexual desire in long term relationships. And, a woman's husband suffered an injury that he is slowly recovering from. But it has wreaked havoc on their sex life. How can they get back to the good times? This "In sickness and in health" stuff is hard!
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Whoa, no way! It's Sarah Silverman!

Episode #587 — January 23, 2018

This week Dan caught up with Sarah Silverman to chat about her show "I Love You America." They also answered some callers' questions about conquering jealousy, and kids sticking things in their butts, among other things. She is a superior human and you should listen to the whole thing. A sub woman has been chatting with a dom. But he lacks experience, and he's maybe too short? How can she end it without offending him? Also, a woman just can't reclaim the inherent sexiness of her breasts after nursing her child. How can she get her boob-pleasure back? And, so, so, so much more. 206-302-2064
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The Nanny and the Handyman.

Episode #573 — October 17, 2017

A woman has been monogamous with her boyfriend for 5 years. But she really wants to fuck the Swedish handyman. Should she fuck the Swedish handyman? A white woman and her boyfriend are into the whole Japanese schoolgirl thing. Is this racist? Is it wrong? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Carsie Blanton, creator of a dirty, nasty, filthy card game that sounds really fun. Check it out at www.thefingtruth.com. And, a divorced man finds he keeps dating women who say they are down for casual relationships, but when push comes to shove, they are really playing "the long game."
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An interview with the author of "Everybody Lies."

Episode #557 — June 27, 2017

A man is just about to end his Grindr relationship with a dude whose girlfriend knows nothing of his exploits. Should he drop the info on this poor girl before he leaves town? Dan interviews Seth Davidowitz, author of "Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data and What the Internet Can Tell Us About Who We Really Are." Basically, when you look at Google searches, people are just as nasty as can be. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Viro, co-host of the furry relationship advice podcast "Feral Attraction" on furries, bestiality and fetish mis-matches. Also, what is the best way to ask the check-out girl at the CVS if she'll be your unicorn in a three-way? 206-302-2064
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The Neuroscience of Orgasm

Episode #538 — February 14, 2017

A couple tricky pregnancy situations on this show: A newly pregnant woman has discovered that her boyfriend snoops through her personal stuff with no apology. Should she dump him and embrace single motherhood? Our other pregnant woman misjudged the timing, and now has the unenviable duty of telling her current boyfriend that he is probably not the father. Bummer right? On the Magnum, Dan chats with researcher Adam Safron for a "What You Got?" about the neuroscience of female orgasm. Finally, welcome to the SIGN WARS. A liberal woman put up Hillary Clinton signs. Her right wing neighbor put up Trump signs. It escalated until the election. Now that we are where we are, should she take down her signs already? 206-302-2064
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