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With Guy Branum.

Episode #619 — September 4, 2018

A woman's mother died last year. Her dad is dating someone new. The caller and her siblings just aren't ready to welcome their dad's girlfriend into their lives, let alone include her at Christmas. The caller feels she has to choose between her siblings and her father. Tough times, these. A straight man felt slighted when a woman wouldn't give him her phone number, and in public! He feels sad and humiliated and wonders if the male ego should be given just a little more weight and protection. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Guy Branum, comedian and author of "My Life as a Goddess," about cosmetic ass surgery among other things. A woman can come easily through masturbation but can't get there with her boyfriend. Dan takes her through the steps of his hallowed technique, guaranteed to get her moaning alongside her man.
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A white man is dating an Asian man and tends to be attracted to Asian men. Does this make him a rice queen? Is it racist to be a rice queen? Can he learn to feel attraction toward other races? A straight man has a great girlfriend except for one little problem. She gives painful blowjobs with her sharp little teeth. After three long years, he's never complained. How can he explain what he likes down there? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with clinical sexologist Damian Jacob Sendler, about lethal asphyxiation. How can kinksters take the "lethal" out of that term? Are they prosecuted differently than other murderers? Yikes! And, a man with staggeringly high libido (12 times per day sounds about right to him) is in a monogamous long-term relationship. What could go wrong?
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Stop SESTA!

Episode #595 — March 20, 2018

A trans man is losing his hair and worries that he won't be able to rock the hyper-masculine bald guy look. Can you be sweet, sexy and bald all at the same time? Dogs! Sex! These two topics come together not once, but three times on this very show. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer and cultural critic Alana Massey on the misguided Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act (SESTA.) A woman's best friend has a husband who calls her a "horrible wife" and "slut" under his breath. The caller isn't quite ready to dump this so-called friend and her nasty husband because their social circles are so intertwined. Still. Being called a slut, by your friend's husband? Under his breath??!
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A sex toy to help you DO YOUR KEGELS.

Episode #585 — January 9, 2018

A man is into being tied up and pegged. But his wife finds it dull, tedious, boring and stultifying. Should he give up on the idea, or find a way to convince his wife that she could have some fun here. Oh no! More S&M trouble! A woman had a great date with a hot dom who dommed her so, so right. But now she feels nothing but shame. How can she clear out all the kink-phobia from her naughty brain? On the Magnum, our resident sex toy reviewer Erika Moen has found a toy to help you DO YOUR KEGELS. Do them now. And, can we accurately gauge how good a parent someone will be based on how they treat a cute, little puppy-dog? 206-302-2064
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Lesbians and Syrian Refugees

Episode #536 — January 31, 2017

A married Canadian lesbian is about to meet the Syrian refugees that her parents are hosting. But she worries that they will not approve of gay people. How should she present herself and her wife to these traumatized people from a different culture? A woman gets strep throat every time she gives head. What the hell? On the Magnum, a gay man's mother keeps expecting him to go back in the closet when he visits with relatives. How can he train his mother to act like a decent human being? A poly woman had kinky sex with her dom boyfriend. But the boyfriend has a wife and he tells her EVERYTHING. How can the caller maintain some privacy in her new poly world? 206-302-2064
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With brother Bill Savage and Bailey Jay.

Episode #516 — September 13, 2016

A man is seeing a woman 12 years his senior. His friends think he's nuts, but he's having a great time. Is there something wrong here? A married man has come to realize that he is poly. His wife is still as monogamous as the day she married him. How can he get her to accept his polyamorous nature and let him sleep with lots and lots of lovely ladies? Dan chats with his smarty-pants brother Bill (an associate professor of English) on the historical roots of American anti-immigrant stupidity. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with transsexual porn star Bailey Jay about how to approach a transwoman without making her feel objectified. And so much more. 206-302-2064
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With Tegan and Sara

Episode #511 — August 9, 2016

A young man living at home is getting blamed for his father's second divorce. That sounds like kind of a raw deal doesn't it? A man is in a GREAT relationship with his girlfriend. It's SO AWESOME. Except when she gets drunk and verbally abuses him. So there's that. On the Magnum, Dan chats with identical twin, queer, pop-star heart-throbs, Tegan and Sara about online dating, and what to do with that bottle of conditioner your ex left behind in the shower. A man and his wife are going through hard times. Thank goodness for Linda, his mother-in-law who is there to help. Except...she's always there! How can our caller carve out some Linda-free time to fuck his wife already? 206-302-2064
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